A lot of men cheat, that is common knowledge. Although we know women also cheat but that is on a lower scale than men and besides, men flaunt it more and make it cause too much drama.

Over the years, women have been racking their minds to find out just why men cheat so they can stop it and put an end to one of their main sources of heartbreak but to no avail. Since most women discuss their heartbreak with each other, I sat down with some female friends this week to discuss cheating boyfriends. But it just took a funny turn from tears to an interesting debate.

My girl has dated a man for eight good years and we were all jealous of her relationship because her boyfriend seemed to have it all. Tall, handsome, a rich doctor with a huge house and a good background who happened to also be an American living in Ghana… Then they broke up out of the blue. My friend insists he was a serial cheat. A professional player who was cheating on her with dozens of women and even went to the extent of beating her up. That was the final straw that made her walk out of the relationship.

I was mortified. The man looked like perfection, how did he wind up being the worse thing to ever happen to her? What exactly do men want to stop them from cheating on a good, successful woman?

One of the ladies insists she has the answer to a drama free relationship in which your man will not cheat on you at all. And according to her, it is simple! The secret to having a happy, lasting relationship is to date a broke man. Hahaha! Yes, a broke man who has no money to play with.

She said when he is broke; he will not cheat or stray because he doesn’t even have the money to go chasing other women. I find it hard to believe so, of course I disagreed. I think a man will cheat no matter what if he wants to. Besides I know of broke boys who still get several women to chat with and still have these women fighting over them and some even wanting to take care of them.

This is how come some men are so lazy because some women will accept sub-standardness—too many women in fact. And I also think it is very selfish of you to want your man to be broke because you are afraid he will cheat. How does this work?

Even if I decide to date a broke man, I will not want him to stay broke. I will be pushing him to do better for himself because life is about growth. I cannot keep calm and encourage my man to be lazy and broke just so that he will be unattractive to other women and then I can keep him. Is that not a silly reason to date a man?

What about other needs of life? He will just sit in my life unable to afford a good life? How can a relationship be happy, lasting and thriving over such a selfish reason? Yes, that’s what I think. It is very selfish to want your man to be broke just because of your insecurities, unless you want to date forever and never get married or have children.

Besides I think any man will cheat if he wants to. The secret is to have respect for your partner and yourself. Respect especially for yourself because if you respect yourself, you will not go cheating with everything in skirt. And this is what I strongly believe it should be about. Because I am not about to date a man who cannot even buy me ice cream just because I want no cheating.

That lack of money will bring with it more serious issues that will cause constant problems. So personally, there is no way I am going to date any broke man for the above reason, because I am sure some broke men can be very unfaithful and some rich men can be good, focus and faithful.

What do you thing? Am I making sense or am I just dreaming?