Motivational Message Of The Week: How To Deal With Jealous Friends

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Jealousy can be defined as a feeling of resentment against someone because of that person’s success, rivalry or advantage.

Jealousy is destructive to both the person harbouring the feeling and the one at the receiving end.

As human beings, we are surrounded by jealous people of which some are even our ‘good friends’ or family members.

Spotting jealous friends or people around you is not that difficult. Even though a jealous person will never come to you and say in plain words that, I am jealous of you (small minority of the very evil ones do), it is very easily to spot them.

As you begin to fight for your desires, wants and comfort in life, success and other advantages will come your way. These good deeds you work hard (or luckily land on) trigger most of the jealousy in friends and sometimes family.

Common traces of jealous people which you can rely on to spot the jealous friends around you so to be able to deal with them are; they exhibit their jealous in a form of resentment, hatred and wild gossip.

The above are occasionally accompanied by rudeness, disrespect, non constructive criticisms and mini sabotage of your activities.

Jealous friends also pay less attention to your success and major attention to your failure or misfortune.

How To Deal With Jealous Friends…

Now that you have clearly spotted the jealous friends around you, what can you do? Getting rid of them as friends is not an option for me. Personally, I value friendship and until something is extremely agonizing, I never get rid it or run from it.

Also, some friends may be jealous of you but then, they may be good in other things which you appreciate. In this case, it is not advisable to simple get rid of them, after all, they are good in other departments of your friendship.

I have categorized the ways by which you can deal with jealous friends into two main headings the ‘Strong Approach’ and the ‘Mild Approach’.

Depending on how extensive the jealousy goes and your own personal value of the friendship (as well as your personality), you can adopt one of the approaches that you see fit for your circumstance….

Remember, my personality and friends are different from yours.

Strong Approach

1. Kill them with their own jealousy: If your friend is jealous of you and cannot simply accommodate your success or celebrate your achievements with you, throw to him or her more good news about your life. Whenever you achieve something, call or tell her first.

Let her kill herself with more jealousy as you continue to freely accomplish the great things you set your mind to achieve.  Do not be bothered by the person’s jealousy, continue with your success and make sure you slap it on her/his face anytime you make a good jump.

2. Confront Him Or Her:  One big problem about jealous people is their super ego…Despite their plain acts of jealousy; they will never accept that they are jealous of you or of your achievements. Therefore, confronting such people can be dangerous and you must do it with diplomacy and humility.

To do this, nicely confront the person and firmly point him or her to the fact that, you are aware of all the gossip he/she is carrying about you. You also noticed the last time that, he/she gave your success which you shared with him/her a little attention but when it was your failure, it got all the undeserving attention in the world.

Let the person know that, his/her resentment towards you would slowly kill your friendship and since you have noticed it, it must stop…CONTINUE READING FROM HERE


Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri, Founding Editor
Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri is the Founding Editor of GhanaCelebrities.Com and AfricaCelebrities.Com a Film Critic and a Human Rights Advocate; he holds 2 masters degrees in Law; International Human Rights Law (LL.M) and Legal Practice Course (LL.M) from University of Leicester and Nottingham Law School--and also a degree in Law (LL.B) from University of East London. He's a Professional Truth Sayer and he is the author of the popular eBook “Success is a Right, Not A Privilege.” He currently works at Adukus Solicitors in London--where he uses his legal brains to kick real ass, for the good of clients and humanity. Contact: [email protected]