Dear GC Readers.
Though I’m in my late twenties, I’ve only had three partners in my life, this includes my current Boyfriend. We started dating almost 4 months ago and he has been patient enough to wait before having sex. This makes me feel he truly loves me as he says.
I feel like I’m ready for us to make love but he refused to have STI checks. He said he has always been careful and if he were sick or had caught something he would know. I tried to explain it doesn’t work like that and eventually agreed when I said I’d do one also.
To my complete distress after my test, I was called in and told I have hepatitis B. Which I know I caught from my ex; we were together for 4 and half years and thought I could trust him.
Since finding out, I have been so depressed and now I don’t know how and if to tell my man. I love him so much and I’m so scared he’ll judge me and leave me.
His tests all came through clear and he is now wondering why I won’t make love to him. I lied by saying they lost my results and it has to be redone. We can always use condoms and I don’t have to tell him right?
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Dear Stella,
Being in a loving relationship will mean at some point you need to make selfless decisions. I can’t say this bluntly enough, you must tell your boyfriend the truth.
I can imagine this news was a big shock for you, though you should know hep B is not as intense as other more damaging and fatal STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections).
I’m sure part of you wanting to keep this secret is because you feel if he leaves you’ll be left dealing with this situation alone.
I’m however wondering though how clearly you’ve thought your possible decision through. Bear in mind your ex boyfriend is the one you said betrayed you and lied; you’re considering doing something similar to your current man.
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