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Getting ‘High’ On Desperation – It’s A Killer Drug

Desperate black woman

 

Desperate times calls for desperate measures …. So goes the ‘suicide’ statement. Desperation pushes people to do the unthinkable. When desperate for the latest ‘thing’ in town – you either steal or lie to get it therefore you lose the trust of people or put a big question mark on your integrity.

Desperation becomes extremely dangerous when ‘your eye red’ for something and until you get it, manipulations and sometimes acts of wickedness sets in. We get high on it and when we finally get what we want, we just drop it because we really didn’t ‘need’ or were not ready for what we were desperately seeking for in the first place. If you also succumb to the desperate ways of someone, you also burn in the process.

What I see in people (clamouring for marriage) these days is actually desperation and not readiness for marriage per se. They start acting out of the ordinary. They ‘borrow’ some virtues which were never found/seen in them initially. It’s not that they changed to become the ‘desirable person’ he/she wanted now, but they need those ‘virtues’ for a purpose and when it’s done, they give it back (like borrowing a book and returning it). When a person shows/tells you who they are the first time, believe them because that is who/what they are, anything else you see when they start mounting pressure on you for one thing or the other is ‘acquired’ which is easily disposed.

When someone says ‘I don’t know how I ended up with her/him’, you know desperation was the determining factor and the foundation on which the marriage was ‘formed’. It was a fleeting moment of self-gratification – the foundation was faulty, so the whole building came crashing down; severely non-repairable. Those who are ready for any worthwhile venture (in life) understand the importance of taking every day as it comes; they are people who move/moved into a new phase with ease without being pressured, cajoled or pressing on someone to do what they’re not ready for.

That is one main reason I don’t advocate for long period of courtship/dating, the longer it takes, the more it makes one person extremely desperate for the relationship to move further than what they want or where they are. They don’t even think through if they really want to be with the person – long term. Desperation does not mean readiness or someone desperately wanting you does not mean they’re crazily in love/love you too much.

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Looking FAB in Affordable Brands | Sexy Grenadine Splicing Lace Dress

  There’s something about the sun that make you want to add whites to your wardrobe.  And as summer equals BBQ’s and house parties this Sexy Grenaldine white body con dress with black lace detailing is the perfect combination of smart, casual and sexy. Dress it up with black strappy heels or for a more … Read more

PHOTOS: Menaye Donkor & Dad-Major Donkor | When African Style Meets the West…

Menaye Donkor
Menaye Donkor

Menaye Donkor posed for a photo with her Dad-Major Donkor and the father took on the style change, rocking his expensive Ghanaian Kente, throwing to the side Menaye Donkor’s beautiful red dress…And the caisson was a wedding!

I was looking for the resemblance and I think I spotted the nose.

Menaye Donkor is married to Ghanaian football star-Sulley Muntari, and she is a former Beauty Queen, Model, Philanthropist and probably an full time instagramer…LOL

And before you guys start with ‘when is the baby coming’, let me add that, we hear the baby is in the making—so have some patience for her…

Check below for another photo

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CELEB STYLE: Juliet Ibrahim Takes On Gucci, H&M and Old Navy + Jackie Appiah Looking CUTE!

Juliet Ibrahim
Juliet Ibrahim

Though we cannot actually point out which is the Gucci, H&M or the Old Navy—Juliet Ibrahim is rocking these 3 brands, at least that is what she tells us when she shared the photo…

Interestingly, Juliet Ibrahim who has a good taste for fashion loves the high and low brands and even mixes them in, just as she seems to have done.

Not long ago, Juliet Ibrahim was blasted by fans for shopping at H&M. Following the criticism, she blasted a photo of herself pulling a travel case LV bag—indicating that she shops at the expensive brands corner too.

What do you think of her style?

By the way, check below for a CUTE photo of Jackie Appiah…

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Don’t You Agree There Ought To Be Transformation in Christianity?

Jesus Christ
Jesus Christ

Aside human behaviour which is intricate, one of the most complex things to understand is religion. Without doubt, I presume everybody concurs to this assertion. Dozens of people around the world have spent years trying to understand what this whole phenomenon is about. Some claim to have come to comprehend with it whilst others on the other hand believe there is no solution to their quest.

As humans, nobody can possibly trace and find the exact time religion itself began. In Christianity, all Christians can agree to the fact that religion commenced on earth right after God created the first human beings (Adam and Eve). Religion, as one online dictionary defines it is the belief in and worship of a super controlling power, especially a personal God or gods.

Jesus Christ instituted Christianity, thereby automatically making him the leader of the movement. Anybody that followed the teachings of Jesus therefore became a Christian. During his period, there used to be a uniform way of worship that all followers of Jesus followed. It isn’t recorded anywhere in the Bible that there were divisions among Jesus’ followers concerning doctrinal issues.

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World Cup Songs: Shakira Takes the Lead With ‘La La La’

Shakira-La La La
Shakira-La La La

In less than two weeks, the 2014 World Cup with kick off in Brazil—and as usual, several World Cup songs have been released. Once again, Shakira has released a World Cup song-La La La and this time it was produced by Activia in support of  World Food Programme and its meal initiative.

Through a recent essay I wrote, I learnt that the World Food Programme which is the largest humanitarian agency in the world is entirely funded by voluntary donations—and WEP provided “food for more than 97 million people in 80 countries last year alone”.

Apart from the cause behind the song, I love the SONG. If you’ve never donated to the World Food Programme, you can do so by CLICKING HERE

Check out the song below… It was uploaded on 22nd May and has over 66 million views at the time of this publication.

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Prayers Do Not Work Yet 10000 GHS is Spent on Prayers For Black Stars…

Ghana Blackstar
Ghana Blackstar

First of all, prayers do not work and there is no evidence it does—but if some people with a lot of time on their hands want to engage in that, it is their prerogative to use their time in such a meaningless manner.

However, why should the Ghana Football Association (GFA) be spending 10,000 GHS on prayers for the Black Stars? Don’t the players and those in charge have mouths to pray to GOD themselves—-that is even if they believe prayers work?

Reports say monies are given to persons who invoke spiritual deities for the Black Stars, the Ghana Football Association (GFA) President has revealed.

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PHOTOS OF THE DAY: Emelia Brobbey…

Emelia Brobbey
Emelia Brobbey

Kumawood actress-Emelia Brobbey has some new photos for us—and she is looking good. Few months ago, Emelia survived a car accident and for those who have not caught a photo of her since then, these shots are for you…

Emelia Brobbey who was born to Samuel P Brobbey and Miss Selina Amponsah hails from Akim Swedru in the Eastern Region of Ghana. She holds a diploma in Journalism, ICM Certificate in Broadcast Journalism and Bachelor’s degree in Human Resource Management from the Institute of Management and Public Administration (GIMPA).

She is a mother of two…

And check her out in this new TV commercial

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqURQNX5c0Q

Check out the photos below

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Do Waist Beads Stop Men From Cheating? Do You Wear Any & Why? + GAY Men Are Wearing Them Too…

Waist Beads

 

I read an interesting article this morning about waist beads that contained certain information I knew already—but interestingly, it has something else that got my attention.

According to the article, a bead seller the writer spoke to urged women to keep their waist beads on as it helps control promiscuity in relationships. It is obvious men love waist beads since it somehow taps on their sexual drive but I did not know waist beads have the charm to keeping men glued to women who wear them.

As an African woman, I wear waist beads for 3 main reasons and I will like to know why you wear waist beads as a woman—and if you are a man, why do you like your woman to wear or not to wear waist beads. As a woman, I wear them for fashion as I find them fashionable. It makes me feel great about my body and I love seeing them on myself.

Secondly, I’ve been told over the years that waist beads help shape the figure of a woman—and even though no one has been able to scientifically prove this, they somehow seem to work. So I keep them on my waist (I have 4) to keep and develop my figure.

The last reason why I wear waist beads is the fact that my current boyfriend loves them. He grabs them and plays with them when we are having good times and when we are relaxing, chatting or watching movies. I guess it does some magic things for him, like it does for most men.

Another new and shocking thing I found from the article is that, homosexual men in Ghana have started wearing waist beads. One seller confirmed this, saying; some homosexual men regularly come to buy beads from her—to wear.

Interestingly, in the article which was published on Infoboxx the writer said, “Patricia Naa Dei, a university student I met buying these jewels, told me waist beads were simply for fashion. She indicated, she didn’t like them but had to put them on to satisfy her boyfriend, who loves to see them on her.

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Edinho, Son of Football Legend Pele Has Been Sentenced to 33 Years In Prison

Pele

 

Edinho (real name Edson Cholbi do Nascimento), the son of Brazil football legend-Pele has been sentenced to 33 years in prison for laundering money raised from drug trafficking.

Edinho who was first arrested in 2005 and has served a sentence for drug trafficking offences, in addition to having links with a notorious drug dealer in the city of Santos will serve the 33 years himself.

Currently, Edinho works as a goalkeeping coach at Santos, his father’s old club where he once played as a goalkeeper.

Edinho who must have caused pain to his father with these charges is reported to have said; he is a drug addict but has denied the trafficking charges levelled against him.

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The Work Culture of Ghanaian Students | Why Don’t Most Ghanaian University Students Work?

mcdonalds-cashier

 

A few years ago when I was an undergraduate student, I had friends who were also studying in Ghana frequently asking me to send them some little cash—because things were tough for them as students.

This is a case of one student at different part of the world asking another student to chip in some coins to relieve him of his financial struggles. Those I could help, I did and those I couldn’t, I had to constantly remind them that I was a student just like them, depending on a part time job.

I didn’t understand and still do not understand why most Ghanaian University students do not have part time jobs, which can go a long way to put some money in their pockets—just like most students in Europe and America do.

From College to University, I did several jobs—-I worked at Argos, Mataland, Marriot Hotel and I remember working at Hotel Chocolate one summer. I did not only have a job during school breaks, though I worked more than the usual when on vacation. Most College and University students like me did and continue to do the same. I had several friends who worked at Costa Coffee, Starbucks, TopShop, KFC, Nandos, Marks and Spencer and other places…

Working as a student in Europe and America has become a tradition, with most of the workers at Footlocker, Sports Direct, H&M and other shops being mostly students. In fact, not having a job as a student goes against the norm—students do all these jobs to help develope a working culture and more importantly, to have some extra cash to support their own offside activities.

However, when it comes to Ghana, you will hardly find a Legon student working at on the RUN, Melcom or any of those shops—simply because they think they are above working at these places. With a lot of time on their hands each weekend, you find students doing literally nothing—except to chat from morning to evening.

It’s not just Legon students but throughout the country, students have this mindset that all what a student has to do is to study and that working in any of those retail outlets, fast food restaurants, filling stations among others are well beneath their standards. Even if these students do not need the little cash that they will get from working at these places, what about the need to develop a working culture and be able to develop the required work ethics during studies?

Recently, I listened to a programme on BBC Radio 4 on which an American professor spoke about her research, saying, affluent students in America are all over the country working in Starbucks, Footlocker and other places. Considering their background, she decided to find out why these students who did not actually need the peanuts they were being paid were so dedicated and eager to work at these places—sometimes forgoing classes to even go to work.

The long and short of the above is that, even those students who do not really need the money or care less about the pay in the West are still working, occupying their weekends and nights with jobs while poorer students in Africa have develop this huge EGO—which places them above having a part time job at some of the most common places around.

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