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THE BIG QUESTION: What Do Men Want In A Wife?

Confused Black Woman

I am a woman and so of course man issues are one of my issues and one of the topics my friends and I muse over.

First of all, I used to think men just wanted a good, loving, dedicated woman. But I grew up and that notion took up many other dimensions. Then I virtually concluded men have no idea what they even want themselves.

Another woman once said, men know what they want until they find it and then they change what they want! Amazing huh? But don’t women do the same?

This takes me to a chat I recently had with one of my male friends and he had a tall list of exact attributes he wanted in a lifelong partner. I thought I should share because this happens to be a man I respect a lot.

  1. Intellectual
  2. Bi/tri-lingual
  3. Beauty
  4. Booty-bust and bum
  5. Morals

And he insisted her booty must come without a beer belly. Humph! Now I run this list by another male friend and this one agreed to the list but he added establishment, car and more. An establishment he explained as a means of income. And she needs a means of income so he can be sure she isn’t going to be tempted to be unfaithful whenever he cannot meet her needs.

Sounds reasonable doesn’t it?

I mean I know what I want in a man though my list isn’t exactly long. It is only fair for a man to want an intelligent, enlightened woman but when I told this list to some of my female friends, they went livid!

They insist my male friend wants too much in a woman. I found their reasoning a bit hypocritical considering I know they also have very high standards for what they want in a man. And I am thinking, if a man has spent time to make himself into somebody good enough for many women to want, shouldn’t he have the privilege of specifics? He should have a way of sieving all down to relevance…right?

The next question is, why do I know so many women who are achievers, have a dream life and yet have no man who wants them?

They do not have even a man with a blue collar lifestyle chasing them how much more a man of their dreams. Not that they have not come across such men in their social and official lives, they simply have not met one interested in them in meaningful ways.

Back to my very legitimate question…WHAT DO MEN WANT IN A WIFE? What do you think



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7 thoughts on “THE BIG QUESTION: What Do Men Want In A Wife?”

  1. Hmmm what do I want in a wife

    1. A team member to take on lifes callenges

    2. A loving, caring, faithful, supportive, generous, sexy, kind, funny, fit, a good mother figure. they want kids, a good lover, respectful, honest, trustworthy, not a jealous person, nice, polite, gets along with others, non-judgemental,

    3. she needs to be a decent cooker is an asset but not necessary, especially my favourite Jollof I know how some girls can order take away and put it in a pan pretending like they made it

    4. a independent woman who has goals of her own, not needy or clingy, intelligence, not a nag, someone who enjoys listen to adult music, (Atopa)

    5. and in alot of cases a belief in God and the miracles of prayer.

    if we men want a good lady than the key is to a succusful one is ” a woman who knows how to be a woman? One who loves Jesus more than she loves a man. Those are they wifey type.

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  2. Miyagi! Your list is long papa! Adzen?
    But all men are different and can even fall for a woman who doesn’t have all that you know.

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    • @sister girl, I totally agree with you that all man are different but than again its good to look for all those qualities in a lady, she might not have all the above qualities or agree with all, but she will surely adjust to some of them I don’t need a nagging wife or someone who will be sitting In a saloon every week or so but she surely need to have sweet lips, nice hips and melons with enough milk lips like becca, hips like Jocelynas long as she don’t have bankye legs like Jackie than she is welcome

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  3. All I want to say is that THOSE WHO HAVE A LIST NEVER FIND ANYTHING because there isn’t any one person who has all the good qualities. When I had a list in mind, I fell for all the wrong people.. When I got rid of my list and just opened up to every body, I found my not so perfect but incredible husband. and to top it all… those who have a list damped or didn’t want him but now think I have the most amazing man of all… THE REALITY IS THAT PEOPLE CHANGE, THEY HAVE MINDS OF THEIR OWN.. THEY ARE NOT PROPERTY TO ACQUIRE: A PROSTITUTE CAN CHANGE, A GODLY PERSON CAN CHANGE… JUST OPEN UP!!!!!

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  4. If you want all these qualities, which is bound NOT to happen you have to love yourself first, some may come with these qualities.

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