Dear GC Readers,

I think I may have lost the love of my life. I’m 34 and met my man just over a year ago through mutual friends. When I first met him he really wasn’t my type but I fell for him hard and fast.

When we met I knew he was a Muslim which was obvious because of his name but even though he says he doesn’t practise Islam he can only marry a Muslim. This is surprising coz he even drinks. At this point it was extremely hard to walk away as we had been dating for over six months by then.

I’m a Christian but like him I’m not devout. He really is perfect in every way and he always says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I told him I would  convert as I loved him and knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life.

I started attending classes to learn the Quran and how to dress in the right way, I was even learning Arabic. I was so dedicated and my man was so happy and proud of me.

I really thought that once I had made all the effort to change my religion and give up so many things like church and Christmas, he would set a date but there was no mention of it and I got me very frustrated.

One Friday afternoon I suggested we go to the mosque which he agreed and was happy that I had asked. Then it all went very badly wrong.

We fought because he was late and said he had to meet with friends after. I basically waited for him to come to my place that night and blasted him about the sacrifices I had made and why he hadn’t even proposed!

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