I have a big decision to make which is causing some serious issues in my marriage. I am very ambitious and hardworking and have worked so hard to get to my role as senior accountant in my company.
My husband of 2 years now wants me to give up my job to look after our first child that we are expecting this June. He says we were blessed to have the baby as we have been trying for sometime and he feels I should concentrate on being a mother.
We never discussed this and it did not cross my mind to do so. Though we both earn a good living (he is a partner at his law firm) I feel he’s putting so much pressure on me.
Also there are talks of a more senior position coming up in the near future which I have my eye on. I have many friends who juggle family life with high powered jobs so why not me?
I tried to get him to compromise and suggested home help like a cleaner and a nanny as we can afford it and he said no and that is my job.
When I confided in a friend she told me point blank not to try it as I will be reliant on him and will loose my independence going to put my handout and beg for money and I know this is true because my own mother went through this and it was degrading to watch.
When I spoke with my mom she explained that the asking for money and lack of independence was worth the sacrifice of being there for me and my two other sisters who are also successful and settled. So now I’m confused….
What should I do?
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