A very popular pastor told his congregants: “When seeking a life partner, the best place to look is the church (the household of faith where your would-be husband or wife worships” From the pastors’ advice, it’s either you go to church to find that perfect partner or find the other one elsewhere…

Church leaders of today who are out to make money even market girls within their churches. They simply convene endless conventions on marriage, guidance and counselling and invite all young adults seeking life partners (singles summit).

If you have a problem finding a good woman just go to church; you’ll get a God-fearing woman to marry: that is the belief of the old folks, but is that not a lazy way of looking for a life partner? Meaning, you’d think because the person is a ‘Christian’, he/she is ready to go; no need for adjustments. Going to church does not make a person a Christian – which we all know.

It is a very wrong perception that the church is a place to get the best husband/wife material – the ‘good ones’. People go to church for different reasons, stemming from showing off their latest attire or to notice the latest trend in fashion through to being bored so finding a place to go. (Mind you, some people also go to clubs because of boredom but they are equally good).

Many Christians do not go to church because they love God…..? Secondly, ‘Church-iness’ does not necessarily mean good character unless of course if the only  quality you seek in a spouse is someone who rattle tongues and quote the `bible back-to-back.

So what about the good girl/boy who is not affiliated to any church but is a very good marriage material? Just being on the lookout for only ‘bro’ and ‘sis’ because they’re already a good material might be seriously wrong. That’s where many have made mistakes they can’t take back because ‘God hates divorce’ and since the ‘wrong’ husband/wife was initially ‘acquired from the ‘best’ place; where else can they seek the next if they decide to re-marry? Obviously, you’ll not like to downgrade yourself from ‘best’ to ‘good enough’

A male friend once told me ‘The church is a place where bachelors, spinsters, widowers, widows and the divorced go to find true love or at least soul mates with an understanding of the value of life and love. If you seek a girl, just join the church, dress smart and appear helpful. They will literally fall over each other to please you.

But really, they’re not different from the girls I meet at the clubs because they think that worship and praise sessions in God’s sanctuary are also good opportunities to showcase their fleshly credentials and expertise for the attention of eligible and promising bachelors. Anyone who goes there and comes out with a pure heart should offer special thanks to God.”

So what about the girls that go clubbing on Saturdays and make their way to church on Sundays and lead the congregation in worship? It’s just a matter of spreading your net wide and be on the lookout for the ones with character.

Your life partner can be found anywhere, normally at places you’re not even looking. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, some have been lucky but you might want to have a rethink about where to spot ‘the one’.

If for any reason you get your life partner from the church- Hallelujah but really, are the churches the best place to find your life partner?