Marriage these days is hard to take serious even locally among ordinary people.
Today married, tomorrow divorced. Was I surprised to hear Will Smith and his wife have separated? No I wasn’t but I was sad. Sad to see them let go and give up on a powerful partnership. When you have stayed with someone for so long and shared so much of your life and yourself with him/her, how do you get up and go?
Nobody said marriage was supposed to be a stroll in the park. I tell my friends everyday, you cannot marry for love only. You marry someone you can build with, for trust and understanding—for honour.
My Grandmother once said to me, young people these days do not know how to persevere. They talk too much love and still end up making mistakes and then turn around to say they have fallen out of love. But why did you marry for love only? Because love will take you to marriage but it cannot take you through marriage and life standing alone. You need much more than love!
Marriages do not last because two people fall out of love with each other. You have to learn to repair the cracks instead of walking away from it. What makes you think you will find a better person? A better person aside the one you are leaving? And will you walk out on that person too when the going gets rough or when they make a mistake?
I understand and appreciate that some problems can leave you no option but to flee. However, let us face it, most people flee for the slightest reason.
Let’s look again at Will Smith and Jada…after holding a marriage together for 15 years with children whose lives you have both nurtured on good paths in Hollywood of all monstrous places, a powerhouse partner, amazing careers and rewards and then you walk out? To find who and what?
Don’t tell me all that does not matter! Is there a better person out there waiting for you when you walk out of a marriage that can be mended? Or is the mission to live alone? Well, perhaps they will find more happiness apart than together.
Just maybe but in my opinion, when a marriage/relationship encounters crisis, I say, MEND it, don’t END it.
Why do you think many modern marriages break down and under what circumstance should a person be allowed to bail out of a marriage?
Anytime u hear of such stories,the only thing I ask myself is”wat went wrong”?
Pls point of correction Will and JAda are very much together. They aint seperated.
@Queenie, Sorry madam, you’ve been late with the news then…
http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/smith-jada-pinkett-smith-trial-2654543
http://perezhilton.com/2013-10-29-will-smith-jada-pinkett-smith-living-separately-rumors-trial-separation-divorce
http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/10/29/will-smith-jada-pinkett-smith-trial-separation-report/
http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/10/29/will-smith-jada-pinkett-smith-trial-separation-report/
@Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri, Honestly hollywood marriages cannot be compared to ordinary folks marriage, hollywood marriage is a lot of things and love aint one of them, i give them props though cos 15yrs of marriage in hollywood is like 50yrs of marriage to them.Ordinary folks are getting married becos she thinks all her friends are married or shes getting old or feels ashamed to be single hence all the divorces going on. They are getting married for the wrong reason and we all know marriage is not a joke it takes a lot of work to keep it together.
hmn Chris lemme read and get back to u. Am on Jada´s page on fb and from her writings and pictures it shows her marriage is well in tact. plus i recedently saw them at Ophrah winfrey show.
when jada got that wonderful haircut, I knew there was trouble. she is trying too hard to stay lean and young. now looks like a 14 year old boy. but I like the two of them. they should work it out.
Thks for the links Chris, atleast now i will pay more attention to what she post on fb. And if this is what she is going thru then i must commend her as a strong woman. I love Ghana Celebrities, One gets to know alot from ur blog. Plus thks for the many post on h´Herty Borngreat. I think she is cool. I like her gospel. A woman full of energy. Kip the good work up Chris Vincent.
You are welcome! We are all here to share what we know, our experiences or have come across…No one knows it all!
Because they think there is more better things out there but they have on idea how bad the world can be, if there is a chanse that you can save your marriage and you don’t. There should be no regrets after you left your marriage.