She’s beautiful and I hear she was kind.
That’s life; no one knows when it will end for another.
The first question I asked when I saw my friend lament over her death was—was she happy?
If she had a designer bag, an expensive pair of shoes, a lot of money in her bank accounts–she wouldn’t take any of them with her. In fact, these things are worthless now, at least to her.
Mostly, the things we aggressively chase, when we die, get thrown away or go to the people we even hate for them to have.
Life is a journey full of uncertainties and therefore leaving anything important to chance or tomorrow is not just absurd, it also means you have no understanding and appreciation of life.
People have no time to spend with those that matter–hoping when they have made enough money one day, they will then make time for these people. What if, you die or they die before then?
Yesterday, I got into a mini-phone fight with a friend of mine from Law School, she got married in Ghana and moved there to join her husband. 4 months after birth, she is going back to work–the reason she called me was to ask that she buys an electric breast pump and send to my address, so that when I am coming to Ghana, I will bring it to her.
Just 4 months after birth, she is going back to work–to chase money to the neglect or detriment of the child, I said. That ignited an argument, with her saying, she is doing what’s best for her child–and I said, NO: your child did not have a say in this.
She said her in-law will take care of the 4 months baby–so it’s fine. I replied: “did your in-law give birth to her?” Contemporary family sucks–both parents will leave for work as early as 6 am and get home around 6 or 7 pm, Monday to Friday–what valuable time will any of the parents have with the child?
Let me tell you a story–I am one of those who spent their childhood with their grandmother a lot. So when I came to London, I always said I will do some provision shopping and send to her, at least 3 times in a year.
Guess what: I kept procrastinating–and one day, all I heard was that, she was dead.
So a few years ago, I cleared all my bank accounts, to build a beautiful 3 bedroom ‘own’ suite house for my mother. She asked that I put the house in my name since it was my money. I told her NO: it’s for her, it should be in your name and you die, give it to whoever you want.
I am sure I will find another money and build my own.
Of course, a lot of people would want to first sort themselves out fully, build their own beautiful house first–hoping they will be able to build one for their parents or those they care about later.
For me, my mother was about 53 years then, and I didn’t want to repeat the mistake I made with my grandmother–what if she died too?
If my mother passes away today, it will be painful but not as painful as when my grandmother died–because, whatever I so wish to do for her as a son, I have.
A lot of us live luxuriously but when you see even where their parents sleep, you will cry your eyes out.
Do not leave anything important to chance or tomorrow–for all we have is today, everything else is a gamble.
If you wish to put a smile on anyone’s face, do it today–and don’t try to sort yourself out first before the people you really care about. Because you will never finish sorting yourself out completely. Remember, human beings have insatiable wants.
Once again; I hope she was happy–and the briefly that she lived, she managed to do the things that were on her heart.
My condolence to her family–and may she rest in peace.
This article was first published on GhanaCelebrities.Com.
Chris-Vincent Agyapong is the Founding Editor of GhanaCelebrities.Com, a Film Critic and a Human Rights Advocate. He holds a masters degree in International Human Rights Law (LL.M), holds a degree in Law (LL.B), and he’s currently at Nottingham Law School, studying for his Legal Practice Course (with a second masters degree in Law) to practise as a UK Solicitor–he’s a Professional Truth Sayer. He is also the author of the popular eBook “Success is a Right, Not A Privilege.”