Dear GC Readers,
My sex life with my partner of 3 years has hit the rocks as I cannot give to his recent demands. For the past 4 months, we have slept by each other’s side in the same bed as enemies without even cuddling or holding each other.
Things were great and we did a lot together to spice our in bed time. He returned from a holiday in Ghana about 6 months ago and a request I thought he was joking about has become so important to him that, it seems he is not ready to even touch me until I say yes.
He asked me few days after he came from Ghana if I have ever tried it in my other hole and I said, oh no, that is disgusting and unnatural. He asked that we should one day try it which I thought he was joking.
From then, he started bothering me with this anytime we make love, saying, it won’t hurt and I will enjoy it even more than where we do it.
I do not want to do this as I find it unacceptable, unnatural and also I am really scared. I have heard a lot of nasty things about people who do it at the back hole.
Since I have not agreed to my boyfriend’s demand, he has become so cold towards me in bed and for more than 4 months now, he has not even held me intimately, let alone kiss me.
I love him and this is killing me but I cannot bring myself to giving him this. I am ready to do everything for him but I cannot see myself doing this. I am so confused as to what to do. Please advise me on what a sister should do at this stage.
Thank You.
From: A. Asiedu / NY-USA
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looooool….oki this is serious….if you dont like to try that whole then let him go….he can go and find someone else whos willing to use that hole….tweaaa…..if he forces it on you then you should report a rape case….
poster are you sure he didn’t cheat on you with another woman or man when he went to ghana? it’s a bit strange to demand that from you as soon as he returned from Ghana. Just be careful and don’t give in to him if you don’t want to. he’s being selfish here.
Totally agree with you
Remember he is just a boyfriend and not a husband…. Keep that in mind. You’re not a genie (making people’s wishes coming true). Be strong, stay true to yourself…..you are a NYer.
Love this
If he hadn’t seen the first ”hole” he probably would’nt have thought about the other one..
He fucked somebody in de shit hole in ghana and it was soo good. Lemme tell u something someone told me. I was home minding my business and she called. She is an RN. She said don’t ever do it on de back door I have a 35 yr old who is admitted (don’t know diagnosis: HIPPA). Anyway she told me dis lady has been leaking nasty fluids from back there and she has to wear diapers. The hole over there is so huge and disgusting. God is not foolish. He created de front for enjoyment and de back to excrete waste. Don’t be dumb. When he leave ur ass for another girl dat will mess u up. DON’T DO IT, IT AIN’T WORTH IT.
That daammn hippa regulations tho lol….but yup ur friend is right, been around these patients to see enough of that. Very nasty
Am agree with u don’t do it
Next time learn to type without using the F word. We are adult you could have typed using a simple and decent word. Is not too late go back to edit please.
move along bitch
girl, your guy has just become bisexual. those are the signs of the bisexuals. cuz a hole is a hole whether a woman’s or man’s. Run far from him. You don’t need to compromise upon your dignity for a boyfriend. not worth it kraa
Girlfriend run while u can. Because first of, there’s no doubt he cheated on u while in gh. With whomever he did it with, u don’t know but be cautious. In fact insist on both of u getting tested for any kind of std before he can enter the correct hole when he’s done with his selfishness lol. Daammn Africa is getting worst than the west meehn. The thing about Africa is, we abuse anything western (lifestyle). We treat western lifestyles like a trend just to prove we can do it too but we tend to over do it, making us look stupid and ridiculous and oh sooo fake. Exactly why I say homosexuality shouldn’t be encouraged in our parts of this world, cos people will die like crazy. Even the west who have put a stamp on that lifestyle are dealing with more and more STDs/hiv cases resulting in deaths, how much more Africa? Run baby run while u can.
In fact she needs to demand for an std test sharp sharp before she even bothers to talk about that with him. Very soon he will be demanding they go to a secs toy shop to buy hole toy or srrap on to use on him lol. Our generation have become something else mtchewww
This so called boga’s well go to Africa and come back and treat their wife / girl friends like trash i wonder what they give to them back there
Sakawa
I was having the same issue but i never give it in..Though we’v been married for ten years now but i made it clear to him that i can not do it
HAHAHAHA THE GUY HAS SEEN THE LIGHT WHEN HE WAS IN GH. SOMEONE OPENED THE OTHER DOOR (HOLE) FOR HIM.
COME TO THINK OF IT A GUY WHO TRULY LOVES YOU WILL NOT BEHAVE LIKE THIS TOWARDS YOU FOR NOT DOING WHATS AGAINST YOUR WILL.
HE’S JUST LOOKING FOR AN AVENUE TO KICK YOU OUT OF HIS LIFE.
WHEN IT DSNT WORK OUT BETWEEN YOU TWO LET THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW HE WANTED TO DO YOU FROM THE BACK AND YOU REFUSED. HIS REASON FOR GETTING COLD TOWARDS YOU IS SO WEAK ! HES SUCH A LOSER, LET HIM GO IF HE WANTS TO.
MAYBE HES GAY…..
When these guys come down you should see how these desperate ones jumps at them. I feel so sad for their lives. Some will even go around them when they see a ring on their finger. Our ladies in Ghana are too much, the men always comes down with an intension to have fun. Just last week a neighbors daughter forced her self on some bogga bi just because of some small euros.
Definitely a reason for both of you to get tested (I would if my man all of a sudden wants to go through the back-door)….a bit weird that he has these requests after returning from Ghana. He may not be sure of himself…sexual identity crisis! Communication is everything….Talk to your man, butter him up and the truth shall set the both of you free!!!
I believe he cheated on you when he went to Ghana hence his sudden like to trying the other. Let him not persuade you into trying something you might regret in the near future and besides you guys are not married YET. Girl cuddos to you for standing your ground alot of girls would have succumbed for fear they may lose their man. and please don’t have sex with him until you are 100% sure that he’s STD free. If he don’t touch you within a couple of weeks ya gotta have a conversation otherwise let him go.
damp his a** in a stinking trash can… really is he serious?? guess he doesnt love u based on d fact tht he isnt showing any signs of intimacy until u accept his “modest” proposal..
If u truly love somebody u will do anything to make them understand how SPECIAL they are to u. But not request such a disgusting thing of such nature. It’s obvious he doesn’t love u. He only want u for sex. If he’s mad bcos u refused to deminish your pride, then he totally disrespect u! Don’t let any son of man treat you like that. He not the one. The ryt one is wIting for u at the door. Good luck?
I meant you will do anything positive. Don’t keep staying in the wrong hands bcoz of money for money can’t buy what u are worth. If only u understand that.
Wow, really? Girl, I think u shd run very far from him before it gets nasty
Girl you need to know once you give in to him he will want that all the time. Be strong and stay true to yourself. If he continues giving you the cold shoulder leave him. .
if u want to end up wearing incontinent pad for the rest of your life then plz go ahead and do it.
NO MARRIAGE NO SEX medaase in Akumaa Mama Zimbi’s voice and plus doing it from the behind is so disgusting which comes with many complications in the near future. wise up plz.
what is hell is wrong with this guy. maybe he should have a guy fuck his hole then he would see how it feels like. Forget him dear and move on with your life.
i’v never contributed on this page but today i think i will add my voice. My dear sis. kindly run as far as ur legs can take u just as our friends here are saying. He doen’t love u as u do cos if he does, he wouldn’t go contrary to ur morals. my ex wanted to try on me but when i refused he told me he was no longer enjoying from front so by me refusing, he will go out and do with those who are willing to. My dear, believe me i broke up with him. Please stand by ur morals and who knows God is preparing someone better for u. Stay bless
Plz run fast b4 u start wearing pampers……hahahahaha