A friend invited me to an occasion and the massive crowd I met when I got to the venue nearly fazed me out (because she said it was something small). The food and drinks were not enough to go round and I left the place hungrier than when I left home.
After the occasion, I asked my friend what happened to the ‘small party’ and the non-availability of food. She said she didn’t even know where the people came from. Invitees invited others who in turn invited others.
But then, people dress up and follow people to places they don’t know….I know back home in Ghana people are always on the lookout for obituaries to attend funerals but abroad too? That’s very inconsiderate on the part of the invited guests. You don’t know people’s pocket so using their occasion as an excuse to come and entertain yourself is way below the belt. The uninvited guests are rather quick to get to the food than the invited ones.
Due to an experience I had some time ago, I don’t do ‘kogya mi (accompany me)’ stuff. A friend took us (a handful of girls) to meet her male friend for lunch. When the guy finally turned up and saw the ‘group’ stringed along – the way he looked at the girl (and us) with disgust left a very bitter taste in my mouth. Alas, Mr ‘moneybag’ was expecting to have lunch with his friend not a bunch of ‘parasites’- so I have my reservations when/if following/accompanying people to programmes/outings.
At least, we have to be considerate when people invite us to celebrate with them – of course, they won’t expect us to come alone but they are equally not expecting us to come along with friends and friends of friends. What happened to being courteous enough to ask your host if you can come with a friend or two?
If you are looking to fete your ‘gang,’ do so from your pocket and not at someone else’s expense – and by ‘doing so from your pocket’; I’m talking about not going empty handed because what I’ve realised is people who eat a lot/ do ‘give me give me’ find it hard to part with their money and sometimes very stingy. They close their fist but expect others to give them.
I’m not even going to bother talking about the ‘food/drink’ hoarders/packers who package their takeaway (for the following days meal) when everyone has not had their share…..Exhibiting a high level of greed which can only take you to one place – the loo!
If it’s an ‘outdooring’, weddings or funerals; we have to keep in mind that the host needs the money more than anything else so stringing people along in the name of ‘adding flavour’ to the occasion is really uncalled for…..If you don’t get food, don’t complain – your gang ate your portion.