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HIV Testing Before Marriage…What Is Your Take?

Sassy Chic
Posted on 19 Sep 2012 at 6:02pm
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Worried Woman

I have been thinking about this issue so hard I believe I burst a blood vessel while writing this.

It isn’t much of a culture in Ghana for partners to test each others HIV and other health status before marriage. Although many churches encourage it these days it is still relatively not an important factor people consider before settling.

I have never heard a bride or groom say he/she wants his partner to have a health test before they get hitched. Perhaps they are always too caught up in the euphoria of the moment, the stress of planning and the surprising discoveries of settling down.

But when you listen to real life stories and realize how easily and quickly HIV spreads among several people within a matter of a few days and sometimes even minutes, it is hard to keep pushing such an important issue to the curb.

So I ask you dear readers, have you ever asked your partner for an HIV test? Or would you do so before marriage? Have you ever really thought about bringing up such a discussion with the man/woman you love? Have you even on your own walked into a health centre for testing before?

Even before marriage, most people in relationships expose themselves to several health risks

The statistic of HIV infection rate was estimated in a survey to be 3.6 percent in 2009, and likely to rise to 4.0 percent in 2014 all things being equal.  HIV has steadily become a major epidemic.

People are estimated to be infected daily in Ghana.

Besides HIV, there are several other health risks involved in intimate commitment between two people.

How are you making sure that you and your partner are protected and not exposing each other to preventable health risks?


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  • 27calibre (O_0)

    i dont think it right to test before marriage ,it not love when a Man or Woman ask his or her partner to test before mariage,by the way and if yes the other partner have it WHAT NEXT ???

    IT JUST NOT RIGHT

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    B.B Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0),  really??? i disagree with you. its good to know then you can take the necessary action, like getting medical help, counselling etc. and if the person really loves you he/she will be by your side. 

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @B.B, SO for example if your man or woman have it what will you do ? are you going to marry him or the other way ???

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    Esther Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), I also disagree with you. My best friend is hiv positive. She knew her status and felt devastated and even thought she’d never have a child or marry. But by God’s grace she is now married and just gave birth to a bouncing baby boy.I’m still single by the way (lol). Her husband accepted her as she is. and with medical counselling, they found out that if she takes her drugs, her viral load comes very down (to prevent infecting her husband) and they use condoms too. Except when they wanted to have their son but her viral load was down so her hubby wasn’t infected (he also tested later). You see, true love is not running away from facts or an hiv test. it’s doing the test but accepting your partner and living with him/ her whatever the result.

    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Esther, MY sister i do agree with you but ,i was just basing on ,if the other partner have it will it prevent the love for each other? if not then it not soo important ,cos if my partner have it or not i will marry her, before the test or something else:

    Esther Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), I understand you. But the thing is that you need to test so that it would help you protect yourselves. If your partner has hiv, it’s good to test and know so that you’ll encourage him/ her to take the medicine and also use condoms to prevent you from being infected and to make sure you give birth to healthy babies. Because my friend and her husband knew that she was hiv positive, they were able to use protection and she also took medicine to make her strong and prevent her infecting her children. I hope you get me?

    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), i get you but ,you dont have to base on only when you want to get married lol,
    it beter you do it not because you are getting married .

    B.B Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), i dont think i will go on to marry the person. and am being very honest (it’s not like am selfish though). but yeah, i will remain good friends with him but cant get intimate with him. that’s why there’s a need to find those information out as soon as one start dating.

    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @B.B, ahahhaaha you see where this test is getting to ,any way thank you for saying the truth noo one will have the courage to say what you just said .

    well you said NO just because your partner to be is positive (AIDS),can you ask yourself did i think about love before i was about to marry him?

    and am very sure you will divorce if you find out that your partner have it as well (:

    REMEMBER BEFORE THAT YOU WAS ABOUT TO SAY FOR BETTER FOR WORSE FOR YOUR PARTNER TO BE LOL(:

    IN SILENCE ……is this love ??????

    Esther Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), yeah, once again i get your point, it’s better to get tested once you decide to have sex with anyone. my boyfriend and i got tested and i get tested every 6 months. i just did a test last 3 weeks. it’s very simple, i go to a ppag center (in accra) and do it. maybe i’m more concerned about doing all this because my best friend is hiv postive so it’s very real to me. the truth is that a lot of men/ women would decide not to date you if you have hiv but it’s the same if you have any other disability people discriminate against you. i have a disability and it has not been easy for me but eventually, i’ve met someone i love and we’re planning to get married. so if a person has hiv, that doesnt mean that he/ she would not find a husband or wife. through my friend, i’ve come to meet a few other women who are hiv positive and are happily married with children after they found out about their status and told their partners. so if someone truly loves you and is your God-given husband/ wife, he or she will stay with you no matter what problems you have. thank you.

    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Esther (O_0), i do agree with you as well it better to test not only when one is getting married

    GC Staff Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), So you had rather get infected with a deadly disease just to prove your love? That’s a destructive way of loving. Love encourages you to live to enjoy the fruit of your labor not to endanger your life.

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @GC Staff, please dont fall inlove for the sake of money or because your partner dont have AIDS or something else,i tell you thats not love ….falling inlove with some one who does not love you is a cancer it will show NO MATTER WHAT !

    IS BETTER TO BE SINGLE THAN TO FALL INLOVE WITH THE WRONG PERSON (:

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    GC Staff. Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), 

    GC Staff. Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), I am not talking about what people should fall in love for. The emphasis is on self protection and knowing your status. If you love somebody, you will definitely want to protect them health-wise. It is not a money or wrong person issue. You think people with money do not HIV? Poor or rich, in my opinion, you should be concerned enough to want to know your partner’s status. That simple.

    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @GC Staff., you have to test it not because you want to marry someone after you have been using yourself or thinking your partner has been using himself lol….just dont do it for marriage sake ,do it in your normal life and before you are dating ,not when you are getting marrid lol,what you guys wrote was basing on marriage sake.

    you guys have to let us know is good to do the test not because of marriage !!!!

    hajja497@live.com Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0),

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  • B.B

    It’s the best thing to do! And believe me, its not just HIV, there are a whole lot of other STDs  to consider and this shouldn’t be done only before marriage. You should do that as soon as you start dating and especially when you know you wanna get it in with the person ASAP.

    I dont believe in this marriage before sex, so yeah, i always made sure things were ok in that area so that i can get it in with the person the soonest  :P

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  • Dr Miyagi

    Yes of course. People who are going to be with someone for the rest of their lives need to know if they have HIV. Even if someone doesn’t believe they need a test, what do they have to lose? I think you should get tested for everything possible that could affect your future spouse and kids Even when your dating someone especially those Horny boys out there that, that think they can play every single girl out there doing it unprotected etc its about time you your snake in your pants and either stick to one person or no one at all

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    GC Staff Reply:

    @Dr Miyagi, Hahaha, Dr. Miyagi is always right. Good one.

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Lol thank my dear@GC Staff,

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    nana ama Reply:

    @Dr Miyagi, very true….. is bst w do test even before counselling.

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  • http://hotmail maame

    i do belive in getting tested be4 getting married, we both got tested, for HIV and sickle cell, and we are not married yet, its just a mutual agreement, if you love each other, u will protect each other and yes we will get tested for HIV again before we say our I DOs.

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    Rocklyn Love Reply:

    @maame, hahahahaha u funny maame…..

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  • Akata

    I think it is a good idea to test before marriage, my former church in Ghana after your councelling you go for HIV and sickle cell test before you get married the test have to show negative..I think it has help a lot of people.

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  • Rocklyn Love

    I think its good idea… but not every1 will agree to go for the test…. this days alot of people r affected with the disease and they keep on spreading it to innocent ppl out der……… i Knw 1 gurl in ma hood whom got affected thru 1 elderly man… she was just 17 yrs old buh now 22….. come n see de numbers of men n boys she is hanging out with…?? and she said som1 told her that if she continue to sleep with the younger boys her disease gonna reduce… dis is very bad….. my man n i will av a test be4 marriage… besides we go for test every 4 months…..

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Rocklyn Love, every four month??? ,my sister so are you going to test it in your whole life ,what you have to do is just becarefull in your life as well as your husband ,i can see a fear in your heart and and in your eyes,dont live with fear, just let your mind and your heart be free ….cos i dont think you will test every four month in your whole life time as you say.

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    Rocklyn Love Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), Lol yooo mati….God is in control… thnxxx anyway

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Rocklyn Love, you are welcome sister and happy life for you and your husband to be(:

  • `madam social

    i m very impress with esther’s story. i m glad they r pple out taking the necessary steps to prevent the disease.

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