Why Do Some Men Think Ladies Are Interested In Them Because Of Their ‘Non-existent’ Money

Is it not both funny as well as annoying when you hear a guy say ‘I’m looking for a woman who will love me for me, but not for my money’ and this particular guy don’t even have that kind of ‘wealth’ for a lady to even chase/be interested in? The manner in which men loosely tag ladies materialistic is not very fair. A guy is qualified to call a woman a ‘gold digger’ or ‘materialistic’ if he is truly ‘loaded’ (I’m not calling anyone poor). If you have a gold mine, you’re very qualified to call ladies gold diggers because you have the gold to be dug (but some ladies are not even interested in that gold).

Men know that money is sometimes/often a factor on the dating circuit. They want to be genuinely loved for who they’re. It is understandable that they don’t want to be taken advantage of financially, but it is not fair to think every lady is after a man because of what she can get from him. Some have this warp mentality that ladies of nowadays are looking for a man to provide for their needs. In many cases, women asking about the lifestyle of a guy are simply making casual conversation and sincerely trying to get to know their men better.

If a woman happens to ask a few wrong questions inadvertently, the gold digger label will be slapped on her fast by faulty, knee-jerk assumptions but  some of these supposed ‘little princesses’ aren’t really screening men if they’re capable of building castles in the air for them. Some of these guys also make their assumptions based on general ‘tagging’ or due to past bad relationships they’ve been through where a lady cleaned him out completely because ‘he was in love’ or he thought his heartthrob loved him so much…

It is good and very right to search for a woman who will love you for you but not what you can give her. But if at the sound of ‘what do you do for a living’, and the brain start thinking ‘she’s interested in my money’ (non-existent money), you’re just stingy. A lady after your money can be noticed even if they start on a very subtle note. They’re usually more into the vain stuff and they dig where there is gold not silver.

….For the record, sometimes a lady asks what a man do for a living not because she expects him to take care of her needs but she is also on the lookout to avoid the cases of ‘babe, can you loan me….’, ‘babe, can you top my…’ Anyway, it feels good for one to think he is rich but have the qualification (cash) before you confer the title or worry about a woman being interested in you because of your money.….