You’re beautiful and looking…But still single. Well, sometimes it is not your fault, most of the time, it is! The circumstances with which a previous relationships ends, coupled with the type of person you dated is all part of the reason you’re still single.
Why don’t you grow out of always giving men a bad name, sit in front of a mirror and face reality for once and stop the ‘I am OK with being single’ attitude.
Let’s shoot, no beating about the bush…
You Had A Serious Relationship Before You Were Ready For One: Does this sound familiar. Let’s break it down. The relationship you had before was a serious one and you were not ready for a serious relationship.
Why, because even though, the relationship was a great one, you didn’t know what you wanted in life or better still, the right guy came at the wrong time.
You Quickly Jump Into Another Relationship When One Ends: You don’t figure out why a previous relationship ended, and how to package yourself for another one.
Evaluating your old relationship and re-packaging yourself for a new one, allows you to correct some characteristics which led to the old relationship dying a youthful death (especially, if YOU messed it up, but it is never YOU, isn’t it).
When you undergo that ‘rebound’ thing people do, trust me, you are bound to go and come out just as the previous one.
You Are The ‘Career’ Woman: Your career is always important to you. You put your heart and soul into finding riches and comfort, without even looking at the smiling gentleman sitting right across the room.
You keep running up and down and then you miss your ‘soul mate’. It’s great to be career minded, but there should always be a balance.
By the time you think marriage and kids, it will take fasting and prayers, and all the money you’ve made running around will go straight into the pockets of a ‘prophet’.
You Had Your Trust Broken By A Bad Person: You label every guy who shows interest in you as a bad person. It is more than psychological torture if you allow your past to destroy your present and your future.
Let the bad guy and his bad cells/genes/ways be in your past. Don’t ‘invite’ him and his ways into your present. My dear, you’ll remain single if you don’t give somebody else the chance.
You Have A List Of What You Expect In A Man: Sweetie, just hope for the best and destroy that list. There is nothing called PERFECT. It is a word you can use to describe a thing (probably), but not a person, a human being for that matter.
It is not bad to aim high, but let your aim be reasonable. Don’t go all ‘gaga’ for a six-pack or your brother-look-alike. If you follow that list, the perfect man will still be coming at the age of 80 years.
You Tend To Look Too Desperate When Men Approach You: Try visiting some night clubs, or even get on buses and see what happens out there. Some ladies start smiling before the guy ask anything, if you’re one of those, hey, you’re calling for trouble.
If the guy sees desperation, he will be the most sweetest person at first and display his monstrous side when he realizes you’re deep in the relationship.
After a while, you wouldn’t be able to take it and you would decide to leave, you move back into singleness and the cycle will start again.
You will run and run in circles, get hitched and single again. Even if you’re drawing closer to your end-of-shelf life, be desperate within, not outside.
If you are beautiful and looking but still single, do some evaluations and you will find yourself in one of the above. It’s a different thing if you want to be a single woman (yeah right)!
I am also evaluating myself, mine is point 4, which one applies to you or that your single friend? Be sincere with yourself for once and say where you fall…
Did the writer of this article conduct a research or is just observant. as a guy, i’ve come across the whole lot mentioned. it’s either my ex-boy this or my ex-boy that……for my big sister, desperation is killing her……….and she is so career minded.
Why expose as like that sir/madam writer?
I agree with the writer 100%. some girl friends of mine are single because of the reasons stated above, the problem is, they are not even ready to accept the reasons why they are single from a anyone. They act like they know it all and cant be the reason why their relationships dont last long or why they are single.