Love & Relationship Advice: I Suspect My Man Is Cheating With Two Other Women

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Dear GC,

My name is Eve and I have been in a relationship for about 5 months now . My partner and I are preparing to get married soon I mean in about three months time.

I suspect my man is having affair with two different ladies at the same time. For some time his behaviour towards me has changed totally, I do complain a lot and we end up arguing sometimes but all he says is that he loves me very much. And that he will not do anything to hurt me but he is hurting me.

I love this guy so much but because of his behaviour my family does not like him as they use to initially. I don’t know what to do now whether I should continue with the marriage plans or cancel it.

I’m really down as am writing this mail please help me.

Dear Eve,

I am so sorry you feel heartbroken at the moment but there is a couple of questions I want to ask you that you didn’t state in your email. Do you trust this guy? And How did you find out he was cheating?

You have been with your man for five months and you feel he is cheating, I don’t know about the cheating part but I can tell you that relationships go through a number of changes, it has its ups and downs. When you start dating someone, the first few months are always the best that is what we call the honeymoon period.

When this period ends, then the problems kick off and I think that is what is happening in your relationship. Maybe your partner is not cheating perhaps he’s just not doing some of the things he use to do when you first met. He might not be giving you as much attention and that is normal, unfortunately guys tend to behave this way after a couple of months or years into a relationship. Sometimes even women also behave this way.

Speak to him, if you live together you can do this when you are about to go bed or if you don’t live together you can do it over the phone before you both go to bed. Make him understand because it’s very easy for a man to tell you he loves you just to shut you up. Make sure you say what you have to say and trust him if he says he is not cheating unless you have the proof.

If you are certain that he is really cheating then don’t go ahead with the marriage plans. Marriage is a long way, if your partner can’t control himself at this stage, then what would he do when you get married.

And one advice, its too early to get your family involved in your relationship, you don’t have to let them know of every single problem that goes on with your partner. Keep them out unless it’s something serious like abuse.

Have your facts right before taking any hasty decisions. I hope this will help, let me know how you get on.

Best of luck !

Ms. A.K  from GC XXX

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Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri, Founding Editor
Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri is the Founding Editor of GhanaCelebrities.Com , a Film Critic and a Human Rights Advocate; he holds 2 masters degrees in Law; International Human Rights Law (LL.M) and Legal Practice Course (LL.M) from University of Leicester and Nottingham Law School--and also a degree in Law (LL.B) from University of East London. He's a Professional Truth Sayer and he is the author of the popular eBook “Success is a Right, Not A Privilege.” He currently works at Fortwell Solicitors in London--where he uses his legal brains to kick real ass, for the good of clients and humanity. Contact:


  1. That’s a tough call indeed. How does she know there are two other women? Lady, 5 MONTHS is simply not good enough to get to know somebody to marry them. You are heading for disaster.

    1. @ghallday, my thoughts exactly…how da heck can u get 2 know sum1 in 5 months…I mean I know everyone is different n dat but nah if u fink he’s cheatin den dun be surprised baby gal…5 months is not long enuf 2 know sum1

  2. Hmmm, madam, 5months and you want to marry somebody?U know what, cheating is all over the place these days so if u have seen it and even know the number of people he is doing it with it, then please pause, take it easy, analize some situations, be sure of which ever ladies he is doing ti with.As to whether its very true or not.
    Ofcourse as someone said, marriage is a long way and if you dont feel comfortable with your partner, then therer is no sense in marrying them, because its def. a very long journey.

    And one mistake, your family coming into the elationship now has kind of mess certain things up.Ofcourse its too early and they might even lose some respect for him.Please, above all, if you truly love him and wants to get married to him, go on your knees and pray asking God if he is the right person and He will direct you.Good luck and dont get too worried, there is still hope.

  3. i agree with yall,how can u marry somone u have seen for only 5months?i dnt blame her cos ppl dnt take marriage serious anymore they think they can walk in nd out just like dat.

    1. @inchristalone, Yes. That respectable “institution called marriage is in danger. I have folks in my family who have been married for more than 35 to 40 yrs and more. In today’s society that is rare. 

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