Just like certain things were cool then, but do not today come anywhere close to being cool—a lot has changed in relation to what creates the needed sense of attraction between men and women, capable of starting or sustaining a relationship.
Over the weekend, I caught up with two old school mates from Adisadel College in London, one I have not seen for over 10 years. The reunion created a ‘funfair of conversations’, sharing with each other what we’ve learnt, come across and have studied since we departed College.
From political philosophy to moral philosophy, and from Religion to International Politics via Egyptian History, we took turns to share our views on various world developments. Though we hardly agreed on anything, we respected the many views that were expressed—and somehow, we landed on the discussion of today’s women.
On this subject, we all quickly agreed that gradually most men including ourselves have been hit by a new wave of what amounts to attractiveness, leaving behind what some years back were enough to get any of us considering a relationship with a woman.
Taking our minds back and searching for answers, we looked at how just some few years ago; the appearance (beauty) of a woman was the strongest defining factor in catching our attention. Nothing really mattered then, men would talk endlessly about a ‘FLY’ girl they’ve met, whose beauty transcends anything capable of being used as a measure.
It was those beautiful women with fine legs, faces, long weaves, fake nails and eye lashes who were crowned Queens in the hearts and minds of men. We couldn’t stop laughing about the number of hours we wasted in College, hanging out with many of such women as we enjoyed our ‘superficial’ in and out relationships with these beauties—then called, ‘epitome of beauty’.
But things seem to have changed, not just for the 3 of us who sat down to delve into this but for the many men we know and from the many views we’ve come across. And all of us wanted an answer to the question; what changed?
Strangely, what is attractiveness in the sense of having the pull force to draw a man’s attention to a woman has totally changed—with a woman’s appearance no more sitting on top of the scale of preference.
