How many marriages break up due to the infidelity of one or the other? Many. Too many in fact.So my stance is simple and logical and devoid of unnecessary emotional clout.

When you cheat on your partner, perhaps the first time, keep it to yourself.

Most people tell because they are tired of carrying the guilt. If your conscience pushes you to tell, I think it is selfish of you. What you are doing is transferring your guilt and giving your partner unnecessary hurt over something you may never do again and your partner may likely never trust you again, cheat too or leave the relationship/marriage.

Was that the outcome you were hoping for? I doubt so. More importantly, relationship experts agree it is not necessary to tell your spouse.

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, an 85 year old relationship guru said “Piece of advice for spouses who have strayed, keep your mouth shut!”

She said she doesn’t believe in opening up and telling everything. But if you think you cannot keep hiding it, talk to a therapist! Especially if the affair you had is long over, why put your marriage or relationship through that difficulty which it might not even stand and break up over something that has ceased to matter already.

She said this during an interview with Redbook on sex, dating sites and infidelity. And if your marriage or relationship stands to benefit nothing from telling the truth, why are you telling?

Another expert Doctor Scott Haltzman agress with her. Some things which are past should be left in the past and not brought up to rock the boat, he said…

Exactly my sentiments… Now what do you think. Especially ladies, if you cheated in the past and your man doesn’t know, why bring it up to cause unnecessary trouble? Keep your mouth shut.