This may sound like an absurd strategy or a weird guideline to consider when looking for the right woman—most people call such women, good girls. I understand there is hardly any good girl out there. As one of my good friends always says; a good girl is the bad girl who has not been caught.
But this ‘absurd’ sieving strategy has worked for me on several occasions—-and a couple of friends who have considered it have found it more than useful.
Over the years, I’ve come to realize through experience and observation, that the women who are busy with their life goals, work and pursue of happiness do not have time for the many social media ‘nonsense;. These women spend the little time they have in a way that draws them closer to their goals—and considering the fact that it is highly impossible to establish if a woman is good or bad, I tend to give attention to those who at least seem to have focus in life.
Therefore, anytime I meet a new woman—be it for pleasure, friendship or any sort of committed relationship, I tend to pay attention to their social media activities to establish if there is the need for me to run off…
I am not sure how you are able to ascertain which particular woman deserves your attention, time and mind space in life, among the numerous women you may meet in life. But for me, the ‘louder’ a woman is on social media, the faster I run away from her.
There are those women who update their BBM and Whatsapp status every 2 minutes, and there are those who change their profile pictures every 5 minutes. None of these are worth given attention to in my books. If you want your business to be known by each and every person she knows, keep talking to her…
Also, there are those who pose and take countless photos for their instagram pages, as if they are being paid to do so. Similarly, there are those who flood facebook with new photos each day—including photos of themselves in bed and posing in front of the bathroom mirror.
I make exception for those who are active on social media for work related reasons and by this I mean actresses, models and social media consultants—remember this list is not exhaustive.
Surely, I am not the only guy who ‘Googles’ or falls on social media scanning to find out more about the people I meet—especially if they are women. The way a woman carries herself on the various social media platforms sets the borderline of interest or no interest for me.
I find women who are occupied with excellence and important activities sexy—and I cannot therefore see how any busy woman with several useful things to do with her life would find more than enough time to be taking countless ‘selfies’ purposely to decorate her social media pages.
My notion of a ‘good girl’ may be different from yours but whatever yours is; I am certain you do not term a social media junkie who sits online or her phone, updating her status and photos every 5 minutes a woman worth being taken serious.
In fact, I find it extremely shallow and therefore, a complete turn off for me. I switch off the ‘non serious’ button on women who come up as social media junkies, those who do not have limits as to what they can even post on social media.
Do not get me wrong, I love and appreciate women who engage in occasional relevant discussions on social media. Also, I find it interesting when women update their social media pages with important photos from events such as anniversaries, birthdays, graduations and others—but I surely do not want to know when you are about to take a poop… And I certainly do not want to see you in your underwear—even if I want, not yet!
Whatever you do in life as a man, stay away from the social media JUNKIES, most are as cheap as they come!
You have spoken Chris… Most of this girls need Christ in their life…and the thirsty men on there too need Christ .
Chris you should write like 5 articles a day because anytime you write, it is a BOMB. Basically I skim through the articles to see which one has your name so I can read. lol
What you have said is so true. Several of these girls are shallow and they use social media as a place to hunt for men. No serious man should take any of them serious. Some even take photos when sitting on the loo and photos of their breast and all that. It is like technology has licensed prostituting
Hmm, is kind of funny too, because some women do this to get men’s attention, and that put some men off!
Men should also stop asking women for pictures.
I always wonder how some girls have so much time on their hands to manage the many social media accounts? I cant even have time to check my emails, let alone reply an email and to think of taking photos, filtering it and updating it?
DAMN, some of these women must be unemployed or really bored with their lives. go and volunteer for a charity if you are bored or have so much time to waste like this
@TiffanyBabe, hahahahahahahahahha said the girl with Twitter, facebook and multiple instagram accounts gurl pls
This is indeed a thought-provoking article Chris. Good job.
In fact Chris,u’ve written exactly wat was on my mind.such people can’t be serious,and I think most of them are jobless.the most infuriating thing is the kind of pics they post.some are desperately trying to belong.there’s this Ghanaian footballer and his wife on instagram,u shud see the kind of pics they post,it’s like instagram is their matrimonial home.frm their pics u can even deduce the time and days they have s**.can such people be serious?SMH.
@maame ama, haha I think I knw dis couple. Smtimes I see it to be fake.
SOME DNT EVEN HAVE ANYTHING LIKE SECRETS ANYMORE
JUST CHK THIER PROFILE UPDATES;
HEART CLOSED UNTILL FURTHER NOTICE
NEVER MIND I’LL FIND SOMEONE LIKE YOU
NEVER TRUST A MAN ETC
ITS SO CRAZY HOW SOME OF US MISUSE THESE MEDIUMS
@KA NE WU, lool this is soo true.
@KA NE WU, hahahahahahahahaha lol agyei ma stomach oooo haha now dat’s funny
Women put sexy pics to attract men. They reckon Men are obsessed with sex and so put sexy pics to get men. Although Meb say they don’t like that, they nonetheless allow desire to control them. So women who prefer more intellectual habits allow themselves to flaunt if they got it on Facebook.
This is so true. As soon as I finished reading your article I went to my Facebook wall to check myself Lol. Same should be said for men too, some men can also run their mouths proper proper on social media.