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Marriage Is Not The Wedding…It Is The Life After

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When a young woman marries/settles down, one can easily tell the marriage is a fresh one. Their way of dancing in church is different, if you’re talking to one, it’s better to protect your eyes because the left hand never stops waving in the air….In short, it’s all about showing whoever cares to know that she is now a Mrs (somebody).

There is a huge difference between a wedding and a marriage. Unfortunately, some if not majority of these young couples either forget or do not know that marriage is not the wedding and the flaunting of rings – but it is the life after the wedding and they just fail to plan for the afterlife (marriage life after the wedding). A wedding lasts a day, a marriage lasts a lifetime.

Weddings are fun and full of celebration; indeed there is much to celebrate when two people are joining their lives together. But in the planning, and all that goes into the wedding’s festivities, there is a measure of realism that is lost. So many couples-and women especially, I believe are guilty of this–go into the whole thinking that they want to be “married” but they don’t think beyond the altar.

Wisdom demands that one should be more concerned about how to live the life that comes after wedding successfully, despite several unforeseen matrimonial challenges. Based on the people’s concept, the difference between wedding and marriage is one’s emotional stability and intellectual prowess to handle daunting issues that could militate against the life after wedding.

Marriages, though, are not about flowers and expensive entrees; they aren’t about matching dresses, large cakes, and guest lists neither is it about what your mother/in-laws want and need. A marriage is about hard work and compromise… I know, it sounds so very cliché but with the way people run and out, I can’t help but think that it might have something to do with the fact that people keep confusing weddings with marriages.

If getting married this year is part of your resolution, it’s better to ask yourself if you want a wedding day to earn the Mrs (a man is always a Mr anyway) or you want a marriage where it is for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish…..till death do us part? Think about it because it a takes a committed heart and a matured mind to run a peaceful and loving home.

And I personally think if one is not prepared to let go of the fanfare (for now or whenever), then one is not ready to marry. Don’t get me wrong, weddings are great but until you’re ready for the life after…don’t bother.



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2 thoughts on “Marriage Is Not The Wedding…It Is The Life After”

  1. Very true. ladies forget that there is life after the wedding. it is now a matter of my friend is getting married so i have to also get married. Right after the wedding, all the things the ladies ‘did’ to make them the wifey material quickly vanishes. An article worth giving its content a very deep thought

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    • It’s not ladies…. It’s people….marriage has nothing to do with ladies or men….but rather people…you are entitled to your opinion, but playing the gender card is soooo 2000 and late….people should understand that just cos one is wearing 2000 and the who karat or whatever they call it doesn’t mean wedding is the marriage…..at the end of the day it’s two people who have gotten married….both need to work work work

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