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Love & Relationship: Is Marriage Still A Necessity?

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I recently came across an article on the web, detailing how divorce rates on a global scale have increased extensively. A key point that particularly stood out to me was that whilst the divorce rates across all the continents of the world were steadily increasing, the continent that saw the highest increase in divorce rates- compared to the rest of the world- was Africa, and in particular Western Africa.

Although this was not the first time I had been confronted with such issue (i.e. the rising level of divorce cases), this was the first time I had seen explicit facts detailing how much divorces are also becoming a commonplace occurrence within African societies.

Henceforth, with divorce cases rising and rising, I pose the question to readers: is it even necessary to get married nowadays, or is marriage now a complete waste of time?

Personally, I definitely do want to get married and when the time comes for me to do so, I do not want it to be for some years or so. When I stand up in a church and say “…till death do us part”, then I truly mean it. However, I am aware that sometimes, things can happen in a marriage that can change everything.

Prior to writing this article, I decided to do some brief research for further information; interestingly but perhaps not surprising, I found out that the main reason most petitioners gave for seeking a divorce was ‘Infidelity’.

I don’t know what I would do if my husband ever cheated on me- such situations are not as simple as ABC. It’s not like it’s just your boyfriend, where you could simply walk away. I feel that with a husband, there would be a deeper emotional and physical attachment.

Additionally, the situation could be complicated even further if there were children involved. There is no way on this Earth I would stand for a boyfriend cheating on me, but with regards to infidelity in marriage, I think the situation is grey as opposed to Black and White.

 

Infidelity may be the primary cause of marriage breakdowns but it definitely is not the only instigator of a divorce- what about ‘irreconcilable differences’.  I love this term because it can be likened to such a broad spectrum of issues; communication, in-laws from hell, so many things.

Sometimes, I feel like people focus too much on negative things- I have heard both good and bad stories about marriage. However, to be perfectly honest, the bad stories outweigh the good.

Yet, I refuse to let this put me off marriage because I know what a strong woman I am and I do not give up on things easily. I feel like too many people find it easy to jump on the ‘divorce’ bandwagon and see it as an easy way out, rather than taking the time to sort out any issues you may have with your spouse.

Is marriage really a necessity nowadays though or just a load of unnecessary hassle?



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8 thoughts on “Love & Relationship: Is Marriage Still A Necessity?”

  1. Regina you have raised some very vital points on this issue. On this topic marriage is still very necessary.  In society today bastards are marginalized and treated with disrespect  lots of times. Besides, society in general still respects the institution called marriage. 
        People like GIFTY ANTI on GTV who has been very much westernized thinks marriage should not be a priority in life. But I disagree with her.  

    Well done Regina. 

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    • I co-sign that. though, a lot of men and women carry plenty of baggage, marriage is still necessary or can I say it’s a choice?. Beside we are to filled kids on this earth. Ok, let me speak for my self as far as the topic is concern. Yes, I need to fill children in this world (better ones) and I ain’t talking about kids born out of wedlock or having different baby mama like some of them trick n**gas I know.

      We all know lack of faithfulness and disloyal (infidelity) is the cause of breakdown marriage and I’ve realize that women are the one to fall in deep emotional and stress when their significant partner cheat. Don’t get me wrong because I know a few good woman found it very easy to deal with their man cheating all because these women promise in front of God. These women did not go their way to kill their man nor fight the mistress….And my former college professor lady is one of those women. You’ll be shocked when hear her story. 

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      • @weapon … very well said … its very true women suffered more
        emotional stress when their husbands start to mess up .. and also not all women are good and strong to raise children alone …or not strong enough not to break the
        vow she said before God when she finds out her man is cheating ..
        since its not good for children to grow up without father these good
        women edure these stress for the sake of the children ..we all hope
        marriage becomes beautifully some yrs to come to encourage us young people to enter into into it …

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      • Weapon, Sadly that’s true. Many times if the (gh) woman cheats she would see her marriage end before she would try to apologize. But on the other hand if some men cheat the women stick around despite the pain and agony.. I wonder why that is. I do know some ladies too just like that who still stayed with their men even after finding out he is “firing” outside of his marital bed. 

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  2. It’s not  necessary for anyone, anywhere it’s  a choice many make and there are a number of legal benefits that aren’t afford to non-married couples

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  3. Women benefit from marriage a lot..we get to inherit our husbands’ properties..on a serious note,God prefers marriages to mpenatwe33..

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    • hahah yea Cici ..God prefers marriage to mapenatwe33 ..but girl i dont
      agree that nowadays all women still benifts from marriage by inheriting
      their husbands properties ..
      especially in africa where there is unjustice ..for example if the husband dies ..
      look at how some of the family members rob the women and their chilren
      of their rights and stuffs that belong to them by their father

      or if u get an ungrateful and unfaithful man ,do u thing he gonna make
      a will for to inherit his things ? hmm ,u will see he would even give to his family
      or mistress …lol so good husband is what is important for every woman ..

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    • Good point CICI. I think it is better to have married and gotten disappointed than to not have married at all. After all life is full of risks, and falling in love and (marrying) are all part of those risks.

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