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When ‘I Can’t Live Without You’ is NOT A Compliment/Undying Love

05/23/2015 3:59 pm

‘I can’t live without you’ – sounds romantic right? You can proudly pat yourself on the back that you’re their oxygen. Yes – words can win some people’s hearts but some are not necessarily compliments. Some people saying the “I can’t live without you” statement probably are just trying to emphasize how much they feel love for someone. They, therefore, are not to be taken as speaking literal truth. They might be saying it light-heartedly or just because it seems like the romantic thing to say. Of course, some might say it as a seduction or manipulation effort. When said with serious meaning then it becomes something to worry about.

People who are very jealous, clingy, heavily dependent, love addicted and very controlling people cannot tell what a healthy, parasitic and toxic relationship is. Majority (if not all) ‘I can’t live without you’ relationships don’t end very well. In some circumstances, one is forced to be in a relationship he/she does not want and in severe/dangerous cases physical abuse, abnormal stalking and attacks are inflicted if/when the person who is ‘depended upon’ threatens/tries to leave/leave the relationship.

See the growing number of acid victims! It seems the easiest way for people to deal with ‘solvable’ issues is to use acid as their weapon. It’s heart-breaking the way people especially women are being bathed with acid these days. There are some people you have relationships with and you just end up signing a contract with the devil him/herself.

Some Annoying Things Men Say/Do Which They Really Need To Stop!

05/11/2015 1:10 pm

by GC Staff Sheila

Dear men, there are some (a whole of) things you say and do which you must really stop. Just a few of them:

Quoting Isaiah 4:1 (In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!): I sometimes agree to disagree that there’s scarcity of good men/men who’ll make good husbands but that does not mean any man (especially one searching for a wife since the days of John the Baptist) should take a swipe at mature singles by quoting them the above verse when in their own words ‘she’s playing hard to get’. This man is trying to get one wife thoughtless of 6 ‘holding’ him to bear his name. If your name is not listed on the London Stock Exchange, NYSE or even on the Ghana Stock Exchange, your name is not that valuable sir – allow mature singles to breathe.

‘Women are gold-diggers’: It’s not everybody (man or woman) who is qualified to call people gold-diggers. Some of these men don’t have money but they call ladies gold-diggers at the drop of a hat. ‘Women are after me because of money’ – Mr Man, what and which money?

With Maturity/Age and ‘Numbers’ Come Clarity in Life and Relationships

05/10/2015 2:51 pm

by GC Staff Sheila

Mention being a naïve/childish/silly/ignorant/prudish/crazy/no nonsense attitude – I have being been there/done it and still doing some. Some I have grown out of (age), others I dumped when I got wiser (maturity) and one or two I need to maintain because it’s done more good than harm to me.

When I was young, among other things, I only had two types of men in my head I always ‘lied’ to myself I’ll marry when they cross my path. A handsome man like my father or brother (now that is what I call babyish) but then as I got older, I realised that incest was what was on my mind because everybody is an individual and I’m never going to get a daddy-lookalike or brother-lookalike.

With age, maturity and exposure (in numbers) comes clarity in how we relate to people presently and in future endeavours. A lot of the reasons things don’t work out for us (in all areas of our lives) has got to do with immaturity – nothing to do with others but everything to do with us. We didn’t realise we were insensitive, arrogant and proud. The ‘things’ which becomes clear with maturity:

Common sense is not so common to all. Being intelligent or very educated does not mean having common sense.

‘Privacy’ and keeping mum about our damn business actually comes with maturity. It may feel good to let the world know what’s happening in our private businesses but you can’t tell everything to everybody (even if they’re friends because majority of our so called friends are fre-enemies). Put some out and keep some in. Some of our problems erupted when we started inviting others into our business by sharing too much and unnecessary information.

If you hate breakups – look away now! I believe experiences of dating the good, bad and ugly (in character) is/are extremely necessary; in order to discern what traits we are more compatible with. The fear of breakups makes people stay in relationships when their hearts are not even there. How can you explore when you’re bent on staying with the first guy/girl who comes around? Starting new relationships will gives a clearer idea/picture of what you can simply live with or without.

The Problem of Automatically Trusting Someone Because He/She is ‘God-Fearing’

04/30/2015 4:19 pm

by GC Staff GS

When a woman lists the qualities she wants in a man – first on the list is ‘He should/must be God-fearing’. It’s always the ‘Godly’ man because they attach ‘goodly’ to his godly nature. That is their choice of man they want/need and their reason/s for wanting such men is not far- fetched. However, the automatic ‘goodness and trust’ they ascribe to a supposedly ‘God-fearing’ man is what is very enthralling. Ask them who a God-fearing man is and they’ll quote Bible up and down for you.

We trust others because they earned that trust or vice versa but fortunately/unfortunately (depending on the angle from which you’ll look at things) being a fellow God-fearing club member is enough to gain the trust of some people. People have realised this ‘get things quick’ scam so much so that they are very quick to display ‘God-fearing’ traits to get what they want. They use that to cover their true nature because by hook or crook, his/her fellow brethren will trust totally without thinking things through.

…ALWAYS Start As You Mean to Continue

04/25/2015 2:03 pm

by GC Staff Sw

We do bend backwards for people once in a while but bending impossibly backwards to accommodate the idiosyncrasies of some people all in a bid to be accepted is not a very wise move. When we buy our way into people’s lives by showering them with presents (which we cannot even afford), making ridiculous promises (which may not sound ridiculous to the person being lied to) – when we can’t keep up with façade anymore, we become that mean person – because we stopped being good.

Where is the sense in being a ‘yes man/woman’ just to be called ‘nice’? People only define others ‘nice’ for what they do for them and what they get out of them. Sometimes we can’t afford to be ‘the good/nice guy or girl’ who’s ever ready to drop all he/she is doing to save a soul – we all have our off/bad/good days and the day you’re in one of these moods will definitely not guarantee a yes from you (if you’re being truthful). If we’re being honest to ourselves, we’re never happy saying ‘yes ‘when ‘no’ is rather convenient for us.

LOVE & RELATIONSHIP: When a Promise Becomes a Covenant…

04/7/2015 4:05 pm

by GC Staff GS

People ‘in love’ normally make promises at a point in time and it’s more on emotions rather than on a clear thought process – consciously or unconsciously. You don’t need to make any verbal declaration per se but questions asked and answers given is enough to be ‘a binding word’ from one party.

People make promises to motivate (to do more/spend more), to win love and to buy trust but it always ends up with one becoming disappointed. You can’t buy trust with your mouth; trust is built just as respect is earned. Alternatively, you can’t win love by promises.

We promise people we’ll change, to be more responsible, to be a better person etc. but we know very well it’s not going to happen – we say it to keep a job, relationship and to save face but what we’re actually doing is quickly killing the little trust and faith the people have in us. Don’t promise if you don’t intend to keep it because it turns relationships sour.

There are some promises which you and I know is ‘for conning and scamming’ purposes and those type of promises are made by politicians – something you’ll not take to the bank anyway and others you tell to the junior secondary school kids to keep them happy; I’ll die for you and take you to the moon kind of promises (very dense to believe such promises).

Does Age Matter to You in Relationships? | Of Course Not…

03/19/2015 5:48 pm

by Contributor | Gabby Nash

There is no universal law that suggests specific age gap between partners before they finally join in a blissful relationship. This subject, though often discussed has not yielded any conclusive theory that will tie the loose ends.

Traditionally a man is supposed to be older than a woman. In most cases, both sexes in the relationship have the same age. In rare instances, the woman is slightly older than the man. This phenomenon is wholly agreeable with the conventions of the society. It only becomes weird when one of the partners is far older than the other; say ten or fifteen years.

Age in relationships tend to be a great priority for many who are seeking to spend the rest of their lives with someone they truly love. Frustrations and regret sets in when the age difference is wide. This disparity may conflict with the individual goals and societal view of the relationship.

Our Modern Love: The Modern Marriage

03/16/2015 4:57 pm

by GC Staff bG

Our modern day love drives us into marriages built on wrong and weak premise – we’re selfishly getting rather than seeking to give (what people can do for us and what we can get from them), constantly commanding and demanding without being considerate, very intolerant and manipulating to get what we want from our spouse.

We’re chasing the cash and the material, our love flourishes because of benefits we get from relationships (and ends when the benefit ends). In short, things have gone haywire in our generation!

Years ago – when marriage had a reasonable meaning and enticing to go into, people didn’t need to profess love to one another with their mouth (at every opportunity and every second) to know they are loved – their persistence, support, respect they had for each other and working hard to make the marriage blissful (with all its challenges) was more than ‘unsaid I love you’. The modern marriage is built on dreams and expectations of the good life (not worked for) and enjoying the benefits. If their dreams don’t come into reality – they cry foul forgetting they need to work before they enjoy.

Now, marriage is more of a contract than a covenant. The modern day love is all hinged on convenience. We create our own heartbreaks through enormous expectations!

I Mistakenly Slept With My Ghanaian Church Member & Now I Am Pregnant | I Don’t Know If He is Responsible But My Boyfriend is White

03/13/2015 3:31 pm

by GC Staff Ob

Dear GC Readers,

I am 3 months pregnant and even though my boyfriend who I have been with for almost 2 years is extremely happy about this, I am really worried since I made the biggest mistake of my life by sleeping with a friend from Church in December.

My boyfriend is white and he is supportive. He is currently helping me with my papers and I truly love him which may sound contradictory because I slept with someone. But like I said it was a mistake which I regret. It will never happen.

My biggest problem is what if the child is for the man from church who I mistakenly slept with? What if the child is born and he is black instead of being mixed as my boyfriend is a German?

I have been thinking about this and even though my friend says it’s not likely I got pregnant just that once that I mistakenly slept with someone else, I cannot sleep and this is really affecting my health.

Doctors Said I Cannot Have A Baby, Should Tell My New Man? | I Believe God Can Make It Happen Though…

02/23/2015 9:16 pm

by GC Contributor | Ellen Sackey-Addo Ellen

Dear GC Readers,

I am in a big problem and for about a month now since my new man who has treated me like a Queen decided to discuss having baby with, I have not been myself. I have been thinking a lot and he is even worried as to what I have been thinking about.

I was nearly ran over by a car last Friday after work because my mind was far away. I have had bad experience with a number of men. Some having taken my money and for two others, they just used me to acquire their legal stays.

This man I met about 9 months ago is totally difference; he treats me like I am the most precious thing in the world. He does not have his legal stay yet but he has told me his lawyers have been working on that for him for some years now.

Out Of The Sweet Must Come Something Strong | Where And When Kindness Is Not Recommended!

02/23/2015 3:16 pm

by GC Contributor | Ellen Sackey-Addo Ellen

Some people usually think one is ‘stupid’ when they are helped; you buy something for them or simply make out time for them. It’s very unfortunate when people abuse your kindness but it’s sad and disappointing when they think you’re stupid and don’t know what to use your money for. People do things out ‘love’ for their partners and they in turn insult the person to friends. If the partner doesn’t do it, then the person is mean and stingy.

People abuse niceness and generosity all the time but adding insult to it is rather uncalled for. When we need help, we always go to people who we know will assist and we won’t/don’t understand the day they cannot render us any assistance. Like this person calling someone ‘stupid and not knowing what to use money for’ – I’ll find it very difficult to stretch forth my hand if this person should ask for assistance from me because I don’t know if I’ll be the next stupid person. We sometimes think we’re playing smart on people but we end up outsmarting ourselves.

Being sweet and nice all the time is not something I’ll recommend especially when your sweetness and niceness is abused all the time. Sometimes, it’s not about the giver being generous but just to be known as the sweet/nice guy/girl. Some people don’t even trust people ‘who are too nice’ due to past experiences or they not being nice themselves so they question any nice thing you do for them.

Weekly Discussion: Does His or Her PAST Really Matter?

02/20/2015 12:59 pm

by Nana Yaw Adjapong

Why does it matter how many partners a woman or a man has had in her/his past? But we all ask or care about it—to the extent that we find ways to sometimes ask about a person’s past without really wanting the person to know what we are doing.

In life, our past serves as a guide to some of the things we will do in the future—it guides us to avoid certain things or to know what to eat and what not. You cannot ignore a past experience and therefore you cannot totally ignore the past of a person, especially if you cannot measure with a lie detector whatever the new person is telling you.

When we meet people in life, we play catch up by asking a lot of questions about their past to know some of the things we missed in the person’s previous life—and I mean, we take keen interest in the person’s past.

Some people may have brilliant past and these people may not have problems sharing them—even that, there would always be those pothole moments. And some people may have had some dark days in their lives; having done some really silly or bad things difficult of telling.

Differences Are Healthy for A Lasting Relationship…

02/11/2015 6:11 pm

by GC Staff Sw

“We share the same interest/ I think who I am and being me is somehow a turn off/ I am comfortable with whom I am which is becoming a struggle especially in the face of rejection by men.” We’re sometimes ‘forced’ to start living and giving up on some core values because of relationships and people we want to pursue.

Others on the other hand hold a firm belief that sharing common/same interests is enough to keep an ‘expired’ relationship going. If we meet somebody who enjoys or shares the same interest as you, we think we’ve met our soulmate. In essence, they’re similar to us because we share the same interests. At some point, you want to settle down and enjoy a long-term committed relationship but apart from the same interests you share with the ‘boyfriend/girlfriend’, your aspirations, dreams and what you require/expect in a life partner is very different to what they want/who they are.

People are threatened with differences and they dissolve a union based on ‘we’re too different’ because they believe they need to have so much in common. Some try to please by morphing and blending to ‘fit into the bill’ of the other. None of us can truly say that giving up the right to be our true selves is for purely altruistic reasons and so when you examine what it is that you expect to gain from trying to please others by morphing and blending, you will see that you’re setting you up for pain and that there’s more authenticity and less pain in being you.

Here We Go Again With the Same Old…’STEREOTYPING’

02/4/2015 10:41 pm

by GC Contributor | Maame A. Vandyck

I listened to an angry friend blab on and on about her boyfriends’ recent cheating escapade with the concluding generalization of “all men are cheats” I just couldn’t help but wonder if women are being fair with this stereotyping.

People say men are moved by what they see and women by what they hear. Well…at least not for the women of this generation, who are moved by what they want not hear.

I certainly cannot blame my friend’s boyfriend for cheating, I would have done same if I were him. She sure can be overbearing, demanding and selfish most of the time.

Casting my mind back, I vividly recollect the number of times she has cheated with the cover story of doing it only to relieve herself of financial or employment problems.

Well it sure seems like that is how it has become for attached women now, finding a quick way out but not classifying it as cheating.

Yes, men indeed are attracted by what they see and cannot help themselves most of the time but be tempted to experience it. That in my opinion is better than these “quick fix” women exchange sex for; One man paying for trips, the other in hair and make-up department, the shopping voucher man and the main boyfriend she claims she is in love with.

FOR THE LADIES: Don’t Walk into Relationships Which Have RED FLAGS…

02/2/2015 7:57 pm

by GC Contributor | Akwasi Asaase

James Brown says ‘it’s a man’s world’ and Beyonce says ‘girls run the world’. These are two very prolific artistes in different generations but this choice of lyrics is clearly driven by the hormones burning within them.

I dare say neither men nor women run this world. However, women seem to have been given a certain amount of power maybe by divine approval to compensate for the uncomfortable periods in their life span. This natural engineering makes it such that no matter how egotistic a man is, he needs a woman but so do women also need men- vibrators don’t make babies and are not fathers no matter how many smiley faces you draw with a moustache on its surface.

Yes, men are becoming less responsible for various reasons; however who allows these men to be irresponsible? I am particularly disturbed by Bobbi Kristina’s case (Whitney Houston’s daughter). I was a huge fan of Whitney because that kind of talent passes by once in many light years. I became worried for Whitney the first time I heard she was in a serious relationship with Bobby Brown. I believe she signed her death warrant from that point and so her death albeit painful, did not come to me as a shock. On the contrary, I expected her exit much earlier.

Anyway that was just a prelude to what I intended to address. Women have got to start making wiser choices with life. If men are becoming irresponsible, it’s because women are becoming equally irresponsible. Women choose who they want to copulate with, not men.

When a man chooses, he is either called KKD or he is humping a harlot. The bone of contention for me is not about which man you choose to do whatever with, I actually don’t care because it is actually not my business. Well, I have been hurt before because a girl I stupidly fell for chose a jerk over me all in the name of first love bullshit and today they are no more! Anyway that is a story for another day, so maybe I might be biased but then again who isn’t?

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