Reading the various articles on the KKD alleged rape case, I steered myself away from the usual ‘is he guilty or not’ argument and focused on the numerous lessons the case presented for ladies out there. Thinking of the daughter I would have one day, I begun to jot down these lessons to serve as guiding principles for her.
My dear, I want you to know your mummy, daddy and siblings love you very much and are proud of the woman you are growing to become. We will support you no matter what and will stand by your side through the many struggles. I want you to know that you are a woman of substance who knows what she stands for and will never allow anybody to change that. As much as you seem to be mature, there are still things I would love to share with you.
Everybody has been brought up differently thus are bound to differ in personality and principles. I don’t want you to go out there thinking everyone is just like you. Not all that glitters is golden.
I want you to know that people respond to what you present them with. Some do not care about who you truly are, they are only moved by what they see. So if you go out there dressed half-naked, and act and dance like a s*x goddess, then you will get a swarm of hungry men around you who would do anything to get you in the sack and they most likely think you want the same. And when I say anything I mean anything—even if it means buying you a phone, car or even a house. Some of them will pretend to love and care about you and before you know it, my dear, your panties are off.
Whenever you are out, stick with your friends at all times. Treat every stranger, yes that includes that hot guy and any celebrity or role model, as a potential danger. No matter how ‘cool’ the person seems, I want you to know that they are human just like you and I. They eat, sleep, fart, shit, cry and laugh just like we do. And they can hurt you too.
Always guard your drink and if left unattended just let it go. You can buy another one. And mind you, buy your own drinks and don’t act like you are too poor to do so. If you are broke, forfeiting drinks and food won’t kill you.
As much as everyone seems to be drinking alcohol and it allows you to loosen up and have fun, I want you to know it also lowers your guard and sets you up for negative situations you would later regret. Get high on your happiness and keep your mind sound. Whilst you are at it, stay away from cigarettes and weed and shisha.
