Have you ever found yourself in a situation where the man you so much wanted, did all for but the way he treated you showed he was not in any way interested has come back crawling—being all over you?
This also happens to men, when a woman who ditched you for ‘unascertained’ reasons come back, offering everything she has and beyond on a silver platter…
I’ve found myself in such an uncomfortable situation and I keep asking myself; WHAT CHANGED?
About 2 years ago, I met this really great and cute gentleman when I was extremely depressed and all over—emotionally.
I needed a great companion, someone who can be there for me as a friend and a soul mate. I was at a stage in my life where my self-esteem was at its lowest. I felt I was not good enough for any man—not even to be a good friend of a man.
I did all I could to make this man happy and be aware of the fact that I liked him. Our ‘friendship/relationship’ was disproportionate in all aspect—financially, emotionally and sexually.
I paid for everything, whenever we went out for dinner, lunch or to the cinema. I made all the calls, in the morning, evening and afternoon—-and mostly he never answered. It was that bad.
I swallowed my pride as a woman for reasons such as, he is the best out there—far better than me and I better stick around to gradually win his attention.
After a year of subjecting myself to his torture and emotional explosiveness, I decided to put myself together and starting by signing up to the gym—-to let go the excessive weight I had put on, which had killed my beauty and self-confidence.
I changed jobs and took up an internship role with a newspaper as a graduate journalist seeking for experience.
Within 6 months, I was all FIRED up and started working as a freelance journalist for a French based fashion magazine. Throughout this fight and transition, I never heard from this guy and never saw him. Why will I even hear from him since he never called me?
I bumped into one of his friends few months ago and I am sure he might have told him something. Within few hours, I received a text message from him. He had never texted me and I remember him saying he hate text messages—an excuse he gave to avoid replying my messages when I was all over him.
Immediately I received his text message, I asked myself; WHAT CHANGED?
He wanted to meet me and discuss something important and though I was reluctant to hold this meeting, I decided to make it happen.
Pushing my well-toned body into a cute dress, I met him one evening and from then, he has become a nuisance—texting, calling and sending flowers.
He wants to go for dinner, he wants to meet, he wants to hangout and he wants to even go on holidays with me…The same girl he treated like a rag few months ago—hurting my love and self-confidence.
I am still asking; WHAT CHANGED?
Have you ever been a victim or a perpetrator of such circumstance? Can you help me establish WHAT CHANGED?
Hmmm i cnt really tell. Bt i fink he suddenly realised he lost smetin important. N he may also b an opportunist. Tread carefully..u deserve better. I fink u shld date smeone else cos if u ever get fat again he myt leave..jst watch him well well
from wat uve said it sounds lyk what changed is you. bcos u had no self respect and no confidence for urself, he gave in kind, u see basically u didn’t love urself so he didn:t love u. u can’t give what u dnt hve u knw? once u transformed urself and put more value on urself as a human being, he now sees dat and appreciates u for it. if u really lyk dis guy den go for it. but shud u lose dat spark uve gained for urself, u might end up back at square one with him. but I personally think u shud find someone who loves you for you, whether u at ur best or worst and with whom u can do da same for! good luck sweedy.
from wat uve said it sounds lyk what changed is you. bcos u had no self respect and no confidence for urself, he gave in kind, u see basically u didn’t love urself so he didn:t love u. u can’t give what u dnt hve u knw? once u transformed urself and put more value on urself as a human being, he now sees dat and appreciates u for it. if u really lyk dis guy den go for it. but shud u lose dat spark uve gained for urself, u might end up back at square one with him. but I personally think u shud find someone who loves you for you, whether u r at ur best or worst and with whom u can do da same for! good luck sweedy.
Nothing changed. That is the power of the law of scarcity. It works like magic.
He is a man, and he sure wants a sexy woman. A man will want you if you have what he wants and keep doing what he wants. The truth is; if a man fell for you when you had flat stomach, you better keep that till death do you apart. No man wants ginger woman unless he has no choice.
My dear, nothing’s changed. He doesn’t love u. Atm, he’s being driven by lust. He’d bounce soon as u give him some. I know his kind. U deserve better.
the guy doesnt love you girl, he is such a douche bag………was once a victim when i met dis girl, now that am working at vodafone she’s started showing interest. Forget about him and move dear.