We have to be frank with ourselves, we all have those days, weeks or even months when we slide down (feel down). It happens to everyone and most times, we result to external things or materials to motivate us or push us back on our toes.
There are days when I wake up and I do not feel like doing anything. I begin to ask myself so many questions such as; why am I even writing all these articles, is it really worth it, Can I really achieve that goal, am I good enough at what I am doing, Will I succeed in this, Am I doing well in life and all that…
On such days, you begin to doubt your skills, abilities, intelligence, judgement, your appearance, your vision and all that you believe in and hope for. You stop trusting your efforts, your dreams and the fact that you can achieve the success you desire.
It is during such times that motivation or a little push-up is needed to put you back on your toes. Falling on external sources such as your partner or friend to talk you into gaining your strength and confidence back is fantastic, but how many times would you go to them without being considered as a burden or a person who lacks the necessary confidence and motivation in life?
You cannot always fall on people for motivation; they will surely get tired of you. Even if they do not, your constant downside will begin to affect their motivation too, pushing both of you into a ditch.
This is why becoming the captain of your own ship is the best thing to do in life. Instead of relying on friends, articles, family and other means to motivate yourself or push you towards achieving the success you desire, it would be extremely great to be self-motivated.
To be frank, only few people are able to motivate themselves, this is because it is a skill that you have to learn and build upon as time goes on. Even though it is a simple but a necessary skill, most of us lack this skill in our lives.
What mostly pushes us into depression (lack of motivation zone) is our failure to balance our struggles with our achievements. When you consider your failure in isolation, without sideling it with your achieved success, you are definitely bound to “feel down”.
To become a self motivated person in life, you must always sideline your failure with your achieved success, your struggles with what you have already accomplished in life.
When you look ahead you and see the stretch of land that you have to cultivate to get to your destination, this is the time you have to quickly look back and smile at the yards you have already cultivated. That way, you will be having a balanced look at things.
Looking only at the successful friends of yours will help in pushing you into depression. Why don’t you also look behind you for the friends who have failed and those you have achieved a lot than in life, those struggling to be where you are today?
Balance your reflection of failure with your success. Do not solely look at your friends achieving the best in life to make you feel like you are the low-life human among them all.
When you look at the achievers, look at those who have failed too. In doing so, you would surely find many ahead of you and dozens behind you. You will then realize you are not after all doing that bad in life, which is the push needed to get you going.
Remember you have to motivate yourself and you can do so by always looking at your failure and struggles alongside your achievements.
By: Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri/ ScrewLife.Com
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Chris-Vincent is an internet enthusiast & entrepreneur, web developer and a blogger, a law student with special interest in Human Success, Personal Development and Achievements.
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Funny how you always think you are the only one with thoughts of such self doubt! And yes I do have a pal who MOANS for England about being unhappy but does nothing and all advice falls on death ears so now I just change subject or pretend to listen or better yet avoid them altogether. I imagine myself sounded like that, moaning about my unhappy life, I always choose to either keep to myself or figure it out on my own! Life is funny, it’s easy to point out what we are doing wrong in ourselves and in others but when it comes to praising ourselves that is another matter…although I notice the Yanks are very good at self appraisal lol which is fine as long as it don’t turn into delusion! Nice piece of writing Chris…thanks as always for the pick me up. God Bless.
Thank you this has really helped lift my spirits, will surely think of this in future for self motivation in the future!