Dear GC Readers,
I’m 25 years old and in a relationship with a 27 year old guy. We have been going out for a year now. I love him very much but I’m very scared to trust his words.
Six month into the relationship he confessed he has a daughter with a lady he dated before but the lady is now dead. When I asked why he didn’t tell me all this time, he told me he wanted to be sure of the woman he is going out with first.
He then said when he was sure he was scared that I might leave him because of that. I thought about it and decided to continue dating him.
My problem now is, he is not consistent, he says one thing today then tomorrow he says another. I only know his brother and I haven’t seen his daughter yet.
He claims he loves me and wants me to be his wife but hasn’t made the attempts to introduce me to his family.
I fear he is playing with my feeling, he did so many things that I forgave him for but as at now am confused on whether to call it quit or keep hoping things get better.
I’ve stopped calling him as frequently as I used to, though I am still dating him. I don’t know what to do, am confused. What do I do? Is he serious with me?
The fact that you are seeking advice is a major sign you know something is not right. I don’t see anything wrong in giving your relationship a chance or taking a chance that your relationship will workout despite the initial secrets.
His reason for keeping quiet about his child is plausible for the sake of the child. Although it sounds like this is not all you are concerned about. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression ‘people don’t change’. Well they do, but only if they want to or think they need to.
No man is perfect so if it is something you can tolerate then sometimes it’s ‘better the devil you know’.
What I’ll advise is to follow your instincts because it is more than likely you will still have the same issues with your relationship a year from now.
Best of Luck
Ms. A.K from GC XXX
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