Dear men, there are some (a whole of) things you say and do which you must really stop. Just a few of them:
Quoting Isaiah 4:1 (In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!): I sometimes agree to disagree that there’s scarcity of good men/men who’ll make good husbands but that does not mean any man (especially one searching for a wife since the days of John the Baptist) should take a swipe at mature singles by quoting them the above verse when in their own words ‘she’s playing hard to get’. This man is trying to get one wife thoughtless of 6 ‘holding’ him to bear his name. If your name is not listed on the London Stock Exchange, NYSE or even on the Ghana Stock Exchange, your name is not that valuable sir – allow mature singles to breathe.
‘Women are gold-diggers’: It’s not everybody (man or woman) who is qualified to call people gold-diggers. Some of these men don’t have money but they call ladies gold-diggers at the drop of a hat. ‘Women are after me because of money’ – Mr Man, what and which money?
A man ‘surviving’ on wages/salary feels very rich when he’s paid. Take out his rent (not even mortgage), utility bills and he’s actually left with ‘nothing’ (that’s the economic situation now). Two weeks after payday, he’s already broke. Another ‘person’ actually feeds him (Banks credit card) until payday and this man is calling someone a gold-digger? Which gold from which mine? Buy one designer outfit and be feeling cool with an empty pocket. Coins make noise not paper money and women don’t dig where there’s no cold. If I want to eat a toad, I’ll eat a juicy and fat one!
Women hide their dirty past under the cloak of religion: I do agree women join the ushering department in church to meet that ‘god-fearing’ man but it doesn’t mean she’s got a dirty past. Men also go to church and join the choir when they’re searching so…what is the big deal?
‘If you want to see how beautiful a woman is, wake her up early in the morning’: Do you need to see my face early in the morning to see how pretty or ugly I am? You’re not waking me up for ‘early morning energiser’ but to see how I look in the morning – that’s creepy. Didn’t you see the face before showing interest?
Threats to walk out of relationships: Some men think they are doing women a favour by marrying or having them as girlfriends and they use that ‘opportunity’ to always threaten the women of walking if they don’t stop doing this or that. People who really want to bounce out of relationships don’t use threats – they do. If you threaten once, twice, thrice and you’re still there – she won’t take you serious or she’ll do the walking since you’re not ready to walk. Threats don’t/won’t change anything so stop it.
A woman’s selling point is….: Selling point? What am I selling? I’m not hawking fruit on the market, not a marketer scouting for customers for a company neither do I own a shop on Oxford Street so what is the meaning of where/what is my selling point? If a man maybe in the past had encountered ladies who rely on their assets as their selling point, what about those who are not using ‘those assets’ to market anything? Women are not selling anything (maybe the girls are). If I’m supposed to be selling something – the pair of pimples on my chest; you wanna buy?
It’s not EVERY lady that ‘at the mention of marriage/shopping/outing/restaurant/small cash/treats her knee will bow and her tongue shall confess that you are the man.’ Some have ‘seen’ and enjoyed all of that both old money and new money.
I’ll balance the equation soon – I always do!