Hello Chris-Vincent,
I cannot talk to anyone close to me about this even though it is killing me slowly. I have not been able to eat properly for some weeks now and I am even growing thin. I can’t imagine how my family and friends will react if they get to know I have been having a very serious lesbian relationship with my fiancé’s younger sister.
On the face of things, I have always been against lesbianism. I have always been the person who will condemn and curse lesbians or gays anything such topic on these people fall into discussion.
However, behind all these, I am one myself. I have been having a lesbian affair with my soon to be husband’s sister. For me, this is my first lesbian relationship but for her, this is her 2nd. Before she met me, she had a partner who was married to a man at day.
We get on so well that it amazes everyone. Our connection goes deeper than what people think of us. We have shared several intimate moments together, we have been to Aksoombo and Ada on holidays together. Out of pressure from her whiles we were at Ada, I promised her that, I will always be with her.
My fiancé intends to marry me this Christmas and even though I am happy about this, my secret relationship is becoming an obstacle. My lesbian partner and soon to be sister in law has gone cold since the day I informed her about the marriage.
If it was all about her coldness towards me, it would not have been such a big problem. She is threatening to tell others about our secret relationship and also leak some naughty photos the two of us shared.
I am confused and do not know what to do. I am planning to go open and tell my fiancé as well as my family before they get to see these photos. I am not sure if this is a good move but then what choice do I have?
I certainly need some advice on how to handle this issue. I therefore think hiding behind a computer and seeking for diverse advice on this is my only option. Please help me out by posting this on your blog for a desperate sister.
Thanks.
Martha/ Accra
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Why promise another woman you will always be with her? So what are you? Greedy bi-sexual right? You sleep with your boyfriend and his sister all together? You have not seen anything. Foolish, it will all come to haunt you back
i wonder where you guys get this hilarious stories from
The ghanaian society is all messed up now. aint you even shy to be doing this as a child of God? sleeping with a woman is a taboo and you must go on your knees and pray. that is the only advice I can give you
In my opinion, you shd pray to God for forgiveness n also reveal everything to ur fiancé.No matter how long it takes, ur future sister in law will definitely leak the pictures.That is the the main reason why ur fiancé has to know b4 anything of that sort happens.I wouldnt assure u he would still go on with the marriage preparations but even if he doesnt, i think u would have spoken the truth n got ur freedom.
Aww, cool story line for a Ghanaian movie 🙂 Sorry Martha, I’ve gotta read this again and see if I can advise…Maybe you should just tell your boyfriend the whole story, cos it will come out anyway (either now or later). If he forgives you, fine. You move on with him. If he doesnt, all the better. You move on and find another guy (and hopefully, dont mess with his sister). But you koraa, what be your matter? eh? is it greed, nymphomania, sumsum fi or bayie?
@Fii, lmao ohhh my God you just killed me with “But you koraa, what be your matter? eh? is it greed, nymphomania, sumsum fi or bayie?”
@Fii, hahhahhahahhahhahha omg funniest comment I’ve seen in a while. “But you koraa, what be your matter? eh? is it greed, nymphomania, sumsum fi or bayie?”
Sry bt I dnt think u need advice frm any of us here, when u were busy having an affair wit a brother n sister; u didn´t think of asking 4 our opinion. So bury ur greedy head in ur own shame.
thank u Afia.exactly what I was thinking.I dont know y she will choose to be a lesbian when she has such a sweet guy planning to get married to her.
@Adjoa Nbaaso), some ppl r nt satisfy wit wat they hv until they loose it. And she is definitely one of them!
@Afia, she only asked for advise not insult….if have nothing better to say, don’t say anything
@Outlaw,Dnt be ridiculos, wat is insulting abt my statement. I guess u´ve bn reading ppl comments on dis site n they often say “asked for advise not insult….if have nothing better to say, don’t say anything”, 2 prevent filfty words frm dis site, so u wanna use da same words, so dat ppl might think u ´ve got gud thoughts abt dis site. Pls, use it next time cos it didn´t work at all. What I said was a fact, and dnt c how i disrespect her. Assume someone did something shameful n u said shame unto u, doesn´t mean u´ve insulted da person. U r only saying da truth.
Better disclose it to him before its too late and dont expect him to get married to u cuz He aint no fool.And for ur info. that kinda lifestyle brings nothing but shame.U messed up big time and should be ready for the consequences.
Hmmm, this is a difficult one, dear…. Oh What A Web We Weave….Well, I think you need to first be sure of what you want and who you want… If you feel like you are done with sowing your lesbian oathes, then sit her down and tell her not to ruin his for you… Tell her that even if you and her brother don’t get married you will still not be with her, and you will definitely cut her out of your life forever… Ghana isn’t like western countries where you can have a substantial Lesbian or homosexual relationship… It will never be that way… And unfortunately for you, I highly doubt that your fiance will find it sexy and attractive that you had an intimate relationship with a woman…much less his sister… Like you said…. It might be better to tell your fiance….and him ONLY… I repeat…him ONLY…for now… It’s better that it comes from you than anybody else… and you migt want to show him how remorseful you are….
Now, pleaseknow that whether your fiance decides to marry you or not… You and his sister cannot keep going on like this… I mean, really…. Having some Supi fun in SHS is a different story…. A word to the wise is enough…. Good Luck!!!
Akua, I also think Martha knows what and who she wants already. It’s the fiance. If not, then relationship with the fiance sister would not be secrete. She has first of all CHEATED on the fiance, committed a TABOO in society and also SIN in eyes of God. What she needs to do is confess to fiance that she cheated, break any past, present and futrure intimate ties with this lady, and finally go on her knees for God’s forgiveness. She may loose her fiance in the process but at least save herself from God’s wrath, live from then on with a clear concience, and also feel belonged to society without fear of being rejected. WARNING!! Martha, don’t ever consider coexisting with both, (Bi-sexual), you could ruin the family life u ‘re planning, n loose your life in addition. God be your help.
hmmmmmmm wat is going on in Ghana your own boy friends sister as a lesbian partner hmmmm y don’t u let her marry u too since u’ve been allowing her to enjoy u already dis is vry complicated problem only God can give u de right solution.I think u need some prayers den later u blow de news to your partner n your family,hmmmmmmmmm I’m sorry for u.
EWWWWWWWWWWWW sorry i dn’t judge boo boo but it either u chose to be a lesbian or straight u can’t be both at the same time
why did you do such a terrible thing like this having affair with your fiance sister, tell everything to your fiance before his sister disgrace you, it can destroy your marriage but it is better than he hear from some where pray and ask for forgiveness
Asemmmm paaaa!!! Hmmm all I can say is pray to God for forgiveness, because what is done in the dark will surely come to light.
dis is seriours AGYANYAME wat at all is happening?