Motivational Message Of The Week: How To Become Anger Free… Overcoming Anger

Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, hostility or displeasure towards a person(s), a thing or even a situation. Though anger can be used as a healthy response to a threat and for other constructive purposes, on many occasions, it does get the better side of us-putting us into undesirable situations or troubles.

Getting angry is normal (it is human). However, overcoming or controlling anger is what most of us lack and that is where the problem is…Being anger free is a desirable option and this entails being able to control when and for how long you get angry.

I am sure you have heard the old story of a conversation that took place between a peaceful Master and a disciple.

After having been with his master for years and having noticed how his Master deals with situations and people, the disciple asked the master “how do you keep calm and anger free even when grossly provoked and pushed”.

The peaceful Master looked at the disciple and said “When you are hungry, eat; when you are tired, sleep.”

What? …The disciple who was unpleased with the answer said “isn’t that what everyone does anyway?”

The Master replied “No…Most people entertain a thousand desires when they eat and scheme over a thousand plans when they sleep. Their mind is dispersed, it’s all over”.

The above shows that, to be at peace with others, you must be at peace with yourself first. You must be able to control your mind and calm it to focus when needed.

When anger sets in, we act without thinking, we insult and we shout without being mindful. Such practices tell us that, in times of anger, we lose who we are, we lose control of our minds and let the anger take over our rational existence. Have you ever recorded yourself when angry to hear how you sound? You will be disgusted with the play back. And you won’t believe that was you!

For us to overcome anger or be anger free, we must be able to restrict our minds to concentrate and be mindful.

Being mindful is a strong antidote to anger. When you are mindful, you would be able to give yourself a quick pause and reflect on your soon to take action (controlling inner energy), even in times of despair…CONTINUE READING FROM HERE

By: Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri/www.TopVincent.Com

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Dr. Miyagi says:

Anger comes out as a response to feelings of dissatisfaction, frustration and unhappiness, which usually arise when we dislike a person, an object or a situation. It usually appears when we are unable to fulfil our wishes and desires, or when we are forced to do something we dislike doing or we would better avoid. In such situations, the mind reacts by feeling unhappy and stressed, which leads to anger.

I believe that the best way to avoid anger is to develop the habit of peace of mind. This of course needs some training and time, but is most worthwhile. Positive thinking, detachment, concentration and meditation, all lead to peace of mind.

Maame Yaa says:

@Dr. Miyagi, The moment I saw your comment, I knew it wasn’t your idea because the English is too good and very coherent. I took your comment to turn-it-in to check for plagiarism and boom…!!! It’s a word to word plagiarism.Ideas are very expensive and credits must be given accordingly. Stop stealing ideas please…!!! This was uprooted from this link;

realmummy says:

Good article. perfect way to start my day. God bles u my dear. Anger I always tell those around me is very deadly and sometimes the consequences is more than even what caused the anger.

Bt Chris oh!!!! what abt the competition to get a copy of ur book. I haven’t seen the results here oh. Beta update me so that i know if i won or not. Otherwise let me start requesting for my copy sharp sharp. have a nice day dear.

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