I saw something I wish I hadn’t and its causing me so much stress. The burden of keeping this secret is really killing me. I have been friends with a guy since we were very young, our families know each other so really we are like family.
When he met his wife I thought our relationship would change but it didn’t If anything, I’m closer to his wife now than I with him . He has now landed me with the burden of telling the truth of his infidelity.
I recently went on holiday with my boyfriend in Belgium for a long weekend and was so shocked and upset when I saw my friend with another woman and a baby.
He had told us all at home he was on a business trip in New York and so this catch up on him is just too much for me! He confessed that he has been with this woman for three years and she know’s he’s married but has accpted this and as the two women live apart no one gets hurt.
I could not believe what I was hearing. He begged me to keep quiet but when I shouted at him he became so defensive and said I should do what I want and he will deny the whole thing. This is not the man I grew up with and looked up to.
I feel so betrayed and it feels like he has fooled me! My partner said I should mind my own busines but since its happened I’ve spoken to his wife twice and she suspects nothing. Though she has noticed a changed in my mood and has asked me to come and tell her what is on my mind.
She’s so dedicated and comitted to my friend. He has since called me from Belgium and apologized and asked me not to say anything and he will tell her later. The worst part is I told his older brother and he said he already knows and he is keeping out of it.
Everyone seems to be keeping out of this disaster and telling me to do the same. I’m meant to visit his wife this weekend. I have not told a soul as we share too many people in common so that is where I am now stuck.
Dear GC Reader,
The burden of this truth appears to be causing you more stress than it should and you have only known it for a short while. How will you feel when (and it will ) all comes out and she finds out you knew.
Let him know categorically that if he does not tell her the truth then you will have to take his wife on a little trip to Belgium. Very harsh, but that is the truth!
Hope this helps
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