People have many theories and expectations where women are concerned. Especially when it comes to marriage.
I cannot say exactly why men marry because I am not a man but I can say for sure that it’s not always an emotionally exciting journey for many women as believed. Yes some women put love first but even in your homes, you all know the sacrifices your mother might have made staying with your Dad to secure the background of her children.
So why do women marry? Of course there’s societal pressure and then that biological clock malarchy but we choose somebody in the middle of it all. Why do we choose who we choose beyond feelings of love? I choose to dwell on logical reasons instead of love because LOVE HAS NO LOGICAL REASONING.
PLAN A
Status
Wealth is not a myth. People require status for many flimsy and dire reasons, and those reasons are relevant to their existence and character. For example, if I ask you to choose between marrying Wanlov and Obama, you will not be in as much of a dilemma as you would be if you had to choose between marrying Nelson Mandela and Obama.
Also lets assume you had all the status and security you could ever want in your own name but you have an option between two partners…one a frustrated, bitter and angry underachiever who blames his failure on the world and tries to take it out on others and a happy go lucky, dynamic, cheerful and knowledgeable man who has built a solid life and heritage.
Supposing you had more money than both, who would you still rather be with? The answer is obvious. Now, this is the impact of status on us all. It is intrinsic to happiness. Many women in many situations hold out on getting married just to meet the best option of their lifetime. Women too, get wedding jitters simply by wondering if they could have held out for better deals.
Inclusive in this status reason is the need for intimacy from the ‘wealthiest’ man they can find-yes you heard me. Quality intimacy matters.
They may settle for the best option of the moment only because they panic or fear they are losing the ability to choose the best due to biological or other reasons.
Security
Perhaps this should have been number one reason because every woman has security paramount on her list. Women will stop at nothing till they feel absolutely secure in their choice. Even if they marry down, there is an underlying reason of security.
They must be certain of the utmost commitment of love, romance and more from that one man. We need to stand on a solid background of the individual, family and assets. This still features an element of status. Safe to say, security and wealth still make status.
PLAN B
Children
This is when the time factor pushes a woman to settle. In this situation, Plan A has failed so she chooses to spread options among the other leading members on her radar.
When the search leads a woman to the realization that she cannot get all these things from one man, she moves into the process of the next best method of operation. Her approach becomes clinical. She prepares herself mentally and emotionally to address her needs in other ways. And convinces herself she actually has found a lot of reason to settle. This doesn’t change the fact that she would still have preferred plan A.
She may also settle for less because the leading men on her radar have rejected her and refused to give in to what she wants from them. In this situation, rejection from her leading men is born out of the fact that they didn’t commit. Though they perhaps might have given in to intimacy, her feeling of rejection will transcend beyond that. Because she wanted way beyond that.
Many women seek these things not because they are slutty, but because of fear in the long run. Acute fear of growing beyond their present choice and wanting someone else in all senses, much more. A woman can stray or hop in the process of seeking these things and you can choose to call her slutty but it is a natural instinct of seeking the most status and security that will fulfill her.