This is may seem desperate but she is just putting in extra effort so to find what she wants—something most women will not do, even though they may so much want that particular man they would want to call HUSBAND.
Ayana Evans, the woman above needs a husband and therefore she is not leaving it to chance—so she decided to place a sign at her back, saying, ‘I Just Came Here to Find A Husband’.
Demetria Lucas D’Oyley, in a piece for The Root, reached out to Evans, a performance artist, to find out why she wears the sign.
“As an artist, when I have a block and I can’t think of anything to make art about, it usually means I’m not being honest about something. There have been a lot of points where I have been desperate about finding a husband, feeling anxious, wondering, “When is it going to happen? Where am I going to meet him?” I’m not proud of that, but that’s definitely how I felt. I haven’t been in a relationship in six years. I realized worrying about getting married was something I edit out a lot in work. So I was like, “All right, let’s make a piece about how I feel.”
Then Lucas D’Oyley asked her if she’s wearing the sign for art or for male attention.
“It’s both. I go to a lot of places hoping to meet someone, but not with a lot of faith that it’s going to happen. This is me just putting it all out there about what I want, whereas before I would spend a lot of time and put a lot of effort into pretending like finding a life partner was not on my mind. I didn’t want anyone to see me as thirsty or desperate. Now I rather just deal with it head on and let it all hang out.
If someone comes up to me that I think is cute, is a great candidate, and I’m like, “Wow, you’re intelligent, you make me laugh,” am I going to go for it? Yes!”
And interestingly enough, Ayana says that the sign has actually opened some doors.
“I haven’t met any new guys I’m interested in yet. But there is a residual effect. You don’t meet anyone new, but maybe someone who likes you hadn’t said anything before, now he has a reason to call and be like, “So I saw a picture. … Maybe we should have lunch?”
Interestingly, Ayana Evans mentioned that, the moment she acknowledged her own desperation about finding a man, a husband specifically, the pressure was alleviated.