‘Men are greedy, selfish, hard hearted…’ is a simple memory verse you’ll hear from a scorned woman, a woman in a good relationship and a young lady who has not even started the dating journey yet. Women lump men together with the same brush and at the same time be on a hunting journey for a husband – the same greedy selfish men! The generalization of men being the same curtails the success of getting a husband (even if he is a good one, a quarrel will earn him the stereotypical name).

Usually when a woman says “All Men are the same” what that means is “I only date one type of man: a cheater/a jerk/a whimp/a moron/etc.” It’s basically just easier to say that than to own up to your own faults for going for the wrong type. They take so long to choose one because they feel they MUST choose one and the choices they have are limited of their own volition.

Not all men are the same. There are nicely dressed, good –looking and well-spoken men but have rotten heads and there are others we’ll call the ordinary looking men who are not brute, abusive, genuinely seeking for ‘a help mate’ to love and cherish.

The problem with majority of women is their inability to make up their minds. They don’t know what they want. Take a lady to a ‘husband’ store and she will be looking for a God fearing man who is very handsome, very rich/ with very good job. He should also not be a King Solomon type (a womanizer who cannot even remember the names of his women) and on top of all that – should be willing to give in to all her whims and caprices. By the time she decides to choose one, the store will be empty and she’ll come out empty handed.

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