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‘Love’ Over: Fight Or Flight?

  We’ve all been through relationships and breakups. It’s a part of life. Unless you married the first girl/guy you met and ‘fell in love’ with, most of us will have more failed relationships than successful ones. When relationships end, the fight or flight instinct becomes an automatic reaction especially if the other person did … Read more

Being The Other Child: Why Having Children Outside Wedlock Does Not Pay

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It is not uncommon to see a lot of married men in Ghana having relationships outside marriage, most times leading to ‘illegitimate’ children. These men have numerous and different reasons why they decide to go outside their marriages. Whilst some men may have gone out because the women they married could not bear children, there are others who despite having children with their wives, still go outside the marriage to engage in illicit affairs.

These children, through no fault of theirs grow up facing a lot of challenges. Often times, the men may never marry their mothers thus robbing them the opportunity of growing up in a well functioning family unit.

A friend of mine who was the ‘other child’ recounts how growing up she could only see her father once a week, sometimes not seeing him for up to a month. She didn’t make much of this and thought it was normal until she noticed that all her other friends were actually living with two parents. She does not have a close relationship with her father now that she is all grown up because he missed a great part of her childhood.

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Where Are All The ‘Good’ Men?

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…..Right under your nose; that is where all the good men are!! Good men are all around you but they’re hiding in the same room as you. You may consider yourself a good woman; you may even consider yourself a bad girl. I just think that most times when women say they can’t find a good man, it’s indicative of the fact that they’ve already shown the good men they aren’t worth their time. Some are not ready to get off their high horses and realise that the world does not revolve around them.

Some ladies complain about the ‘bad girls’ getting all the ‘will you marry me’ vibes so what I have noticed with some is they try their very best to pull the ‘bad girl’ look and attitude to get the men BUT it is not every man who prides himself with marrying a bad girl and some of these ‘play acting bad girls’ are losing men – and I mean good men.. The truth of the matter is (or my truth is) that good men aren’t attracted to bad women when they intend to settle down. If they’re looking for bed mates and all, yeah, the ‘bad girls’ fit in perfectly for that purpose.

It is not only ladies who act the bad girls they’re not; some men do the same. They have this general assertion that women like ‘stupid/players/jerk’ and any lady they come across, they want to act, talk and behave like one and they’re not even ‘wired’ that way. Even if the majority supposedly carries the vote, remember there is always a minority who don’t see life in black and white. Acting bad or ‘stupid’ is also pretending because a good person will not pretend (you have to be good to expect good). Allow the bad/stupid lovers to pick what they prefer and the ‘down to earth’ ones to choose what they desire.

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FOR THE LADIES: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…

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I have a lady friend who is in her later 30s. She is still single and searching for the “right” man to marry. She recently told me about her involvement in a singles group on facebook. The group is a blind date page where single ones are expected to meet their life partners.

All time that I have been friends with her (3 years now), one thing I’ve noticed about my friend  is that she is very desperate for a husband. She told me about a man whom she had found on facebook who lives in the states. I advised her about the dangers of blind date (although she is far older than me, she confides in me a lot).

I asked her these questions afterwards. How does he feel about you? Does he like you? What are the chances of a relationship with him?

I continued by asking her these questions.  How do you feel about yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you enjoy spending time with yourself? If you don’t, why would you expect anyone else to?

This is a person who needs a man and yet doesn’t enjoy spending time with herself. This means she doesn’t feel complete without another person in her life. Her life is dependent on another person.

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‘Let’s Take A Break’ = Prelude To Moving On

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Relationships can sometimes suffocate. When feelings start wearing off, boredom sets in or one begins to feel he/she needs a major overhaul. During that period is when some partners decide to take a step back to re-evaluate the relationship by spending some time apart. Spending time apart is not necessarily a bad thing, but alarm bells definitely starts ringing when the time spent apart gets unnecessarily longer than normal. It’s a step which makes or breaks a relationship.

‘Let’s take a break’ from a relationship of 4 months or less is one not to invest heart and energy into. Don’t keep your fingers crossed. It was a testing mic period. The person more or less is ‘trying’ to tell you ‘I didn’t see clearly, we’re done, so therefore, go hit up whoever you need to, you’re no longer my concern’ – That kind of break. If you’re dealing with a ‘comedian’, he/she will initiate a ‘let’s be apart to see if we want this relationship to work out’. For this kind of short-term relationships, I don’t think one need to even waste their time dreaming up a way to do a runner, just go.

I personally think taking a little break (a week or two maximum) can be seen as a rejuvenation of the relationship, so partners return to each other stronger and healthier. It actually help clear the confusions and frustrations internally (if any), and help both of you focus on your own faults and desires in the relationship. At their best, breaks allow couples to realize how special what they have really is, but more often than not, couples use them to avoid problems that needs solving or they are fed up solving the same problems over and over again. Whatever issues couples have won’t be solved by being apart for months on end. If you can’t address or work through your issues – move on!!

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Find Out Here If Your Boyfriend Serious About You

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According to a research by Monarch Airlines, if your boyfriend is doing most of the top 50 things below, then he is serious about you and the relationship.

The research claims that, planning a holiday, driving each others’ cars and having a key to your partner’s flat, meeting his parents and him saying ‘I love you’ are all signs that the relationship has gotten serious…

To establish this,  2,000 people were asked to reveal the top 50 things which indicate a couple are past the ‘seeing each other’ phase.

Now, be bold and check below to see if your boyfriend is really serious about…

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He/She Is Mistreating/Disrespecting You….Because You Allow It

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We tend to complain when people disrespects and mistreats us in relationships and we just allow it to continue. The general consensus is that, it is men who are the worst offenders but I think it’s some women who have sent a clear message to them that they’ll accept anything including being disrespected and abused. I am not making excuses for them but as women, we unknowingly sow the ‘I’ll accept any crap’ seeds into the mind of a man because we want something in return from them; so when those seeds germinate in their minds, they treat the women accordingly.

You often hear people complain ‘he/she treats me like an idiot’…but who allowed him/her to treat you like an idiot in the first place? The reality is until you allow somebody to disrespects or mistreat you, it won’t happen. Most of us, if not all, have in one way or the other been disrespected by others and either we sought ways to end it, allow it or believed we deserved that treatment because of whatever the person is doing for us.

The first time people tend to mistreat/disrespect, we just give them the benefit of the doubt (just find excuses for them as to why they’re doing that), then if it happens again, it’s either we take the decision of not associating ourselves with them or just tell them (non-verbally) that ‘I’m fine with this so you’re at liberty to just go on doing it’.

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READERS’ MAIL: Am I WRONG If I Never Date A Black Woman Again? It Has Been A Nightmare…

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After having spent many of my valuable years treating the black women I’ve dated as Queens and in return being treated like a piece of rag on all occasions, I’ve come to realize that the unfaithfulness, level of arrogance and non-appreciation of good deeds by black women cuts across…

Apart from the element of confusion as to what most black women want when it comes to men, those I’ve dated have given me no joy and have ended up cheating, disrespecting me and under some gross circumstances even stolen from me.

Open your heart to some black woman and they will deceivingly milk you out until you have nothing left in your bank account—-this has happened to me.

Living in Europe, I’ve also experience extensive arrogance from all the black women I’ve dated with all of them always finding reasons not to say SORRY even when they are at fault or have done the unacceptable.

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Marriage Is When You Treat Your Mate Utmost With Respect |Understanding Marriage

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It is obvious that men and women communicate differently, and they have unique needs. A woman may long to share her feelings openly and often. Many men, on the other hand, try to preserve peace by solving problems quickly and avoiding thorny issues.

By treating your mate with respect, you can bridge these differences and communicate with your husband or wife.A respectful person values others and seeks to understand their feelings. In Ghana, a person is taught from infancy to respect those who have more authority or experience than he or she has.

In marriage, however, the challenge is to show respect to someone with whom you are on more of an equal footing. One might listen patiently and speak respectfully to friends and even strangers. Yet, when it comes to his/her marriage, he/she is not considerate to his/her mate.

Disrespect creates tension in the home and leads to bitter conflict. How then can one communicate respectfully?

Many people like to talk more than they like to listen. Before you talk, listen. Why? (I choose to answer this question with another question) How would you understand what a person is really talking about if you do not listen to him/her? (Think seriously about it)

On the other hand, some men and women hesitate to express themselves and feel uncomfortable if their mate pressures them to talk about their feelings. If you and your mate need to talk about something potentially divisive, raise the matter when both of you are calm and relaxed.

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Are You Tired? Because You’ve Been Running Round My Mind All Night | Worst Chat-up Lines Revealed

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Even though about 95 per cent of girls surveyed by new dating app Flirt Planet said they would be unlikely to fall for for charms of a man using pick up lines like; ‘I’m looking for treasure, can I look around your chest?’—many men continue to throw out similar lines.

In fact the chat up line ‘I like your dress but it would look better on my bedroom floor,’ was named by the survey as the worst…

As we look at some of the world’s worst chat up lines being randomly thrown out by guys looking to score girls interest, share with us some of the weird and interesting lines you’v ever heard…

I like your dress – but it would look better on my bedroom floor.

Are you Jamaican? Because you’re Jamaican me crazy…

Is your father a thief? Because he must have stolen your eyes from heaven.

Are you tired? Because you’ve been running round my mind all night.

You look like a parking ticket – because you’ve got fine written all over you.

Did it hurt – falling from heaven?

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Preparing Yourself to Escape A Heartbreak

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I was once chatting with a friend on facebook when he asked me to find him a girlfriend. I proceeded to ask him his intention of wanting to have for himself a girlfriend. His answer was quite shocking to me. All that he was interested in was a girlfriend he could date for fun, since almost all his friends were into relationships. To cut a long story short, he was never concerned about the emotional stress he would take somebody’s daughter through.

A psychoanalyst once said love is the only enterprise which is started with incredible hopes and expectations and yet fails regularly.

When a romance fails, the result is often pain and heartbreak. And the sad fact of life is that the only sure way to avoid getting a broken heart is to avoid getting romantically involved in the first place.

Dating is a serious business in which one embarks on to select a suitable marriage mate. Nevertheless, the very nature of dating often makes it somewhat of a trial-and-error process. So it is not unusual for two people to begin dating with the best of intentions, only to find that they simply are not suitable for each other as marriage mates.

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Taking A Walk Down Courtship Lane…

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In ‘intimate’ relationships, we date/court people (I call the evaluation stage), and maybe, decide to marry. Courtship/dating (some people use it interchangeably) is some kind of ‘test the mic’ situations people go through together as they prepare for marriage and it is very important (in our present day and age) in building a strong bond. One cannot be extremely alert in life because we cannot walk on egg shells all the time. We sometimes let our guards down in relationships because we can’t co-exist if we don’t place a level of trust/acceptance in our relationships.

Lately, during courtship period, we wear the love-tinted glasses to pursue whatever we seek in a spouse. Some people place emphasis on the length of relationship as the main factor when they want to settle down and others use ‘love’ as their yardstick during the ‘testing’ period.

The reason for courtship is to get to know the person, not the body. The courting period is the time to talk and know if you’re comfortable with what you can live with/without and what you cannot ‘accommodate’.  Your individual beliefs, thoughts, feelings, needs and expectations (but not mountain high expectations) should be put into consideration. Sometimes it is not the level of compatibility that holds the marriage together; it is the ability of couples to manage their inevitable differences.

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Marriage Is Not The Wedding…It Is The Life After

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When a young woman marries/settles down, one can easily tell the marriage is a fresh one. Their way of dancing in church is different, if you’re talking to one, it’s better to protect your eyes because the left hand never stops waving in the air….In short, it’s all about showing whoever cares to know that she is now a Mrs (somebody).

There is a huge difference between a wedding and a marriage. Unfortunately, some if not majority of these young couples either forget or do not know that marriage is not the wedding and the flaunting of rings – but it is the life after the wedding and they just fail to plan for the afterlife (marriage life after the wedding). A wedding lasts a day, a marriage lasts a lifetime.

Weddings are fun and full of celebration; indeed there is much to celebrate when two people are joining their lives together. But in the planning, and all that goes into the wedding’s festivities, there is a measure of realism that is lost. So many couples-and women especially, I believe are guilty of this–go into the whole thinking that they want to be “married” but they don’t think beyond the altar.

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DO YOU KNOW THAT: Childless Couples ‘Have The Happiest Marriages’

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Though many married couples cite the birth of their first child as the happiest day of their lives, a new study has found that childless couples are in fact more happily married—-than those who have children.

According to the  study by the Open University, people without children are more satisfied with their relationships and more likely to feel valued by their partner.

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The Telegraph Reports;

Open University study finds that when people were asked to rate the quality of their relationship those without children emerged as happier overall.

For centuries, having children has been held up by many as the ultimate source of fulfilment and meaning in life.

However, according to one of the biggest studies ever conducted into Britain’s relationships, childless couples have happier marriages.

The project has found that people without children are more satisfied with their relationships and more likely to feel valued by their partner than couples with children.

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Forget The Love Songs; Love Is More Complicated Than That!

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“I will replace my heart with a battery and give you mine to use.” “Because of the love I have for you, I will buy you the world.” “I will take you to the moon for you to know that my love for you is real.” “M3ky3 m’akoma na mama wo half” (I’ll divide my heart into two and give you half). All these are but a few lines from some love songs.

The simplest definition that I can assign to love is a strong affection for someone that includes sexual desire.

For many centuries, we have been hearing countless of songs that talk about love. Be it Rhythm & Blues, Hi-life, Hiplife, Country, Pop, Soul, etc…

Love songs extol true love and sometimes lament love lost. Most, if not all of the songs have strong musical appeal. From their tuneful melodies via heartrending lyrics to danceable rhythms. They touch emotions and can create an almost hypnotic romantic mood.

Do love songs promote a realistic view of romantic love?

Love songs celebrate a world of melodrama and tortured passion, in which love often finds the perfect resolution. Unfortunately, perfect love is very scarce and hard to find in real life. Yet, love songs make us think this is so easy and simple.

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Do You Want Him To Pop The Question? – Don’t Worry; Here Are 5 Tips To Get You That Ring In 2014!

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We are in a new year and if you are like me, you are still wondering how the heck you are still without that ring. It doesn’t help much that during the festive period, wedding invitations increased by exponential proportions. Every time I go for any wedding, I keep wondering how the bride was able to get that ring.

Not to worry, together with a few single friends like me, in consultation with some new brides, we have put together  the absolutely most-do tips for any single girl looking to end next year-2014 in style. Forget any other advice you may have been adhering to, it obviously doesn’t work.

Be best friends with his Mum: This is very tricky as it could either go well for you or may very well end your relationship. Being best friend’s with your boo’s Mum entails shopping for her, calling her up frequently to check up on her, adding her to your friends list on Social Media, taking selfies with her and tagging it with captions like —‘God has done it for me, I have the best mother-in-law to be’. There’s is so much more you can do to solidify your relationship with his Mum. Don’t forget the basic like doing household chores like cooking, washing, cleaning etc anytime you visit her home.

Adopt a more natural beauty regime: Ladies, how do you expect your boyfriend to propose if your nails cut him anytime he holds your hands. Or if your eyelashes are so long that he can’t even see your eyes? If you are really serious about getting that highly coveted ring and a MRS title in 2014, you might want to consider trying a much more natural look. If possible, start using black thread to plait your hair, forget your MAC cosmetics and just settle for ‘STAY talcum powders’.  There is a law that states that the more natural you look, the more likely you are to become a MRS.

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THE BIG QUESTION: Do Tribal Marriages Really Last Longer?

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Since I was a child, my aunties have always hammered into my ears the need to marry from our tribe.

They claim it is more secure, it is forever, it will last long and he and his family will treat me like family because we consider ourselves one. Almost like going home with a sibling. He will treat you well and not take undue advantage of you.

I sit and I wonder why they lied to me. I am not one to follow regular dogma; I know the marriages of my aunties (who have all married from the tribe) are not perfect. Even my mother is not a happy woman. But all these women, they had other suitors, very good suitors. Most of whom they did not accept to be with simply because they were not from our tribe.

Flimsy excuse if you ask me. Just like a smile, love has no language so therefore, it has no linguistic barriers.

If marrying from your tribe is really a proof, why are they not happy wives? I think there is only one auntie I know who has sovereignty in her home and marriage. There’s one whose husband beats her so often I think it has affected her mentally, because I always have to reintroduce myself every time we meet. There’s another whose husband is a chronic womanizer who openly cheats on her. But they still live together and pretend all is well.

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Are Ghanaian Women Less Adventurous In The Bedroom? My Friend Thinks So!

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In light of the Christmas festivities, I was trying to get in touch with a few old friends I hadn’t spoken to in a while.  During one of the catch up conversations about what was happening in town, the conversation miraculously shifted to the bedroom antics of women of different cultures and races.

According to my friend, due to the way women are brought up in Ghana, they are generally very timid in the bedroom. He attributed that to the fact that girls whiles growing up have been taught that sex is a bad act, the result of which is unwanted pregnancy. As such most girls grow up with the mindset that sex is only for procreation, and they generally lack the willingness to explore all the pleasures that it has to offer. He further went on to say that he has never met a Ghanaian woman who has ever initiated the act.

Contrary to the Ghanaian women approach, he argued that women of other cultures have a more open mind towards sex. American women especially are very adventurous in the bedroom and are always willing to try out new things in order to reach maximum satisfaction. ‘Seks’ is not only for procreation purposes but a means to explore the unimaginable sensual pleasures that can be derived from the body.

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How Many Guys Have You Slept With- Does The Numbers Really Count?

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Almost always, whenever you start talking to a new guy, you are bound to be asked this dreaded question-‘ How many guys have you been with’? Now ladies, even though this might appear as a harmless question, any guy that asks that is looking to form certain kind of impression about you depending on your answer.

Now if you are not yet sexually active, then you are in the clear and you have nothing to worry about. This is because what the guy actually wants  is the number of guys you have been involved with sexually.

Now here comes the tricky part. Let me first start by making some informed assumptions. Let’s say like the average woman, you started having sex at the age of 18 with the first guy you fell in love with. After dating for 2 years you realised he has changed from the sweet loving guy you knew to a cold hearted person. At 20, you are a single lady looking to mingle. You have a couple of flings with some guys you were attracted to. None of it led to a committed relationship but you had sex with at least one of these guys.

Then you meet your prince charming and start another relationship with him. Six (6) months later, you realise your prince charming is not so charming after all. He is a liar and a cheat. Now at 21 you are ready for something serious. You decide to stay off guys for some time. After a one year hiatus, you meet the perfect gentleman for you. Your start off a relationship with him and it lasts for 4 years.  Unfortunately it didn’t lead to marriage as you hoped and you are now 26 years looking for a serious relationship.

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How To Deal With Heartbreak-Part 1

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At some point in your life (if not already) the proverbial “shit happens” and all you want to do after that is figure out how to get over a broken heart. If it hasn’t happened already, it might or you may just be one of those lucky few who are able to cruise through their entire life with just one loving mate. But to the awful tons of people who aren’t that lucky and have broken up, still crying their hearts out over a dead relationship or still licking their wounds, this may be an eye opener.

Life can be harsh at times and break-ups can be painful, but you’ve got to move along. Your ex partner has moved on, haven’t they? So what’s holding you back? I know it’s hard and it will take a while to get past it but there’s no happy ending in looking for a little ray of sunshine by hovering around.

Perhaps the break up was mutual (most mutual break ups don’t hurt that much) but if your heart still aches and you’re the only one suffering then my guess is that you are still in love with your ex. And the love is one sided! If it was real ‘mutual’ love (till both your dying breaths) then why did they walk out and why are they having fun right now whilst you gorge your eyes out?

Yes, I know he/she was the only one that mattered to you and now your heart is split in two and you don’t think you can last a minute without that person by your side but trust me, it will pass. Some of us survived it and so can you.

As difficult as it may seem, you need to understand that you have mourned enough.  To help you along that journey of self discovery and acceptance of the fact that there are many more fish in the sea, here is every single thing you need to do to ensure a speedy recovery and a quick jump into happy land…

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When ‘Being Nice’ Is Mistaken For ‘Being Flirty/Interested’

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Kindness/being nice has become so rare that people mistake it for flirting (it happens both ways). People mistake kindness for flirting all/most the time. A man saying just a hello or complimenting a woman on her fashion sense/hairstyle or even a smile sends wrong warning signals to her brain.

Some thoughts such as ‘are you sure you’re not interested in what lies underneath’ or ‘he wants someone to warm his bed’ starts running through her mind. Sex propositions are veiled against majority of men whenever they interact with a woman because in a woman’s world, a man cannot pass a compliment just for anything but a stepping stone to what he is after.

It is not only men whose niceness gets mistaken for flirting but women also experience the ‘she is hitting’ on me vibes. It seems  you cannot talk to a guy and smile at him and have a general conversation without him thinking you’re into him. It is sad because sometimes you just want to be friends with people but it gets all awkward when they strongly believe you’re flirting with them. If you’re friendly to them, they think you want them or you’re the next ‘available’ woman who is in dire need of a husband.

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IAmSassyChic.Com: What Your Date May Ask You The First Time & How To Answer Him!

From IAmSassyChic.Com It is not that your date will grill you the first time and he may not be looking for the ‘right’ answers from you per say. He just wants to be sure that you are honest on a lot of things. If you are not careful with the answers you give, you may … Read more

Jealousy…The Road To Death

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A Ghanaian man, Minta Adiddo was yesterday jailed in London for 17 years for stabbing his wife, Akua Agyeman, 32, fifteen times before attempting to run her over with his car over suspicion she was cheating with their neighbour. The mother of 2 spent two months in hospital before giving up the ghost. He as usual blamed his actions on the devil. A young vibrant life lost because of insecurity and ‘maybe’ unfounded suspicion.

Human emotions get the better part of some people, and this includes women in relationships, Jealousy has torn apart many a relationship over the years. It verges on and has easily crossed the lines of paranoia and obsessive behaviour which has led some to be violent to their partners and some to their early graves. Whatever form a man’s jealousy takes, the root cause is always the same: insecurity. Many ladies misread the signs when entering into a relationship with a jealous man, interpreting his possessive behaviour as caring, loving or even romantic.

Jealousy is excruciatingly uncomfortable. People sometimes try to make themselves feel better by trying to get their partner jealous. Don’t do this. Flirting with other men or women all the time in front of your partner; constantly saying how attractive, fun and going out of your way to talk about past lovers just demeans you and won’t make either of you feel better in the relationship. Some people confuse make-believe with reality. Making another jealous to ‘measure’ their worth of love is absurdity.

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Does Technology Ease The Pressure On Long Distance Relationships?

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Couples get separated for a variety of reasons. Due to modern mobility, some people choose to maintain their relationships even when far apart—and others start relationships with people living miles apart from them. They rely on communication technologies to keep the relationship afloat.

Unlike before where communicating with loved ones was through the writing of letters and then phone calls, things are much easier now and have made long-distance relationships more common. The answer to why people (I know) have decided to give the long-distance relationship a try because is because of the sophistication in technology.

Even though, our culture (especially, when it involves married couples) emphasizes being together physically and frequent face-to-face contact for close relationships; long-distance relationships clearly stand against all these values. But others believe people should not be so pessimistic about long-distance romance.

Looking at communicating when in long-distance relationships, technology has really made it easier, skyping, texting, whatsapping etc., but does technology really ease the pressure on this type of relationship? Does technology establish the one ingredient needed in relationships – trust?

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What Are The Relationship Deal Breakers For You? | GC Staff Writer Shares Hers…

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So last Friday was girl’s night and with a couple of friends, we decided to hit town to cool off a bit. It was a weekly ritual that became a monthly to what it is now; once in a while when there was a juicy gist to share. I love spending time with my girls and I always looked forward to having one of these nights out.

On this particular night, the gist of the day, or should I say night was my friend who I would refer to as Remy for the purpose of this discussion.

She told us about this guy she had started seeing. She liked a lot of things about the guy; he was caring, kind, gentle and many other qualities some girls only get to dream about. There was just one problem: the guy couldn’t eat without opening his mouth. She said anytime they dined out, the guy would make it a point to start talking about something once the food hits his mouth.  And it was at that point in time that he will get enthusiastic about whatever he was talking about.

She said her worst experience with him was one time when the guy had just ingested yam and nkontomire stew, and he went ahead to display the unsightly combination of food in his mouth. She said she stopped looking at the guy the same way after that incident, and anytime she was about to kiss him a vision of the yam and stew combo in his mouth would appear, causing her to be hesitant about the kissing. According to her she was going to put a stop to their relationship because she just couldn’t get over his bad eating and talking habit.

After a few drinks and laughter, we all proceeded to talk about our own irks when it comes to the guys we were dating. I realized that most times, you don’t often know something irks you until you actually get to experience it.

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Women Cheat On Their Partners Because They Wear Socks During ‘Love Making’ | Top 5 Reasons Why Married Women CHEAT Revealed!

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It has emerged that, wearing socks during sex and dirty talking in the bedroom are some of the reasons that push women to cheat on their partners—pretty a lame excuse…right?

Victoria Milan, a dating website that helps people find extramarital affairs, surveyed more than 4,000 women to uncover the top five bad habits that lead to infidelity and shockingly, some married women cheat because their men wore socks in bed…

Also, stealing the sheets at night which is termed as not-being a gentleman and being narcissistic (only pleasuring one’s self, rather than their partner) are among the bad habits that contribute to women’s extramarital behavior..

According to the website; ‘Little things like stealing her covers, keeping his socks on white making love, or checking the dreadful smartphone,’ are all ungentlemanly gestures that turn women off, reads a statement issued by the site.

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