A Letter to My Future Wife…Nana Yaa

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Dear Nana Yaa,

I know you are wondering why I am writing this letter to you. You may be wondering why I shouldn’t just wait to say it to your face. But don’t worry, I hope this will explain better to you.

Where do I even begin?

Nana, as I will affectionately call you, I want you to understand that I have been thinking about you and i and what we can do together. I know this might sound weird to think about something that I don’t have. The point is, I have always been jealous of my father from the time I got to understand what love is and what it means to be loved. It’s all because of how my mother treated him. She made him feel like he is her entire world and if there should be a divorce that will be the end of her life. She would wash his clothes, cook for him, tolerate him, lay his bed and also satisfy him at night as well. She did all these with tender love and care, like a sheep led to the slaughter house, she never bleated. I know some will say all these are old fashioned but is me I am old fashioned guy. Some will even see my father as domineering. But from where I come from that is how women loved and treated their husbands.

I want you to understand in advance that I am not perfect. I am prone to make mistakes that may leave you scratching your head; I did the same thing to my mother as a baby. In all these, treat me like a new born baby sucking at the breast of his mother. I want you to know that I will always do the best I can for us.

I becoming a better husband is based on several things. Don’t lock me out emotionally when you are faced with things you think I may not understand. Allow our home to be a haven, a place of rest and refuge. I pray you have faith in me even when things don’t seem right for you. Believe that with the two of us combining our inherent powers, we can conquer anything this world will throw at us. Trust me even if you have had it difficult trusting men from your past.

My future Queen, I don’t want you to be perfect, a thought which I know would be impossible. I do not intend to marry you because you are faultless. I totally understand that you are human, not an angel, you may make mistakes, and that is the main reason why I want to marry you.

I am marrying you because you are everything I want and need in a future wife. I am marrying you because you are not perfect for me. I am marrying you because it’s only you who can treat me like how my mother treated my father.

Nana Yaa, our love will know no bounds. It will trickle down to our kids like how smaller rivers rush into the sea. Our children will know how to love because they will see it in us every day. I will carry you from the bed every morning to the washroom, kiss you at every opportunity I get and also dance with you in front of our kids (jokingly)

I hope you are preparing yourself for the journey we will be embarking on. I don’t want you to bring trophies from your past relationship where the guy disappointed you and broke your heart. I am not like him, and I don’t want to feel like I will pay for his transgressions. Those happenings had to happen to bring you to me and me to you.

Nana, as I end my letter, I want you to know that I can’t promise you that our relationship won’t have its challenges. It will be disingenuous for me to suggest otherwise. But what I can promise is that our lives together will be filled with more smiles than frowns, happy cries than sad ones, joy than pain and more accomplishments than failure as long as you will be with me. Never forget that I carry you in my heart long before you will become my future wife.

I pray you will be the mum i had when growing up and the kind of wife my mother was to my father.

Submitted By: Kofi Oppong Asamoah