If you cannot stay faithful to one man or woman, do not kill yourself since this is not your fault. It is the fault of nature. By default, you are created NOT to be monogamous but to be promiscuous-says Christopher Ryan, a psychology expert.
Christopher Ryan, a PhD of psychology and co-author of the book Sex at Dawn, told a TED conference this week that though it’s often thought that men are more promiscuous than women, in terms of evolution, there’s no reason why this should be the case.
‘We need to move beyond ‘men are from Mars and women are from Venus,’ he said. ‘The truth is that men are from Africa and women are from Africa.’
According to Ryan, humans are the most genetically related to chimps and bonobos than they are to any other primate – and as a result our sexual natures are also similar.
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Ryan said it is this that means the males are promiscuous: ‘External testicles are like having an extra fridge in the garage for beer. If you’re the kind of guy that has a beer fridge, you expect a party to happen at any moment,’ he joked.
He said that female bonobos are just as equipped to have sex at any given moment because they are capable of engaging in sex for 90 per cent of their menstrual cycle.
Another similarity is that humans, chimps and bonobos don’t just use sex for reproductive purposes – but as a form of bonding.
But chimps and bonobos don’t restrict their bonding to just one partner for life as many humans have been encouraged to do. Thus Ryan believes monogamy is not hardwired in either men or women.