Over the years, I’ve dealt with several African celebrities who put up smiles for the camera—and when the lights are off and they are found lone ranging in their beds, hard reality hits them, mostly struggling to cope with the same status we so much adore them for…
The above conundrum which runs through the minds of most African celebrities does not just rests with them at night, but daily, they ‘nicodemously’ struggle to cope with the expectations of being a celebrity—and to many, it sucks…
When the lights are on and the red carpets have been placed like a life fixture with countless people waving to just one person, there’s nothing glamorous and spectacular one can imagine more than this—especially when at that moment, you’ve been dressed with fine and expensive garments.
But the truth behind genuine smiles cannot be measured when the cameras have been fixed, demanding that smiles should be forced through—a life most celebrities live on screen, which many people have bought into as the true pictorial extension of the status they’ve obtained.
If things were this great as many have been made to believed, celebrities and I mean those with limitless fame, contacts and wealth so huge that they miss the broke days—would not need all sort of drugs, cults and unhealthy relationships just to be happy and smile when the cameras are long gone.
In our fast developing pop-culture, our celebrities have their unending struggles, problems and headaches, which mostly spring from the very status they seemingly hold close to their hearts and enjoy.
From my course of dealings with some of our top African celebrities, I’ve decided to put together the behind the veil problems that grant them sleepless nights, when most of us are snoring away in our calm and uninteresting lives.
True Friendship is Non-Existing For Most of These Celebrities
Personally, I do not have a lot of friends as I prefer to maintain acquaintances rather, but I still have two or three friends I can blow their phones at anytime and share my deepest thoughts and secrets with, without being judged or being worried about seeing my secrets on the blogs.
The value of friendship is not measured by the material things one can obtain, but having someone watch your back and be truthful —is the true meaning of friendship.
And most celebrities including our African ones lack this pure experience of truth and genuine feelings. It is clear in what they even wear—sometimes. Don’t we all ask, do they really have friends to be walking about like that?
They can’t call anyone a friend, no matter how hard they try because there is a lot they care to protect—and this definitely sucks!
They Can’t Wear Anything Twice Even if they Can’t Afford New Ones
Affordability when it comes to what celebrities wear is not much of a problem with Western celebrities—because they can even get a lot for free. But when it comes to our African celebrities, staying in the limelight can break the bank, especially when you are underpaid or have no job.
And the Showbiz convention that a celebrity cannot wear anything twice is killing most of our African celebrities to the extent that, some have to skip events and appearances because even though they can afford the time, they can’t afford to buy a new set of items when a lot are hanging in their wardrobes…
It may seem glamorous anytime you see an African celebrity out and about wearing something well put together and new, but the truth is; it sucks so much for them.
Most Don’t Know What is ‘Faking’ & Real Anymore
In the world of celebrities, there is nothing like true behaviour and being yourself—since most of these people have to pretend and fake everything, including giggles.
Over the years, the constant fusing of illusion/fake with reality takes a hit at these celebrities and they begin to buy into the delusion. In fact, what seems obviously fake to you will begin to sound so real to them, because that is what they’ve been doing all the time.
It is easier for a long standing celebrity to throw out lies than ordinary people, because lies literally form the crust of their existence.
After many years of faking everything, they actually begin to buy into these ‘faking’ to the extent that they all seem real—confusing reality with pretence.
You Never Know What People Genuinely Think of You
How would you feel if you don’t actually have an idea why someone is around you or if your best friend likes what you said or did? Our fine looking African celebrities are always in a constant comma when it comes to knowing the depth of things and what people genuinely think about them, especially those close to them.
Increasingly, people throw smiles and extensive glorification at them for their works, which can plunge you into jealousy. But the fact is; people don’t actually tell these celebrities the truth and while they are carefully pretending, those around them get busy trying to please their egos with lies—and behind them, the truth goes wild.
What sort of world do you think these people live in when people constantly have to look into their eyes and lie to them? If their performance in a movie is bad, they are told it is great and if their song is a mess, those close to them have to say; that is the greatest song out there…
It surely must suck!
Loneliness is Slowly Killing Many of Them
You can be in a stadium full of people and still feel lonely—and that correctly mirrors the lives of most African Celebrities.
When no one is ready to hold deep connecting conversation with your soul and has your true interest at heart, no matter the number of people around you, you will still feel lonely in this big world.
Some of our African celebrities are gradually speaking out about the dark world of loneliness they live in—even when the sun is bright out there. Mostly, it is the vacuum in the minds and hearts of these celebrities that drive them to drugs, sleep recklessly around with the highest bidder, hold unhealthy relationships and join cults.
It must suck that there are billions of people in this world, yet you will feel so lonely that you will spend majority of your nights staring at the ceiling and soaking your pillows with tears of loneliness.
Honestly, when the lights are on, being an African Celebrity looks perfectly gorgeous but it sucks, especially when there is no answer to these daily problems…