A lot of people do this but not every has the gut to accept they do it or have done it in the past. For me, I am putting it out there that I’ve done this more than twice and so have many of my friends. Though it is an obvious mistake we all make in relationships, the alternative seems pretty impossible and therefore let’s discuss this in truth.
There are countless sexual transmission diseases out there and for women like me, we’ve even gotten an extra worry beyond contracting STDs when you meet a new man—and I am talking about pregnancy.
The truth is, some women worry about getting pregnant more than the tendency to contract STDs when they meet a new man—especially in the moment of “extreme h*rnyness”. I am not saying that is right but that is what happens especially if you so much want the man and you so much wants to be laid.
I am a level headed woman who is likely not to trust a man the moment we start dating or start f*cking each other at the beginning of a relationship or friendship. Most of my friends also start on this note as the fear of contracting one of the numerous STDs is finely tuned at this stage.
So for the guys I’ve dated and I mean those who are able to move from the early stage to become long term partners, I start or insist on condoms—and pride myself with the slogan, if it is not on, it is not in.
I remember dating a guy who did not like condoms and that made sex an occasional adventure because there was no way I was going to let someone screw me without any protection when I barely know this person.
In fact most reasonable people will not attempt sleeping with a man or woman they’ve just met or know little about without a protection. That is some sort of default expectation or position.
But this is where it gets tricky and scary—yet many of us do it even though we may claim to be level headed and careful about our sexual health. I’ve caught myself doing it several times and as I stated, many of my friends have confessed having done it too.
After being with a person for more than 6 months and having used multiple condoms—the moment things get serious and you are certain that this person really loves you or wants to be with you, for some weird reason, the condom comes off.
What I do not understand and cannot bring my head around to evaluate is the fact that, somehow we plug into this assumption which weakens the risk level of contracting any sort of disease from the person. He or she is mine and I know the person well, so the condom coming off permanently or occasionally does not bother us anymore.
If we were worried about contracting some STDs in the beginning and let’s say in fact the person had any, has the STD suddenly disappeared by the simple virtue that we are now serious with the person or we are deeply in a loving relationship? The answer is NO and yet we all seem to do this…