Have you noticed that when you reach a certain age the clock in your head starts to give hints about marriage? Is this clock biological or sometimes is it also society (like your family or friends) that ticks in your head? If anybody had told me marriage is about age when growing up, then I think I would have waited a little bit before hitting 20 and above. Unfortunately this is not how this commitment appears to function. I am not the type that is scared of ageing.
I don’t know about any of you, but I think ageing makes one wiser and confident. The song says ‘all you need is love’, and I couldn’t agree more. Some people probably started making wedding plans before hitting 20. For instance thoughts of what their wedding is going to be like, where and what age they ‘must’ settle down. I have come across many people who always relate marriage to age and got me thinking…what is this about? Who makes these rules anyway?
What happened to ‘I am in love and want to spend the rest of my life with the one I want to be the mother or father of my children. Instead of ‘I need to settle down because I am ageing’?
I try to stay away from such people to avoid the pressure of settling down because of age or for comfort. Marriage as I have understood is a union between two individuals depending on the culture. Perhaps I should get a reality check but I am sure some will agree with me that marriage and having a family is about taking a responsibility for another individual. It seems like some of us do forget this and rush into marriage for the reason of ageing. There is absolutely nothing wrong in getting married in my point of view. I still endure in the age of romance and would settle for the sake of passion, understanding and caring.
Somewhere along the process of ageing, society I reckon exerts pressure about marriage when one reaches a certain age. For instance your parent (mother) indirectly reminding you of grandchildren and so fourth? This might probably sound pointless or irrational to some of you. It is obvious that some people marry for many reasons; whether economical, religious, legal, social, love etc. Nobody can make predictions on when or whom to marry, however with a solid relationship and mutual decisions, one can definitely end up marrying the person of their choice at the right time.
What do you think of an open relationship or open marriage? Would you agree to an open relationship or suggest this to a partner?
Written & Submitted To GhanaCelebrities.Com By Mabel Korle
I agree with most of your points made but will have to disagree with your on the age aspect. Let’s get a little scientific here. Genetics tell us that the older a woman gets, the higher the risk of having a child with birth defects not forgetting that mortality rate both of the woman and child rises. Autism is a prime example of children born to women in their thirties and above. This not to say that autistic children are not born by women in their twenties. It’s just that the risk is lower.
Now on the other hand, if a woman doesn’t want to have her own children or is incline to adopt a child, then there is no reason why age or society should influence their decision to marry. The only observation I have made is that most of the time when men wants to get married, they tend to go for women in their twenties making it hard for women thirty and above harder to find a suitor.