Most people have harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them. Unrequited love is one of the saddest of all loving experiences. However, some people prefer it over a complete lack of love.

Consider the following two types of relationships: You are in love with your partner but the partner does not love you or your partner is in love with you but you are not in love with the partner. Which option will you choose? The answer is not obvious.

Love can take a longer amount of time for some people, because it has a different meaning to everyone. Especially for people who have been hurt in the past. If the person never reaches the point where they feel they love you enough to stay- they usually will realize it and end the relationship themselves.

Some ‘lucky’ few are constantly told that ‘I’m not there yet’ but they’re always hopeful (I say lucky because at least the person has made their feelings known to them, some just play along). The chances of ‘being there’ is slim but not necessarily doomed. The stress and anxiety is crazy, but for some reason they hang on. Others try to ease their conscience by saying ‘I don’t deserve your love’ (observe the atmosphere and in what circumstances they say it).

It becomes doomed when apart from the love not appearing for a considerable period of time, you also realise that you’re in a stage play performing the roles of two people. Then you realise that the person is actually not prepared to be with you or is working his/her way into the life of another with their all.

It’s a terrible situation to be in. These feelings are especially aggravated when you feel that the person you love is probably the one for you or is the only person who can bring you joy and happiness. Most people hang on with the hope that they can get the other person to love them back and yet these hopes never materialize leaving them distraught and teary eyed. Face and accept the reality that it’s not happening or won’t happen and love you’re giving is not mutual.

When two people are able to emotionally and mentally share the feelings for each other—this makes the love healthy, balanced and just right for a person. So if you have expressed your love for someone and he/she does not seem to love you back, then do not waste your valuable love on someone who does not care for it.

It’s bad business to invest any more time or thought or energy in a person who is not on the same page as you. You are obviously not yielding any profit from the business and you keep pumping in more capital. Why don’t you keep your capital and start a new business venture elsewhere (no matter how hard it is/will be). Acceptance and realization of these facts will allow you to change your focus and take the first steps towards moving on. It is difficult but I believe the best course of action is to move on with your life. Relationship is not a one-way street.

People claim it’s better to be loved more than you love him/her (I’ve always been told that the man should be more in love than the woman).….If we’re all expecting somebody to love us than we should love them , we’ll all tow the same line…being  in a one-man/one-way street relationship.