WHY IS IT THAT: Men Find It So Hard To Help Their Women Around The House?

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Confused Black Woman

Please someone explain to me why men find it so hard to help their women around the house. I have been married two years now and we have twin boys. I also work full time but lucky for me, my Aunt and sister help out with the boys.

My husband just looks at me like some kind of cheap maid. I do everything and no how I shout, ask and pester this man he just leaves me to do all in the house. It is worse as I did not grow up in such a household.

His solution is for me to work part-time as we could afford it but all I see is doing more damn chores. It’s too sad as I know I did not go through University and obtain a Masters degree to wash damn dishes.

I surely know many women go through this issue and just accept it as it is but I don’t understand how your man will say he loves you but happy to watch you run yourself ragged to the point of exhaustion.

I always try to do what I can to ease his load and remove any stress where I can but nowadays I just have started to ensure me and my kids are ok until he can figure it out as I am tired of talking.

Just want to know why and what to do about it, tired of hearing….that’s just the way it is.



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  1. it seems like your husband is not a grown man, but a little boy. Marriage is a partnership and, like a team of horses, you have to learn to pull in tandem. You can’t sit there and wish or just mutter under your breath. You both need to sit down and talk this out

  2. what most of them say is that, If they help out, it would get to a time that all the other chores would be placed on them to do. How ridiculous!

  3. Cos most males feel their are the top dog and because of that,these things are beneath them.Picture a pride of lions.The female hunt,bring food home to feed the cubs and the male and play with the cubs as well.Whiles the males sleep and sleep and give an occasional roar.Same thing that happens in the household.

  4. IT HAS TO DO WITH THE WAY ONE IS BROUGHT UP. WHEN YOU ARE RAISED IN AN ENVIRONMENT WHERE YOUR MUM IS ALWAYS RUNNING HERE AND THERE TO PUT THE HOME IN ORDER AND DAD ALWAYS SITTING BEHIND HIS COMPUTER, WATCHING FOOTBALL, READING NEWSPAPER, WHAT DO YOU EXCEPT HIS SON ALSO GROW TO BECOME. IN THIS MODERN ERA, DO WE STILL HAVE MEN WATCHING THIER WOMEN DO HOUSE CHORES ALONE?? SAAAAA!!