LIFESTYLE: Would You Go In For Someone’s Baby Mother Or Dad?

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I am not sure the baby mother and father drama is very famous in Ghana as it is in the United States and other parts of Europe. However, I think we all know what the term ‘baby mother and baby father’ loosely means.
My friend is a single mother; therefore she will be loosely called someone’s baby mother. Though not all baby mothers are crazy (at least my friend is not), majority of men put on their running shoes and dash out to stay far away from women with child(ren)-Baby mothers.
I have male friends who say they will never go near baby mothers because these women come with tones of troubles and dramas, especially from their baby fathers.
Same way, I have female friends (including myself) who have vowed not to go into relationships with baby fathers again.
The most common occurrence in such relationships is that, you are bound to find out that using the child(ren) as a medium, the two old partners mess about once a while. I am not saying that is the case for all but at least that has been my experience.
I was once with a man who had to see his son at the child’s mother’s place twice a week. Sometimes he had to stay late until the child falls asleep.
These visits were accepted by me because I knew the child needed his Dad, but then I guess the mother also needed him too. When I found out, the woman was 4 months pregnant for for my man…Sad right?
This brings me to my question, would you go in for a someone’s Baby Mother or Dad? If Yes, why and if No, why? Have you had any experience (be it positive or negative) with baby mothers and fathers?


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  1. i will never do that, and never will ,simply because this kind of relationship is full of dramas and even the womans ex will even try to harm me,to be frank i will not be in such relationship.

    1. @27calibre (O-o),Most guys wouldn’t date someone with kids but there’s always an exception for the ones who are 
      Desparate as for me I will never ever do that I will never ever put me in a situation I can’t handle we all got 99% problems 
      But a baby mama drama ain’t one and I so agree with your 
      Most of time ex partner always gets jealous especially in the black community make always gets jealous if another man take cares of his child 

      1. @Dr. Miyagi,YES i have seen this type of jealous before and it can give you enemies ,who will hate you because of one or two things ,so is better you own your own wife and your own child .

  2. I would go in for a baby-daddy only one condition, that the baby-mama is no more (i mean she died) that’s why they got separated, then i can give my full love and support to this man and his baby…. but if the baby-mama is alive and kicking but they got separated becos of a misunderstanding (or any flimsy excuse) then it’s a no, no!!! Thank you very much for the question!!!

    1. @Eaglebabe,does that mean if you by mistake marry one, you will try to kill the childs mother ?
      you see what this kind of relationship can cause ): 

      1. @27calibre (O_0 ), hahahahaaaa, i mean before i go for a baby-daddy, then the mama might have died that’s why they got separated, not when the mama is still living……lol if the mama died thats why the daddy is lonely then it is cool by me…… i wont go in when she is existing and then try to kill her……noooooo, believe me i cant even hurt an ant…lol

  3. Though I will not wnt to date a man with a child for another woman especially when the woman stays at the corner or something, as a woman I ask my self that what if I was the woman with the baby? Does that mean no man should come for me? That will make me sad.
    So I think we women should approach this issue as if we are the baby mother. Remember do unto others as you would love them to unto you

    1. @TiffanyBabe, very good comment dear……personally, i think some of the baby-mama’s are very good women compared to “some single women”…..i think it depends on the individual and personality…….remember she was once single and dating before she became the baby-mama….

  4. interesting topic…was wondering why this hasnt come up already….but thank goodness its here!
    relationships like that are always complicated…i jus came out of one so i know what am talking about. definately agree with eaglebabe as long as the child’s father or mother  is alive,trust me, you’ll always be number 3( child 1st, mother/father 2nd then you 3rd)……..if your man/woman was able to lie down with his/her baby mama/dada to have a kid with him/her…….he/she would always have a thing for her/him
    there’s always one story or another why they can’t or couldn’t be together……trust me,the kid would always give them reasons to be together.
    In the end…you be the loser…..u can never have the love and attention you could have had if your partner was single single
    its in the states that women just parade themselves to be baby mamas for celebraties.

    1. @esi, well said……relationships have issues but (baby-mama or baby-daddy) relationships have other issues apart from every normal relationship issue……Thank God my man is soooo single (no babies attached) lol

  5. interesting topic…was wondering why this hasnt come up already….but thank goodness its here!
    relationships like that are always complicated…i jus came out of one so i know what am talking about. definately agree with eaglebabe as long as the child’s father or mother  is alive,trust me, you’ll always be number 3( child 1st, mother/father 2nd then you 3rd)……..if your man/woman was able to lie down with his/her baby mama/dada to have a kid with him/her…….he/she would always have a thing for her/him
    there’s always one story or another why they can’t or couldn’t be together……trust me,the kid would always give them reasons to be together. and be ready for alot of drama….drama,drama,drama!!!!!!
    In the end…you be the loser…..u can never have the love and attention you could have had if your partner was single single
    its in the states that women just parade themselves to be baby mamas for celebraties.

    1. @esi, I felt your comment and after reading your second paragraph i just knew,i got to pull out from mine because im just wasting my time.

  6. Wow i thought i was the only one. As am putting this comment down,i’m going to be on a date with this baby mama who leaves 30-45 mins away from my place (my first experience). First of all she was the one that approached me. We’ve been talking and going out for  more than a month now  but along the way i started noticing some fishy things. As Esi and Eaglebabe put it,this woman still have a passion for this guy and  from my understanding they probably separated because the guy couldn’t man up to responsibilities.  From my observation too i feel like i’m  “number 3” basically around  to support her financially. Tonight will be our last date and never will i set my eyes on dating baby mama’s.

    1. @Semi-Cartermatic, hmmmmmmmmm, seriously, about 90% of the third parties get hurt in these relationships…….i dont say nobody should date Baby-mama’s or baby-daddies but the truth is, you might end up being the hurt one….

  7. Im a single mom with a son..The father is not in the picture and i find that men think its gonna be drama until they get 2 know me..If the other party is involved their will most likely be drama, but u never know.When u meet someone u fall inlove with the person n if u cant love what his life may bring, then ur not ment 2 be. A relationship is not defined by a child but by LOVE..STOP being so narrow minded!!! I live in Norway so theirs a whole other way of living here then in Ghana…Ppl in Europe and America are used 2 relationships that may involve children, so theirs really no issue here… Maybe its Tabu in Ghana?? I dont know…So unless u have experienced such a relationship SHUT IT! Take it or leave it..Love it or so be it!