READERS’ MAIL: I Had A Fling With A Girl I Met On The First Day & Now She’s Telling Me, She’s Pregnant After 5 Months. Should I Accept The Pregnancy?12 Comments

Chris-Vincent A. Febiri
Posted on 11 Oct 2012 at 10:31am

Hello Chris-Vincent,

I’m writing to you so you can post it for GhanaCelebrities.Com readers to help me decide on what best I need to do. Let me make it brief for readers understanding.

I’m in a serious dilemma now and I urgently need help on the decision I am about to make. I recently had a fling with one lady I met in town. It was not actually love at first sight; it was rather lust at first sight.

Things started going on well and fast in the same day, I managed to convince her to follow me to a hotel and we had several rounds of sex without protection.

We parted ways shortly after but then recently she called me and what she told me has been a dilemma since. She said she was pregnant for 5 months and I’m responsible.

I didn’t doubt her because we didn’t use a condom so I might be responsible. However the problem is that, why didn’t she tell me when she realized she was pregnant immediately and now telling me after 5 months?

I tried to speak to couple of my male friends. Some made fun of me saying she’s giving it to me because other guys have refused to take responsibility of it.

I’m thinking of accepting it but I’m confused now. Even if I will accept it, I will give her conditions like if she gives birth, we will do a DNA test to ascertain if am responsible and if it comes out that I’m not the one, I will sue the hell out of her.

Please advise me now.

From a confused and anonymous man in Accra/Ghana

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  • Dr miyagi

    Dude I’m happy you used the word “confused person” cause you sound really confused. You met a girl and decided to sleep with her raw are you that dumb or was it your first time sleeping with a girl or was it pure greed. It’s either you flashed cash on her or did something to make her come back for revenge. You stated that you both parted your ways and she needed to be sure who she slept with 5 months ago and yeah it could have been you or someone else. but now most things are pointing at you, so bro you shouldn’t be worried at all cause you made a dumb move to sleep unprotected in the first place not once but on a few occasions what where you thinking at that time?what you could do is something called “amniocentesis”. I have ti say it can be risky as they are putting a hollow needle into her uterus to obtain her baby’s d.n.a. There are safer methods but are costly and this method is most common. I suggest you wait until the baby is born to test because it will be safer for the baby and Her. Just a cotton swab to the mouth versus the latter. And about suing her is that suppose to be a joke after putting your keys into her ignition. Snap out of your dream world dude you don’t have a case at all 

    Good luck 

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    nana aba Reply:

    @Dr miyagi, hahahahahhahaa Dr. Miyagi, after reading the confused young man’s story, the first name/person who came in mind to give him the right answer n put him at his rightful position was u and lo and behold u were indeed the first person to comment n put him at his rightful position; i agree with u bro

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    @nana aba,Hahahhahaha lol

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    Eaglebabe Reply:

    @Dr miyagi, hahahahahahahaaaaa u got laughing like crazy dude… but on a more serious note, how could he have done that??? sleeping with a girl u just met on the same night severally without protection??? eeeeeiiiiiii!!!! Adzen??? Massa, like u said, u are really confused!! and forget about the suing matter, maybe u might not need to because after the DNA, if the baby turns out to be yours, ur a s s will be very hot……hahahahaaaa lol, by their works they shall be known…i think this situation will be a rehab to cure you of your one deadly one-night stands….

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    @Eaglebabe,gehehehe chris should name and shame this confused person the baby is not even born ent 
    And he is already thing of suing her confused.com paaa

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  • Akata

    I think you should accept it and be there for her, accord her all necessary help she might need, when she has given birth you can do the DNA, but I tell you only mothers know the father…….All the best of luck next time please be wise and use condom…

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  • Akua

    Well well well, be thankful she called you back to say she is pregnant, and not infected with STD. You should be careful about sleeping around like that especially without protection. STD’s are real please! Yes, it could be the pregnancy is yours or not, but you can’t tell until a DNA test has been conducted. So for now, don’t deny the pregnancy because you acknowledged being intimate with her several times on that night. Just let her know that you will do the test and leave it that. She may fight you on that, but you have to try and convince her as to why it has to be done. I wish you all the best and be careful next time.

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  • jessi

    You mean you had sex with a girl on the same day you met her and you didnt use a condom?aah but you paa,anyway if the age of the pregnancy is not older or younger than the period in which you guys did it,then its should be you and i will add to what akata has said,that only the mother knows the father of her child.But if you have doubts,then there is what we call DNA and the good news is that this time,you dont even need to wait till the child is born before you know if its yours or not,a test can be conducted even now in the pregnancy to prove if you are the father or not, So goodluck.

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    nana aba Reply:

    @jessi, ask him again ooo my sister

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  • jsexy

    I think u ve answered urself, accept it and go for DNA after delivery. Next time use a condom pleeeeeeeeease!!!!! u saw a woman and had sex with her the same day, haba!! dem curse u? abi u chop winch!! zip up next time.

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  • nana aba

    hahahahahhahaa Dr. Miyagi, after reading the confused young man’s story, the first name/person who came in mind to give him the right answer n put him at his rightful position was u and lo and behold u were indeed the first person to comment n put him at his rightful position; i agree with u bro

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  • B.B

    hmmmm some people dont fear anything.  I will suggest you discuss with her the need to take a paternity test, i guess thats the best way to know if its yours or not.

    I hope you have learnt from your mistakes. Next time WRAP IT UP.

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