THE BIG DEBATE: Would You Marry For Love Or Money69 Comments

GC Staff
Posted on 13 Sep 2012 at 4:31pm

I was recently in the presence of my friends and some colleagues from work, mind you we were only girls and the conversation naturally turned to relationships and marriage.

Somewhere over the course of the conversation this question crept its way into it. Majority of the girls, in fact ninety nine percent, opted for love and when it got to my turn I opted for money.

For some reason I don’t know why my revelation was a big bolt from the blue to my friends, after all, people get married for  various reasons.

Now, I know some of you GhanaCelebrities.Com readers have already tagged me the biggest gold digger on this side of Africa but I do not care. That would still not change my beliefs about marrying for money in the slightest bit. And yes, I have a conscience and good reasons for choosing money over love.

Let us be real here, no one goes into marriage thinking that love alone will sustain it. Wealth is very important in any relationship.

When you have financial problems, you are most likely to fight with your spouse or partner. So you see even those so-called suckers for love consider the money factor before they walk down that proverbial aisle.

So what is the point in holding it against one who settles for money over love.  What makes my choice any stranger than theirs?

My mother once told me “Smart women think more about the long run than the short term. Marriage is a long-term investment” and you definitely need to make that long term worth your while.

This assertion does have a true undertone to it.  Many young people rush into marriage these days with the notion that love will conquer it all. But that is an erroneous belief.

The divorce rate tells it all. Love fades, sex stops or greatly diminishes for most people eventually, and romance goes by the wayside (short run). Even the economic meltdown today can conquer the love that you both once shared.

However if you have the money you can have it all, the love and the happiness. Hell, even the sex gets better if you are most comfortable.

I do believe you have to at least like the person you are marrying and yes, all that may be replaced by a sense of comfort as opposed to that lusty feeling or affection you had with your partner at the beginning.

But for women especially as we get older, we would want to always buy our happiness through trips, outside activities, etc if we have the financial stability and money.

So you see the assertion holds true,  smart women or people know that they need to invest their lives wisely.

At this stage, I know you are still not buying into my money talk and would rather stick to your own opinions or beliefs but that is ok, I will still leave you with five reasons why I think money is a better option or reason to marry.

Here are those five reasons for you to mull over:

  1. If you have good amount of money then you can enjoy your life to the fullest without having to worry about anything and you can also afford the luxuries of life.
  2. You can pay bills and afford to pay your children’s fees. It is important to invest in your children’s future as well.
  3. You  are assured of a fight free relationship with your spouse
  4. You can get a healthy lifestyle and enjoy the best medical service.
  5. You would be able to maintain a good life ahead and you can do whatever you wish to do and achieve your dreams. As 50 cent said, when you are broke, love will not get you on the damn bus.

In a nutshell, I think all these and more will eventually make your marriage a happy and successful one. Nevertheless, if you do not have the money then in the long run your marriage will be an unpleasant one for you. It is very likely that you will then join the sky rocking divorce train.

Anyway, this is only my opinion but I will still like to hear your valued opinions on this. Would you marry for love or the money?




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  • B.B

    BOTH!

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    @B.B,Medaase..U took it out of my mouth.It goes hand in hand.

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  • Frog

    I was having a chat lady neighbour of mine and she said the same thing so am not suprised.Sadly we live in a world where ideals are for yawa ppl and power(money) is all that rules.The points u raised above are for physical happiness and not TRUE happiness and I think a smart woman shd have known that.

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    Dr Miyagi Reply:

    @Frog,you make a good point but what would you do in your situation

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  • http://hotmail maame

    i am in that kind of situation now, the man in medical school is very rich, he feel he knows everything and he tries to controle my life, but the other guy he does not have much be he loves me, treats me well and always gives me a reason to laugh, but i am very certain i will marry the guy who does not have much, because i really really love him.

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    Khloe Reply:

    @maame, u go gal!!!!!!

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Go for it your making the right decission@maame,

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    Nanaama Reply:

    @maame, Medical professionals dont respect women, trust me they will talk to you any how, i have been there and i know for sure…stick with the one that treats you like a queen.

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  • http://www.ghanavilage.com Joseph Midnight

    Always marry for the money. Love is overrated.

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    lola Reply:

    @Joseph Midnight, Thank you

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  • jessi

    both,odo kakra sika kakra

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    lola Reply:

    @jessi, Saa. I like that

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    B.B Reply:

    @jessi, thats what am saying. it’s got to be both. odo kakra sika kakra.

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  • Dr Miyagi

    good article now we can finally catch the gold diggers on GC LOl. Money is a nothing but a temporary motivator. Soon after marrying for money, you will find yourself looking for the “bigger motivator” as the funds dwindle down to mere dust in the wind, or as you suddenly find discontent with your current lifestyle and standard of living. Better marry for love or dont marry at all ’cause if you do it right, that love well wont ever run dry. A lot of people show to much importance to money, it’s just piece of paper, sure you can trade it with others stuff, but it will always be superficials things. Love is much more deeper, complicated and yet important. ”you would learn to love the rich guy” I dont think you can learn to truly love someone, you would just love his money and the so called comfort it give you. money is important for stability, however if there is no love then marriage is pointless.

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    @Dr Miyagi, Luv it…

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  • Constance

    Well this is a very interesting topic and 4 me I would consider Love. In as much as Money plays a very essential role in marriage LOVE also do as well. I stand by this because after all the Gifts,Trips,Expensive House and Cars and you don’t feel anything for the man then you are sure you did be in hell rather, because Marriage is a long lasting affair and as such must be taking with all the seriously it deserves. After marrying for all the cash and no love gosh you will never be happy spending those cash at a certain point trust me. For instance you marry a guy that has it all and don’t pay that needed attention to you would be happy? NO. So for a substantial marriage I will say BOTH is needed,but LOVE should be vitally considered in deciding WHOM I want to spend the rest of my BEAUTIFUL LIFE WITH…BECAUSE MARRIAGE GOES BEYOND PHYSICALS NEEDS LOL

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  • nat

    i will definately marry for the MONEY. i stopped that dabi dabi ebeyie ages ago. i will do 10% love and 90% CASH.

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    lola Reply:

    @nat, good you are my guy.

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    nat Reply:

    @lola, i am a gal

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    LooooOl let me. Change it to my girl@nat,

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    lola Reply:

    @nat, sorry oo.I thought as much

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Lol my guy will the money make you cum becareful or these girls will run over you and use you@nat,

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    Dr Miyagi Reply:

    @nat,and do you think that will make you happy

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  • Terminator

    Don’t worry , We men also marry for beauty too.So girl,make sure you very hot and sexy with a little body too.

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    Dr Miyagi Reply:

    @Terminator,did you read the topic?

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    abena Reply:

    @Dr Miyagi, lol i think what terminator is trying to say is that if you are a girl and wants to marry a rich girl then u should have the beauty coz rich men likes beautiful girls. Or i’m i wrong? :)

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    abena Reply:

    @abena,

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    abena Reply:

    @abena, i meant rich guy

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Lol I hope so cause he is totally lost@abena,

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    Terminator Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, You so dumb. Abena is smarter than you.
    Its sarcasm. 

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Dude you call yourself “Terminator” write something that has nothing to do with the topic and you got all the guts to insult me loool you see how I am laughing yeah means I will let you off on this one and make you enjoy your happy childish moment okay if you call that smart than you got a long way to go I assume that your not half blind and that you can read right there is a reason why she put “I think” over there its called “guessing”. So do come back when your brians function again right@Terminator,

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    lola Reply:

    @Terminator, you too cease fire. let it be. Now lets go back to eating our banku, pepper and fish

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    lola Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, cease fire. He begs

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    Terminator Reply:

    lol@dis boy getting so emotional cuz i said abena is smarter than him.
    You be up on this website 24/7 to prove yourself to people and vying for attention.
    Low self esteem is such a bitch.@Dr. Miyagi

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    @Terminator,what makes you think I’m getting emotional? cause now your changing the topic again, since you don’t have anything good to say I will leave you in your lane cause for you to jump from one thing to the another shows already who you are

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    lola Reply:

    @Dr Miyagi, cease fire ooo…

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Loool yes madam lola @lola,

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  • http://www.ghanacelebrities.com abigail

    gals lets consider luv first bcus luv overpasses everything.all other matters are secondary.

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    Dr Miyagi Reply:

    @abigail,good one girl

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  • s3m3nhyia

    You are shallow! and lazy.work hard and make your own money. Wealth is not a sexually transmitted disease,u don’t get money by sleeping with a rich man.Any man who realises that you are in it for the money will treat you like sh*t.why? Because,you are cheap and he bought you.Get some values my dear.

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    Dr Miyagi Reply:

    @s3m3nhyia,well spoken

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  • jsexy

    i will go for money because i ve never been in luv and so i don’t know if it exist… But money,, am sure it exist so, i wld rather chase what i can see!!

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    lola Reply:

    @jsexy, way to go girl

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    jsexy Reply:

    @lola, sika y3 mogya, menua!!!!

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  • sarah

    I WILL GO FOR MONEY. The reason why is ive always given my heart and soul in all my previous relationships. but most of them times ive been asked money several times. coming with stories saying it will be ok it wont be like this forever bla bla i love you stick by me, and eventualy what did i get in return headaches. now i just want a man who can provide enough for me.

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    lola Reply:

    @sarah, yes honey is time to change the game. go for the money,babe!

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    jessi Reply:

    @lola, yeah,i mean can you imagine someone like menaye donkor with a guy like muntari if he was like a gateman? or Nadia with essien if he was like a shoe shine boy?please lets be real here because in this 21 century there is nothing like love without some cash around to spend.

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    Capito Reply:

    @jessi, you see oo…

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    lola Reply:

    @jessi,you are so right. Can’t imagine

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  • Enow

    Many youths today prefer to marry bcos of money than for love.There is an alarming rate of such cases that’s why Global marriages now do not last.Young females are now interested in money.My point of view here is that Money or wealth is not love.weather wealthy or moderate love must still prevail.

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    lola Reply:

    @Enow, what is global marriage I beg explain

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    Constance Reply:

    @lola, lol ur question is jus rib cracking u knw…im dying wit laughter

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    lola Reply:

    @Constance, I am wondering oo is there an inside joke. let me in on it oo. Global marriage, educate a sista

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    sarah Reply:

    @lola, my sista tell him global marriage my ass. do you know how many broke men are out there and making babies only for them to be a burden a woman. women are not suppose to suffer in the name of socalled love.

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    lola Reply:

    @sarah, Preach!

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    Prakesey Reply:

    Guys, all those who are saying they will chose love, just asking oo are you sure you will be able to see love when you see it.

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  • Debby

    Lola this is very controversial,but i’ll lyk 2 know,wil all thoz who prefer 90% of luv b true to their partners when they bgin to face real hard financial situations?Its no big sin marrying some rich guy thou but d truth is i’ll never make 90% luv out of marriage nor vice versa but rather 50-50. Not 4 my ownsef interest but 4 my kids. As a young lady i happen 2 find myself in this ”no money affair” kind of family,its sad. U’ll hav 2 somtyms strugle, beg nd even borow b4 u get somtng important u need. Even now i’m in dire need of assistance so gal is 50-50 or no marriage at all. I dont want ma kids 2 suffa lyk me…..

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    Prakesey Reply:

    @Debby, reflecting on wil all thoz who prefer 90% of luv b true to their partners when they bgin to face real hard financial situations?

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    lola Reply:

    @Debby, well said

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    You did agree with Nat that you would go for the money my question to you is why? Or have you been in a bad relationship before? And how happy would you be if you marry for money? What difference would that make for you@lola,

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    lola Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, I will go for money because once upon time I too believed in love, I treated the man like a King , gave him is timeout with the boys, picked up the bill when we went out sometimes but he treated me like trash anyway. I have learnt my lesson and have told myself that I will never go into any relationship or marriage because of love.So it’s all about the money for me ooo

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    I do understand where your coming from and where you want to be but on the otherside its seems like one man your boxing all man into same corner which I don’t blame you at all cause its a common thing that happens to everybody including me so we all been there but I assume that your still young and got a long way to go and that you don’t need to rush in life or have that kind of thinking in your mind have you ever thought about you being succesful and be wealthy as well instead of marrying someone with money divorce in few years or so and losse everything cause that will be a bigger blow to you than @lola,

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  • http://yahoo.com Martin Asante

    I will like to say that we should not depend too much on money as far as marriage is concern,though it plays major role in the marriage and we should let love conqurre all things.

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    lola Reply:

    @Martin Asante, let love conquer it all, in what world

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    Ball so hard miss dior Reply:

    @lola, lol sika ye mogya lol, i aint saying am a gold digger but i aint messing with no broke dude, love is good and all but its so overrated. For me love has to be like 35% n money 65%, yeah no broke dude around here

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Totally agree, cause money won’t buy happiness give a miserable person a million and it’ll just become expensive misery@Martin Asante,

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  • twinkles

    money can be made out of ones hard work. Women can make their own money but can never make their own love. You don’t need a good work or higher education to get love. You only need the right person who is ready to protect and provide your emotional needs, since healthy emotions are the backbone of a successful person.
    Remember loneliness kills and you will bare with me that money and things it buys can never keep you money and give you companionship like lovely man can give you. That man you loved for money will use his entire time chasing money to please you and as a married woman, it might not be courteous to fine happiness anywhere, that is where the had I known becomes a daily statement. Never sacrifice your eternal joy for money and loneliness for it kills. For this reason, the richest women are either married or are going out with younger guys in the expense of their so called rich men even though they may be married to them due to the lack of time they get from the rich men. Think twice else you will join the candidate of extra marital women who claim to have all things yet chase the young guys.

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    Afrak Reply:

    Well said@twinkles,

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  • IkhwanOnline

    Money + Stunning Body

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