Many young black women these days do not care about anything more than how much you have in your bank account—and they certainly do not care about the source of what is in your bank.
Probably, life is exceptionally difficult for these women compared to how we are all struggling to meet the needs of the next day. I can clearly understand why life would be harder for some black women who have placed themselves into a barrel full of ignorant wants—from expensive bags to weaves.
I was introduced by a friend to her mate, a young woman who was also looking for a Ghanaian out here in United States for a possible relationship. I’ve been opened to all forms of finding a partner. And I’ve tried Online Dating, Speed Dating and even Hook Ups, which this was one of the few Hook Ups opportunities that came my way late last year.
Through the work of my female friend, I received my first text message from Agnes. At the time I was introduced to Agnes who was taking up a part time class in College to help her with job security, I had just finished my masters degree— and had just started my own small business…
We had long conversations through countless text messages and each day, I made it a point to call her at least once to hear her voice and find out how her day and job hunting was going.
From our conversation, I quickly noticed Agnes loves good things—but then again who does not love good things in life as long as the person can afford it.
Agnes had a travel dream and wanted to see the world, which I told her it is possible as long as she works towards it. But I was wrong; she wanted someone to finance it for her. There was no way she was ready to pay for this so before we even met in person, she suggested I take her to Paris on her upcoming birthday.
She was nice to talk to, and was pretty much looking forward to meeting her in person as the many photos we exchanged did not give me an insight into her personality. I could see from the photos she loved her long nails, long weaves and long heels. Probably, she loved it all long and even joked in one of her text messages that, she loves men with long tails—this is something I am blessed with so was more of a fall in the right spot for me.
Throughout our conversation, Agnes tried so hard to cunningly find out my financial status by asking me fishy questions. Cleverly, I avoided most as I believe money should not be a pull factor when looking for REAL love.
On several occasions, she asked me to buy her calling cards to call her people back home as the nearest shop is a little far from her. It did not matter much to me as several 10 bucks were not going to break my account. Each time I bought it, I told myself this girl must be interested in getting stuff off men.
Just a day before our meeting following our 2 months of long conversations, she asked; what sort of car do you drive? Before I answered, she added; If a man does not drive, there is no way I am going to date him as I can’t afford to be catching the trains and buses in my long heels after a dinner out.
At this stage, I realized Agnes did not only care about what car I drove but then a man with a car is on her list of things she looks for in a relationship…
I told her the truth, I drive a BMW…And asked; what about you?
I knew she did not have a car because I’ve spoken to her on multiple occasions when she was on the bus from church or from a friend’s house. She replied by saying, I don’t have a car yet but my first car will be a Lexus…
She killed my zeal to meet her and the next morning, I texted her to cancel our date, citing a business meeting as the reason.
Why can’t some black women look beyond material things when looking for a partner in life?
Material staff are only for a while and to secure a status. All can vanish in seconds if not well managed. What’s most important in life is to live a Godly and dignified life. For the author and creator of our destiny is above.
hahahahaha. Who does she expect to wash her cloth for her with those long nails. Am also happy to have found the love of my life cos he does not even care about the make up, weave on and those high heels i don;t even remember the last tome i wore one. Y would i wont to wear a shoe that would kill my feet. I only ware it when its necessary.
Lol @asking what car she drives. That would have been it for me. No more calls..no texts!