When it comes to choosing a boyfriend, most women look for excitement, thrill, fun.
The extreme types of man we seek are mainly the Nerd and the Funky guy who I like to call Johnny Bravo. Mr Nerd may not have a six pack because he is at work more than he is in the gym but he still keeps a healthy body.
While we are younger, we may gravitate towards the funky guys, the ‘In Guy’ who your mom hates to see you with but your girlfriends totally envy your sheer luck of being with him.
You may know he is not treating you right but you are holding on because you think his image about town or among your peers gives you some ‘street credibility’. And the few moments of envy from other women sort of makes you believe you are winning.
But deep down your bubble is slowly bursting isn’t it? I will tell you why you need to think again, because when we get into the world, the real world where life goes beyond posing with a popular good looking partner, believe me, swag won’t pay the bills, achievement isn’t about street credibility and time and tide are not your friends!
So why date a nerd? The guy who knows all about science and religion at the same time, the guy who isn’t out bragging about falling out of school and pushing illegal money but is sitting behind his desk on wall street, or in an important firm, rubbing the tiredness off of his eyes over a glass of coffee at 3AM and trying hard to butter his bread abundantly.
The guy who is on a steady achieving road, making bucks, making partner in his 20’s, loving you decently and honourably albeit his shyness.
That awkward guy you laughed at in school and never wanted to be seen with. Let me tell you why you should date him and flaunt it!
Why am I writing this? For my two girlfriends for have dated famous musicians painfully and ended up broken beyond repair. Disclaimer ‘not all musicians are bad to date’ I am just writing out of a small but frequently occurring case study.
The nerd, He is warmly emotional. Yes we all know he is a little awkward and may or cannot hold trendy conversations with your friends at funky parties but you know he means well in all he does.
He is honest to a fault and will not lead you down a path of deception; He wants to make you a better person, a lady of honour. Although this may not be as exciting as the exhilarating nights with ‘Robocop/ Johnny Bravo’, it fulfils the long-term drive.
He Treats You Like a Lady. Instead of watching your phone waiting for Johnny Bravo to call or text you at least once a week, and being disappointed time after time because he is involved in a million exciting things, Mr Nerd will find the time to treat you like a lady.
He will call when he said he will and will not keep you on a long list of women begging for his attention. You will know exactly where you stand. He will make sure you do not doubt how much of a lady you are to him. Mr Nerd forms and keeps strong bonds. He will not publicly or privately disrespect you or your family-which is really what you need.
He brings along a stability is relationships as he does with his life. Everything he involves himself in is a serious matter to him and he treats it as such. He works towards a fulfilling partnership with you. So why wouldn’t you rather be a lady? 😀
He is Intelligent, so although he may not be able to hold it down funkily with your peers, he will score with your mother, aunties, father, and the people who are serious minded in your life.