As a woman, getting into the bed of a man matters a lot to me and I place value on getting intimate with any man. More importantly, as an African woman, I did not grow up with casual s*x being part of my upbringing so I’ve not been part of that world.
However, living in America has taught me a lot. I have come across several women who see nothing about casual s*x. I even have friends who have such arrangements with men—and they call these men-banging mates.
I cannot understand how they are able to sleep with people who they have no affection for, or do not have any long term plans with—but it works for them and as such, I respect their position.
What I’ve realize about most men that I’ve met is, even if you open your legs for them on the first day you meet them or after your first date, they will gladly jump in there and do whatever they want for you. The psychology of men when it comes to intimacy is pretty ‘messed up’.
Despite the fact that I know several women who are in the banging mate and casual bang world, I also know those who have rules as to when it is right to go into the bedroom with a man—no matter how cute, rich, intelligent or promising the man seems to be.
Interestingly, I have been told that a man who will stay will stay and the one who will leave will leave, no matter how long or quick you open your legs for him. So a man can follow a woman for 1 year and eventually when he gets what he wants, he will disappear into thin air. Same way, you can meet a guy today and open your legs for him today and he will stay with you—and not disappear.
I’ve had some bad experiences with ghost men, who just disappear after sometimes—even though I make them wait for at least 2 months before getting intimate. To me, making a man wait too long will push him away and giving him your precious pie too quick will also make you seem cheap.
Therefore, a minimum of two months wait is my rule, before I will get into bed with any person. It has worked but not always…
The question I am asking is; what is your rule? Has it worked? What has your experience been? How long do you make them wait or do you wait before getting into bed? And what is the quickest someone has wanted it from you? If you are a man reading this, tell us about your experience too…
I do not have any set time but I will never go into bed with a man on first meeting and first date. That sounds like one night stand. At least there must be 3 or more dates and that will be a month and over. Which means at that time I would have decided what I want. if i am not interested then nothing happens.
Some men can be really stupid. I once met a guy who did not even want a date he invited me straight to his house and I was like, Mister, do you need a call girl’s number? google can help you. Do I look like some call girl to meet you and next day come to your house?
Hehehe, my rips. Lol
3months is normal, by then you will know if he’s really worth the relationship or not. Now ladies sleeps with men after first day and this same guys will go around calling them hoe’s. Most women have lost their values to these rascals we called men. To me build a friendship for 3 months and then starts the dating and sex after.
3 months? you must be joking. Which man is going to be dating you fro 3 months without anything like that? Me I want it even the same night tweaaaa
hahahaha woy3 bad eish there are good ones ooo.. Some are even virgins lol
I will stand to oppose sex before marriage anytime no matter hw long the relationship has lasted or hw many dates u have been on. Think about it, if u have to date about 3 or 4 men (since very few people marry the first man or woman they date these days), before marriage, imagine the number of beds you would have warmed before ur husband’s. And men can talk (sry guys). I think its safer and worth the wait before marriage.
You must be living in some cave. No sex before marriage? Which man will buy a car in this modern day without test driving it. This girl paa tweaaaa
Well, comparing a human being with a car? Anyway, dats ur opinion n its well respected. Sam men have by the way, n dey loved it.
Hmm is possible but the same time very hard. The right way is what Jsa listed but we humans are immortal and can go wrong every day and night so best lol is to do it small bi p3 lol
I second you, for that is what God’s word teaches us. Guess, ple do their own thing these days…of course, there are good men. Especially lots of white men are really really gentle n honest… just have mutual understanding between u two, no deceit no lies n it goes on so well, ends up in marriage…from experience.
it’s a nice experience tho,but not always great to do that cos not all men are the same it depends on the kind of person u do it with u just have to be extra careful
and setting a time for yourself when to have s****x with the guy u just met is totally nonsense let nature do it own thing cos u didnt plan on when u will meet the guy for him to propose to u. So when the three month is up u will tell yourself its now three or four month i can have sex with him….hahhaahhahaha whether u have sex with him in a short time or long u have done it no matter the duration every sin is a sin there is nothing like big or small sin…hahahahahhahahaha
but u can choose to at least just have a romance with him or something than to push him away having that stupid thoughts in mind saying u want it to be 3month or whatever months b4 u do it