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Sacrificing Your Happiness on the Altar for a (Non-existent) Relationship-What a BS!

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The modern day ‘being in love, in love and falling in love’ is so messed up, sometimes it’s better not to consider it when dealing with people. I can ‘love’ 5 men by just being on my phone for 5 minutes and how the person takes it is somehow not my business – and that is the value of love now.

It all stems from the ‘latest’ style of society these days and in order to be part of the love movement, we sacrifice our happiness on the altar for relationships which sometimes are even non-existent but since someone is telling us they love us, that is all that matters – if the ‘L’ word gives you a sense of belonging or fondness; then you lack ‘self-love’ – and that is what a therapist will tell you (for a fee). A troubled heart is an unhealthy part.

The fact that you are with someone doesn’t mean you have a relationship with the person – think married and living single. A relationship is a woman’s (not all women though) greatest emotional need because it gives her fulfilment and security. Many women see their identity in men and they think until they have a man in their life, they are never complete.

Most think all their problems will be solved when they get married so they develop an extremely high level of tolerance to accept anything in their relationships. If that is/was true, I would have married long ago but marriage doesn’t solve any problem. The only ‘problem’ it (probably) solves is that you’re not single anymore. When they get married, they move from tolerance to endurance which doesn’t give them any fulfilment in their marriage. I will marry to enjoy not to endure…

I don’t know who invented the phrase ‘the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know’ but if you ask me, that phrase has done more harm than good to a whole lot of people. If you’re with a very disrespectful, ill-mannered abusive person and you go by this phrase, you’ve unfortunately taken leave of (some) of your senses because you’re implying that the probability of getting a respectful, decent person is nil so you rather stay with the devil and be depressed.

Definitely, you’ve not dated any two ‘same’ persons with the same views and philosophies of life before? If you have, that is what you’ve conditioned yourself and your mind to so you fall in love with drama and heartache in the name of a (non-existent) relationship.

Majority of people tend to complain when they are unhappy in unfulfilled relationships and some deepen their unhappiness by reinforcing the bad behaviour and attitude of people by compromising. They rationalise the person’s shady behaviour, ignore their needs and basically linger on in those relationships long beyond their ‘use by date’. If you deeply detest an attitude or behaviour in a person which you cannot easily overlook – you’re not a fulfilled person no matter how you inject some (un)common sense into the situation/behaviour.

I can complain about all other things but I’ll need to question my sanity if I complain about issues I have the power to sort through my irresponsible and idiotic choices I made in life – meaning, if you can sort it out do it, don’t complain and wallow in pity patty. You made a choice, if it’s not helping you in anyway, unmake it.

Most of the times, you lose the respect and support people you ‘complain’ your frustrations and unhappiness to due to your ‘dishonest’ behaviour. At some point, they cannot hear your broken record over and over again. Because nothing is stable, you wear them out with the never changing story all the time. You become a needy person in need of advice all the time and an advice you’re not going to listen because your story never changes.

There’s nothing ‘manly’ or ‘womanly’ in sacrificing your happiness on the altar for a hapless relationship. You may have all the possessions, all the men/women and money in this world but your life is the most precious possession of all your entire ‘assets’ put together. Protect it!

There are people seeking for (meaningful) relationships with someone to share in their joy and happiness and you still rhyme with the ‘devil’ because he/she is what/whom you know. Has it ever occurred to you that when you’re no more, an angel will find the ‘devil’ and continue life with?



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5 thoughts on “Sacrificing Your Happiness on the Altar for a (Non-existent) Relationship-What a BS!”

  1. The first paragraph of the article cracked me up – i can love 5 men in 5 minutes by just being on my phone. Surely, people use the devil-angel phrase due to laziness and not prepared to change. if you think you may meet others who are far worse than what you have, you need to stay off relationships and ask yourself some questions. well structured article with valid good points – a must read

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    • …..and after the wedding, 6 months they want to leave because of what – everybody is marrying. There are some people in relationships now who when you ask them how they feel about the person, they have nothing good to say about them – they will bolt if they know how to wriggle themselves out

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      • Absolutely ryt. No one deserves to compromise his/her joy for any relationship/ marriage whatsoever. If bad ones exist, good ones exist too. U just have hv to pray to find them…

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  2. I was told the “I want to marry because of love” is a fairytale. ..as when a woman gets to a certain stage, they must settle….The story I hear why some people got married in the first place is so “ugly”. …I don’t want to use the word stupid. ….marriage us supposed to be done out of love…..Unfortunately. .society has turn it into something else. …Most pressure I believe is on women. ….

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