Love & Relationship: Dear GC Readers’, My Fiancé Is Extra Freaky & Wants A Blowjob In Front Of A Camera Or Else…32 Comments

GC Staff
Posted on 23 Jul 2011 at 1:56pm

 

Dear GC Readers,

I’m going through something which is bothering me a lot and hope your readers can chip in a bit of advice to help me make a good decision. I am a newly engaged young woman in my mid 20’s and I’m so much in love with my man.

We are both Christians and very excited about our relationship. We are working towards a big wedding which is something I want so much.

Despite all the happiness and signs of more happiness coming my way in the future should I finally marry my fiancé, our sexual life is becoming a poison to our relationship.

My man is more than a freak and he loves to have porn movies on most times whilst we make love. He also orders me around to imitate what the women do in the movies which I have been obliging him with since we met.

However, he has been asking me to give him a blowjob and he intends to record this. He says he loves blowjobs and the cameras.

I have been telling him to give me some time and it seems he is running out of patience now. He is behaving funny and once said, if I cannot please him sexually, why should he bother marrying me since I will make his life miserable.

I love him so much and want to be with him, what should I do now? Should I accept his order as I have always done and go ahead to give him what he wants?

Selina

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Dear Selina,

This sounds poisonous indeed. As much as I know you want your man’s happiness you surely need to cater and consider your own happiness also. My concern is not so much his demands or his requests, the threats and ultimatums are probably what is your raising your anxiety.

If your man is a little more freaky than you are used to there is nothing wrong with this so long as you get to the point where you want to do what he’s asking and you are ready.

You’re going to have to be brave on this one Selina, next time he threatens you let him know that you are not marrying him based on sexual favours.

Obviously sex is important to him but you need to find a way to let him understand that you give him what he wants in bed when its comfortable for you, not when it’s forced.

Let’s See What Our Readers Have To Say Too! Guys, Please Chip In Your Advice To Help A Sister Out

All The Best

SassyChic!

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  1. +1 Vote -1 Vote +1Shammah

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    I think you should let him know that you are not comfortable with his move & I hope he understands and I will continue to pray for you. God bless you.

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  2. +4 Vote -1 Vote +1Pinto

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    Do not do it. you have been catering  to him long enough with this **** stuff. You have to be absolutely comfortable  with whatever u do with your partner. This is extreme bull**** with the camera  also. Do you want the whole world to know your business. Well that is what you are asking for if you do this. Dont lets that bull crap about marriage force you. HE sounds like a ****ing **** n u will make a mistake if you marry him.

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  3. +3 Vote -1 Vote +1Kwesi Laing

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    d guy doesn’t deserve your luv…it is ur life that will rather be miserable if u marry him.

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  4. Vote -1 Vote +1George

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    Salina,i will firstly congratulate you for a farewell decision.It’s really a tough one here and with much more careful look through this situation.It’s good is been posted here.Everyone and his or her point of view.My remedy is becareful he doesn’t lure you in the act of videoing.Your Fiancee may had been in this ****ual act maybe in his teenage stage.And had lead him tremendously unable to stop his ****ual freakishness.Dough you loved him but you have also got fundamental human right to resist such act of his.Have a clear conscience and watch such character he is showing now.What about when you get marriage.Togetherness is good.One flesh but never allow ,maybe what he has being money,car,house or whatever.All is good but there’s no peace…..wealthy things are all vanity.Try and talk to your Pastor and i hope the will be a solution through Christ who strength us amen.

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  5. Vote -1 Vote +1annie

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    lol girl if you don’t want your face splattered on **** sites on the internet, dump him fast. anyone wanting to film you in a **** act is not intending it for personal use

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  6. Vote -1 Vote +1val

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    Selina, dating basically is to find out if both of you could find a common ground to everything -- love, patient, laughter,respect ,someone whom would and could give you a shoulder in life. Take time and converse with some older folks and you will get the sense that even with love, patient, laughter, communication and respect which are key ingredients in marriage, marriage can still have rough trenches with these key ingredients much less not having these essentials ingredient at all.

    Older folks will tell you that marriage is sometimes a give and take suitation and not alway a fairytale as society seems to portary, so to speak.

    It’s seems to me that you have allowed yourself right from the beginning of your relationship, to be used as a tooth pick which I think is fair to say it’s was wrong because you and him must want to be togather,not needing to be togather.
    Have your fiancé flip the coin upside down and ask him to do what he wants you to do to him, to you and i’m sure he will vigorously say no!

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    +1 Vote -1 Vote +1Adjoa nbaaso) Reply:

    @val, U make sense papa.luv it!

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    Vote -1 Vote +1val Reply:

    @Adjoa nbaaso), Thank you and have a pleasant day.

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  7. Vote -1 Vote +1TiffanyBabe

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    Selina, did you know that he was a freak before you got engaged? Do you want sperms sprayed in your face like some thick KOKO? If not, then no blow job.

    I know most women do blowjobs and I personally do not mind but bringing a camera to film me blowjob you and spray your thick stuff all around my face like a **** is NO No for me. 

    Do not allow camera, do not accept this stupid bargain.

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    +2 Vote -1 Vote +1Adjoa nbaaso) Reply:

    @TiffanyBabe, lol! gaaaal this KOKO example is too tight…aaaabah

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    Vote -1 Vote +1fui Reply:

    @TiffanyBabe, koko paaaa

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  8. Vote -1 Vote +1sassy vixen

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    well, if you truly love him I suggest therapy for both of you. I say this ’cause he’s addicted to **** and he’s obviously not physically or mentally attracted to you, in the long run if you do marry him he could become abusive,have multiple affairs, or become unattracted to you altogether cause in his mind you’ll never be good enough, besides I don’t think you will be able to deal with his freakiness once you’re married to him. Get the therapy hun,then you’ll know what to do from there.

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  9. +4 Vote -1 Vote +1Regina Sackey-addo

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    NEVER trust anyone or anything involving a ****ual act….and a camera…that’s just bound to lead to trouble sooner than later….

    girl don’t do it…not the BJ part cause i’m all for ****ual experimentation and that BUT…why the camera…nahhh-uhhh…try and reach a compromise with him in terms of what u BOTH want ****ually…if he’s still insisting and videoing it and you ain’t comfortableable and he continues with his dutty comments…kick his **** to the curb and find someone more worthy of your love

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  10. Vote -1 Vote +1fred

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    it is not advisable to continue with him on the bases that he wants to record you on tape. My GOD that is ridiculous he might even be a sakawa person. Have you heard about the issue of Alfred Kodua who sells 15 recorded **** video for $35000. the guys are dangerous now.advise yourself and quit for it will not land you anywhere good..

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  11. Vote -1 Vote +1SILVER

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    if ur man ask u to go naked for him on camera, pls dump his ****. u love him and all that but is bull**** for him to even come up with this stupid idea. no disrespect my sister, but he is a fool to say that. dump him and move on, he’s not the only man walking on the surface of earth. this show’s that he has no damn respect for u. i just hop u dont do it, cos in the near future it will ccome back and hunt u. ur man really got some ****ing nervs.

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  12. Vote -1 Vote +1madam social

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    selina honey,  i think u made a mistake rite from the start by agreeing to watch **** movie with him. the truth is this guy is not attracted to u but rather **** stars. thats y he’s got to watch it b4 he has **** with u. honey do yourself a favor and seek help for both of u. thats if he even wants help. if not walk away and no **** with camera pls unless u want to become famous

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    +2 Vote -1 Vote +1Adjoa nbaaso) Reply:

    @madam social, haha, luv ur last statement.Famous di33 famous.This guy is def. acting funny cuz u about to marry someone u luv, why then do u want videos of bj.All I know is videos and pictures are for memories/history so he might be up to something.I soo agree with u about Selina’s mistake (agreeing to watch **** with him from the start)Men are like growing babies, u give them today and it becomes a part of them.(which turns into an attitude)

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    Vote -1 Vote +1madam social Reply:

    @Adjoa nbaaso), yes o my sista. u can say that again

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  13. Vote -1 Vote +1mackie5667

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    recording whilst you give him head is not extra freaky…extra motives perhaps?

    lots of red flags about ur dad….insistence on watching **** during **** and insistence on the acts. biggest red flag however is he saying u aren’t pleasing him ****ually if u don’t record.

    unless his cam has some unknown ****ual stimulants or aphrodisiacs u are pleasing him ****ually!

    ditch him….he’s using u.

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    Vote -1 Vote +1mackie5667 Reply:

    @mackie5667, i meant dude* not dad. typo.

    GC, time for an edit button.

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    Vote -1 Vote +1B.B Reply:

    @mackie5667, i agree with u. have been waiting for one too. 

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  14. +1 Vote -1 Vote +1mow

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    Selina u say the 2 of u r christians, if u truly r then u shd knw dat ur act is wrong. engaging in **** when u not married, the other thing is dat ur man is not even close to a christian cos **** is wrng in the eyes of God. im glad for u tho dat u knw the kind of person u involved with. truth is pls dnt get involved, leave asap n seek God well cos he is not ur Adam.

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  15. +3 Vote -1 Vote +1Adjoa nbaaso)

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    So why r some men being so bossy?Why cant u understand this woman’s point of view.This is something She has never been use to so y cant u simply understand.Ok, so what next after the blow job infront of cameras?I guess **** would be recorded rite?Dammn, this doesn’t make sense.I thought making love needed full concentration so why this divided attention. Selina, u aint aspiring to be a **** star so ur fiance needs to stop this “watch and learn game” Anyway, my advice to u is, sit him down, explain to him how u feel and if he really luvs u, he would understand.Afterall, not everyone was born a freak.Also, remeber to take it into prayers.

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  16. +1 Vote -1 Vote +1ThickMama

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    Kai!! red alert!!…vacate ASAP..!!…hes crossed d line diving sanity..unless u wnt to be UNhappy which u dnt DESERVE …WALK AWAY..i beg u..

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  17. Vote -1 Vote +1Yao

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    Selina, ‘DONT DO IT’. Know dis, no 1 can please a man n ur man knows dat. Let him know dat people in the movies he sees are professionals. From what you wrote, it seems to me that he knows you love him too much. That is the nature of some men. Again he seems to know you so very much that he will do what you like this ‘big’ wedding u so crave for. Remember that a person who loves you will not make such statements continuously. Shine your eyes and know what he really wants with you. Camera? No way!

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  18. Vote -1 Vote +1Akwasi

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    Selina pls kindly giv me ur BF number n let me put maturity,common sense in his brain.peoples ar lokin 4 girls lyk this to married n this freaky waste product is wastin de humble girl time.REMEMBER WHAT HAPPEN AT BEKWAI recently

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    Vote -1 Vote +1Opanin Reply:

    @Akwasi, are u sure it’s jst to put sense into his brain or u want to give him the blow job yourself?????eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeish

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  19. Vote -1 Vote +1charity

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    Dont agree to that

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  20. Vote -1 Vote +1Opanin

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    dis is something dat i think abt sometimes…if u film urself and ur woman engaged in any romantic stuff….wht is dat supposed to do???i knw ppl will say u’ll watch it later……fine but why do u need a film when the person is der to provide the original everytime u need it?? it’s fine if both want to do dat but it’s totally outrageous.

    my dear i wont advice u to get involved in any filming business either with ur fiance or even ur husband..this video later becomes the cause of trouble mostly for the lady when the relationship falls on rocks….

    tell him u can be his nurse,gladiator,boxer,nun but u’ll not get filmed doin it….tell him dat if he also loves u and cares abt u, he’ll tak ur concerns to heart.if he insists den i’m sori, he’s no gud.

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  21. +2 Vote -1 Vote +1Excellence

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    first of all i only read the first 2 paragraph the rest i do not wana know..this is my reason, u claim you and ur fiance are Christian, do you actually understand what that word ”christian” mean? well if you do not know it means ‘Christ-like” You must imitate Christ in everything you do. As a christian you cannot entertain ****ography in you relationship..it is something that God hates..here you are with a so called christian ****grapgy man and you wonder why he wants a BJ. your foundation in this relationship is not strong my dear..you need to do some serious fasting and praying before you go into that marriage. or else you will be become the ****star for your future husby.you need to be bold and speak to him seriously if he claims he loves you plus he needs deliverance paaa..hope this helps..all the best

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  22. Vote -1 Vote +1Johnson

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    You sound like a prude, whatever you won’t do another woman will. Don’t complain when your man cheats on you

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  23. Vote -1 Vote +1Churcher

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    Selina,first of all you are wrong by practising ****ual relationship whiles being a christian before marriage.Remember that you are not married to him yet so don’t accept any ****ual affair with him on camera,a guy betrayed her seriouse fiance on campus by exposing their **** vidoes to his friends.He shouldn’t be taking advantage of you because you love her so much.Discuss thoroughly with him what your limits are and he should respect them if he truely loves you.

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