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THE MORAL MAZE: The ‘NO Sex Before Marriage’ Principle| Where Do You Stand?

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Considering the man that I am, I will not subject myself to intolerable torture with unending consequences by even starting a relationship with a woman who dwells within the walls of ‘No Sex (Seks) Before Marriage’.

Interestingly, throughout my dating life, I’ve not met any woman who has thrown this principle as a card on the table—so I guess I am lucky and I know the ones to pick at the party.

I may sound weird but I am the type of man who loves to define everything—right from the beginning. If I want someone as a friend, we stay as friends and I make it clear from the beginning.

If I want a woman for anything more than friendship, I put my cards with their associated terms and conditions on the table—we consider them and if there is a way forward, we give it a go…

I like people (especially women) to be straight with me and therefore, I make sure I am as clear as possible. I do not have enough time to waste on any sort of childish mind games—if we want to knock boots, we decide we want to and if we don’t want to, we should all understand the structure of the enterprise…

However, I have several male ‘friends’ who have had a taste of ‘NO SEKS before marriage’ relationships and from what they’ve told me, the experiences have not been pleasant—sexually and emotionally.

Even though I do not understand why any potent man would want to dedicate his whole life to a woman faithfully—without prior notice or taste of what he will be getting, the fact of the matter is, it happens and some men meet women with this principle.

Like one of my friends said ‘who wants to buy a car with all his life savings without test driving it’? I agree with this statement but I must mention that, love and relationship is more complex than just walking into an auto-mobile centre to make a purchase.

For some reason, women seem to be the dominant players of the card-NO SEKS before marriage. In fact, I am yet to meet a man who holds this principle so precious to his heart, to the extent that he will deny responding when visited in bed by a fine woman set to rock his boat.

I do not buy into the NO SEKS before marriage doctrine because all the arguments I’ve heard in support of this make no human sense and the arguments are as weak as those championing it. However, I am mostly not insulted by the proponents of this argument if they have not tried SEKS before—because, I often say, she has not met the person who can pull down her panties yet.

I get extremely offended when I am told the woman putting up the argument has had countless sexual intercourse in the past but has decided to put all of such activities on hold and torture that innocent man she has just met—saying, unless you put the ring on that finger you are not going to get down there. This case, I unusually conclude that, she does not like you and she is making excuses in order not to give you seks or there is something going on which demands that, you run far away, where she can never find you.

Morally, I do not find ‘No seks before marriage’ attractive or worthy of any respect. That is me, what about you? Where do you stand when it comes to the dying doctrine of ‘NO SEKS before marriage’? Are there any real benefits? Would you accept this, do you believe in this and have you used it before?



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10 thoughts on “THE MORAL MAZE: The ‘NO Sex Before Marriage’ Principle| Where Do You Stand?”

  1. Swiaaa what kind of principle. I don’t do no sex before marriage because what is the point going into any relationship if you cannot fully enjoy the relationship including sex.

    Me if a woman says no sex before marriage, that is the end because my rule is no sex until marriage

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  2. The sex is a very important part in my relationship and to avoid any surprises (impotence, extremely small dick, etc) it’s better I know what’s up so that I can run ASAP if he doesn’t measure up to some level. I never said “no sex before marriage”, didn’t meet any guy who wanted that.
    It’s what I like but if a friend or relative wants to practice that, I won’t discourage them.

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    • Yeah I have heard of stories where a woman has married and on the wedding night the man could not get his thing up. Anytime I hear this, I ask so what were they doing when courting?

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  3. Even as a woman I dont understand this no sex before marriage. So why go into a love relationship if you dont want to do all that there is in there? So what if you never get to marry and it means you will die without having done it?

    It is silly to me because I see sex as part of love relationship. if you love a man you should love to go to bed with him because that bonds the two of you together. Sleeping with someone over and over helps make the two of you very tight

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  4. Hmmn i tried it but i couldnt hold it for long. Body no bi firewood.lol but that doesnt mean u shld sleep with every tom and harry u meet all in da name of relationship. I fink it fine if the relationship has progress and da sex comes in. It even strengthens the bond between the couple.

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  5. Hmmm we humans and is very tough to hold the thing, after sss i broke my vow. I left ghana and came here to school. Met my second b/f who’s now my hubby at my auntie’s party. He was in Georgia was in delaware. Even though it was a long distance we managed to visit eachother every 2weeks and love making was our daily bread. When you two are inlove it strengthens the whole thing, sex isn’t a big deal to me when the relationship have plans. I graduated he was 8 years older, i had to return to Ghana after graduation my husband proposed marriage and said please lets get married and stay. I was only 22 but didn’t listened to anyone the marriage came on we still tight. It’s been 8years already and God has blessed us with 4 kids a set of twins and 2 adorable girls. Sometimes love making helps a lot in the relationship, it attach your spouse more than anything else. Without love making don’t get into any juicy relationship because even now young pastors do have sex.

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    • Meaning the sex was good, when sex is good he will do anything to keep you. We men want it kinky and straightforward women.

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